s/o Who does the money in your house - DW or DH?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:me, the dw. I am a SAHM, and manage everything, including managing money. And spending it. And investing it. And figuring out and scheduling home improvements or renovations. Getting cars repaired. Everything child-related, everything social-schedule-related, home maintenance, groceries, cooking... I'm starting to think I need DH to step up on a few of these things so I can go back to school and find a job.

Lol. I do everything you listed. But I work full time. I need my husband to step it up also so I can have a life.

Note: not starting any SAHM vs WOHM wars here. It just resonated with me that I am handling all that and a bag of chips while my husband just does his 9-5.

I'm that PP and forgot I'd even posted on this thread. But I appreciate the non-antagonistic tone! I think the sahm vs wohm wars are ridiculous and the aggressors on both sides are coming from a place of their own insecurity. But it's true that the fact that I can't see my husband stepping up on any of these things is something that keeps me from putting more energy into getting back into the workforce. If the things I now do were my husband's responsibility, we just wouldn't have a social life (he'd prefer that anyway), and the kids wouldn't play extracurricular sports or have parties unless they organized it themselves. He sees cooking as a waste of time. The only thing he'd take over and do with energy is the finances, actually. But then he'd bug me about the cost of everything. He's frugal. He sees routine car maintenance as a waste of money (whereas I was raised to think it saves money in the long run.) And I'm not up for the stress of full time work plus being in charge of everything else single-handedly. I really don't know how single working parents do it.

[Anonymous]

I (husband) earn it, invest it, and plan for all the big stuff. Wife takes care of bills and day to day expenses. But she doesn't know what we are investing in, or how much we actually have. I'm more sophisticated in finances, and her involvement would be a pita.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:me, the dw. I am a SAHM, and manage everything, including managing money. And spending it. And investing it. And figuring out and scheduling home improvements or renovations. Getting cars repaired. Everything child-related, everything social-schedule-related, home maintenance, groceries, cooking... I'm starting to think I need DH to step up on a few of these things so I can go back to school and find a job.

Ha, don't think a job will change things, because it likely won't. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Me, DW.

Husband is a great father and husband but if I didn't manage the money, it wouldn't get done. He has no clue what our bills are.