Anyone get married at 23? Or around that age?
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How old were you when you got married? 20
How old was your spouse? 22 How old are you now? 35 Are you still married? If not, how long were you married? still married Do you feel you were mature enough for marriage at that age? probably not but we seemed to make it work. Do you regret marrying at that age? not at all. in fact, i love that DH and I have been able to "grow up" together and spend so much of our lives together. We waited 10 years to have kids and I feel like we really got time to enjoy each other before we had them. What did your family think about it? My parents were surprised -- we're not religious or conservative and they never thought they'd have a daughter get married while still in college. They were in their early 30s when they were married. my inlaws were surprised and my MIL was I think a little disapproving but I think it had more to do with the concept of anybody marrying her baby boy at all, not our specific situation. However they were all quickly on board and gave us a lot of support (emotional and yes financial) in the early years and we are one big happy family 15 years on. |
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How old were you when you got married? 23
How old was your spouse? 28 How old are you now? 39 Are you still married? If not, how long were you married? Yes we are still married. Do you feel you were mature enough for marriage at that age? Yes Do you regret marrying at that age? No. I regret the man I married, but not the age. What did your family think about it? I think my parents thought I was a little young, but I also think they were glad I had at least graduated college. I had actually been engaged before (at 18) and they were not happy about that. Thankfully, that relationship ended before we married. |
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I was 23 when I got married. My spouse was 29. I am now 45. We are still married. Yes, I was mature enough. We'd dated for four years and known each other for five-and-a-half years. I do not regret marrying; to the contrary, I'm pleased, because I had fertility problems and needed time and meds to conceive. My family was pleased. My parents were married at age 20ish and have been happy together for nearly 56 years. My sister was married at age 19 and just celebrated her 34th anniversary. We are all extremely close. FWIW, we are all successful, college-educated professionals. My husband and I have four children; the youngest is nearly 17. |
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How old were you when you got married? 24 How old was your spouse? 25 How old are you now? 49 Are you still married? If not, how long were you married? Still married Do you feel you were mature enough for marriage at that age? Yes Do you regret marrying at that age? Not really What did your family think about it? No concerns I do think it would have been fun to live longer as a single person. OTOH, I have no regrets about who I married, so it's hard to really wish things had gone differently. A same-aged cousin (still married) and a close family friend (now divorced) both married the same year I did, so marrying at 24 hardly seemed unusual to my family. |
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How old were you when you got married? 22 How old was your spouse? 23 How old are you now? 40 Are you still married? If not, how long were you married? yes Do you feel you were mature enough for marriage at that age? yes Do you regret marrying at that age? nope What did your family think about it? they were fine with it |
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+1 I made a supremely good choice, though I was only 20 when I met DH. But honestly, I always had good taste in men. 
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+2 and will love to have grandkids in my late 50s if it turns out that way. I cannot even fathom what it would be like right now to have small children or even toddlers and then sending my kids to college when I'm rounding 60. |
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How old were you when you got married? 24
How old was your spouse? 24 How old are you now? 27 and 27 Are you still married? If not, how long were you married? Yes, coming on three years Do you feel you were mature enough for marriage at that age? Of course--why would I have gotten married otherwise? Do you regret marrying at that age? Not so far. Check back with me in a decade. What did your family think about it? They were supportive, although no one expected me to get married so young, because I was one of the first to get married amongst my high school and college cohort (I grew up in high SES suburb of a major city). DH's family didn't find it weird at all because he grew up in a very religious family in the rural South. We just felt like it was the right thing to do at the time and went for it, regardless of what other people's expectations were. It was good for logistical reasons (he could get on my health insurance when he was paid through a grant that didn't provide health insurance). It also gave us more weight navigating two careers than if we had been boyfriend and girlfriend when relocating for work. We don't have kids yet (although I lurk on this site because we are thinking about it--not ready to take the plunge yet) and feel like there is no rush. |
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I had so much adventurous sex in late high school and college that I didn't feel like I was missing much getting married at 24, to be honest. I had had multiple boyfriends prior to DH, as well as one night stands, weird nebulous fuck buddy relationships, hookups, explorations in kink, hooking up online, and I slept with a woman once. I was pretty safe (always used protection) and luckily never got any STDs, and by my early 20s I was pretty ready for monogamy and to stop fucking around. If monogamy gets boring, DH and I may revisit the notion of opening things up in the future or having an occasional threesome, but so far monogamy works for us, and it hasn't been something either of us desires to explore. |
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Married at 23
Husband was 23 Still married 20 years later. Very happy. Glad I married young. My parents were supportive, his thought we were too young and tried to derail the wedding. The relationship between me and his parents was damaged forever, though we do spend time together now and don't bring up the past. They disowned him financially, not that they were still giving him much, it was to make a point, but we both did fine, went to graduate school, had a few kids after we graduated, and are both successful and happy working professionals. We were mature at 23 and totally capable of committing to one another at that age. |
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It would be a different experience than the one you have had with different pros and cons. I'm a young parent but nothing bugs me more than smug responses where people put down choices other than their own. To me, it smacks of insecurity. |
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PP--My own parents married at 22 or so. They made it to 50 yrs the yr my dad died. I was born when my parents were 45/42. My sister was 16yrs older than me and I really did not want to be an older parent. My parents started having health issues the yr I finished HS. They were early 60's at my graduation. I did not remember my own grandparents and I wanted my own kids to know my mom and dad. There is no way I would want an infant at this age. I admire the women that do it though. |
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They were fine with it. |
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26 32 Yes Yes No Supportive though they would have preferred us to wait a little while longer |