Accidentally hit on a married woman and husband was near and he flipped out

[Anonymous]

Don't.

You had no idea obviously.

Just a bad mix-up...Nothing else.

You did not a thing wrong so do not place any blame on yourself for this one.

The husband is the one who overreacted in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't.

You had no idea obviously.

Just a bad mix-up...Nothing else.

You did not a thing wrong so do not place any blame on yourself for this one.

The husband is the one who overreacted in my opinion.

OP didn't do anything wrong, but we don't know whether the husband overreacted. Maybe his wife is unfaithful.

[Anonymous]

Just go to the dang coffee shop. Don't change your routines because of this.

At least now you know eye contact can mean more than you bargained for!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't wear my wedding ring so no one would know if I were married or not.

When you approach a woman from now on ask if she's alone. FIRST.

I disagree. If you're out and not wearing a ring (or its concealed) and a guy approaches you, its on you to let him know you're not available. OP is so skittish he wants to avoid the coffee shop for a month. Now you want him to be even more tentative?

Fuck that guy. "Sorry, didn't know she was married" and move on.

Well, you don't apologize to the husband. You apologize to HER. "I'm sorry. I didn't know YOU were married." There's no apologizing to the husband in this scenario.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whoa! If I was that woman, I would be mad at my husband for creating a scene and embarrassing me.

Douchebag husband!

Don't worry, OP, you did nothing wrong.

Yes, exactly. I would expect my husband to trust that nothing was going on and/or I can handle the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't.

You had no idea obviously.

Just a bad mix-up...Nothing else.

You did not a thing wrong so do not place any blame on yourself for this one.

The husband is the one who overreacted in my opinion.

OP didn't do anything wrong, but we don't know whether the husband overreacted. Maybe his wife is unfaithful.

So what if she is, her husband should be discussing it with her, not some random person in a coffee shop. Unless husband had reason to suspect that this was his wife's affair partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't.

You had no idea obviously.

Just a bad mix-up...Nothing else.

You did not a thing wrong so do not place any blame on yourself for this one.

The husband is the one who overreacted in my opinion.

OP didn't do anything wrong, but we don't know whether the husband overreacted. Maybe his wife is unfaithful.

So what if she is, her husband should be discussing it with her, not some random person in a coffee shop. Unless husband had reason to suspect that this was his wife's affair partner?

Mate guarding. Some women find it sexy.

Not on point, but when I did a search for "mate guarding," I found this scientific literature:
http://www.sscnet.ucla.edu/comm/haselton/papers/downloads/haselton_gangestad.pdf

"Thirty-eight normally cycling women provided daily reports of sexual interests and feelings for 35 days. Near ovulation, both pair-bonded and
single women reported feeling more physically attractive and having greater interest in attending social gatherings where they might meet men.
Pair-bonded women who were near ovulation reported greater extra-pair flirtation and greater mate guarding by their primary partner. As
predicted, however, these effects were exhibited primarily by women who perceived their partners to be low on hypothesized good genes
indicators (low in sexual attractiveness relative to investment attractiveness). Ovulation-contingent increases in partner mate guarding were also
moderated by female physical attractiveness; midcycle increases in mate guarding were experienced primarily by less attractive women, whereas
more attractive women experienced relatively high levels of mate guarding throughout their cycle. These findings demonstrate ovulation-
contingent shifts in desires and behaviors that are sensitive to varying fitness payoffs, and they provide support for the good genes hypothesis of
human female extra-pair mating."

I wonder if the woman in the coffee shop was ovulating and found her husband's attractiveness to be a little disappointing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't.

You had no idea obviously.

Just a bad mix-up...Nothing else.

You did not a thing wrong so do not place any blame on yourself for this one.

The husband is the one who overreacted in my opinion.

OP didn't do anything wrong, but we don't know whether the husband overreacted. Maybe his wife is unfaithful.

It doesn't matter if he just found out his wife was a literal prostitute, the husband overreacted. Yelling at coffee shop guy was uncalled for- it's not like he grabbed her ass or even her arm.

[Anonymous]

Overreaction on DH's part.

[Anonymous]

I'm a bit over friendly and it has been misread once or twice. Once, shortly before my DH and I got engaged so I wasn't waearing a ring yet, someone flat out pripostioned me. I was pretty aghast (it was a bit vulgar) and my then bf thought the whole misunderstanding was pretty hysterical. He still teases me about it. Sounds like she didn't help clue you in and he WAY over reacted. Maybe she's looking!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't wear my wedding ring so no one would know if I were married or not.

When you approach a woman from now on ask if she's alone. FIRST.

No. That's gross.

Just talk to her like she's a real person rather than inquiring re. nailability. Unless you want to come off as a creeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't.

You had no idea obviously.

Just a bad mix-up...Nothing else.

You did not a thing wrong so do not place any blame on yourself for this one.

The husband is the one who overreacted in my opinion.

OP didn't do anything wrong, but we don't know whether the husband overreacted. Maybe his wife is unfaithful.

Even if she's throwing it sixteen ways to Sunday, she's not her husband's property, and thus he shouldn't throw tantrums in coffee shops if someone assumes she's a free agent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you got caught in one if there games.

She flirts.

You take the bait.

He acts all jealous/macho.

bingo!

[Anonymous]

All of a sudden everybody's all Eric Berne on this website.

[Anonymous]

http://www.ericberne.com/games-people-play/lets-you-and-him-fight/