Accidentally hit on a married woman and husband was near and he flipped out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You say "Sorry, I didn't realize she was married. You're a lucky man. Have a nice day."

And then you go on about your day. You did nothing wrong.

Quite frankly I didn't say anything that couldn't have been construed as 2 friends talking. The only reason I said something was because she kept looking at me and smiling. The worst part about this is I go to this coffee shop quite regularly and at about the same time so I see the same regulars. Now I have to avoid it for about a month or so. If I saw a ring my head would have snapped to the right so quickly and just moved on.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you imagined the attention from her, unless she was really feeling bold. Most women don't go to coffee shops to meet men, believe it or not. Especially not with their husband. I suggest you recalibrate your compass of "women expressing interest"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say "Sorry, I didn't realize she was married. You're a lucky man. Have a nice day."

And then you go on about your day. You did nothing wrong.

Quite frankly I didn't say anything that couldn't have been construed as 2 friends talking. The only reason I said something was because she kept looking at me and smiling. The worst part about this is I go to this coffee shop quite regularly and at about the same time so I see the same regulars. Now I have to avoid it for about a month or so. If I saw a ring my head would have snapped to the right so quickly and just moved on.

FFS man, just go back like nothing happened because you did nothing wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mental Note: Don't be nice to men when DH is in the vicinity.

Good wife. Be neutral.

[Anonymous]

Op, an at-the-ready-apology - to the husband too - needs to be as strong and forthcoming as your hello-introduction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you imagined the attention from her, unless she was really feeling bold. Most women don't go to coffee shops to meet men, believe it or not. Especially not with their husband. I suggest you recalibrate your compass of "women expressing interest"

It wasn't imagined. She may be creepily friendly, but she was smiling at me the whole time we talked, hand in hair etc. Then the guy who was on the other side of the shop bounds over like a crazed Doberman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, an at-the-ready-apology - to the husband too - needs to be as strong and forthcoming as your hello-introduction.

But nothing more than "sorry man, I didn't see she was married." The husband was either having a bad day, is a total douche, or both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say "Sorry, I didn't realize she was married. You're a lucky man. Have a nice day."

And then you go on about your day. You did nothing wrong.

Quite frankly I didn't say anything that couldn't have been construed as 2 friends talking. The only reason I said something was because she kept looking at me and smiling. The worst part about this is I go to this coffee shop quite regularly and at about the same time so I see the same regulars. Now I have to avoid it for about a month or so. If I saw a ring my head would have snapped to the right so quickly and just moved on.

You are right. A woman who is not flirting would have made her ring noticeable (we are really good at flashing it around when we are newly engaged so it can be done) and mentioned her husband/boyfriend/SO in a friendly way worked into the conversation.

[Anonymous]

"So are you ready for this snowstorm"
"Yes, luckily my husband bought a snowblower last time."
"Cool. He's a smart guy! Have a good one"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:was his name wolf or george?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You say "Sorry, I didn't realize she was married. You're a lucky man. Have a nice day."

And then you go on about your day. You did nothing wrong.

Quite frankly I didn't say anything that couldn't have been construed as 2 friends talking. The only reason I said something was because she kept looking at me and smiling. The worst part about this is I go to this coffee shop quite regularly and at about the same time so I see the same regulars. Now I have to avoid it for about a month or so. If I saw a ring my head would have snapped to the right so quickly and just moved on.

Don't feel bad, it happens. You did nothing wrong and there is no reason for you to avoid your coffee place.

[Anonymous]

I don't wear my wedding ring so no one would know if I were married or not.

When you approach a woman from now on ask if she's alone. FIRST.

[Anonymous]

The DH is probably used to it. I have a friend like that, she wouldn't get attention if she didn't flirt the way she does, she then complains about the creepy guys, her college kids and husband are fed up with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't wear my wedding ring so no one would know if I were married or not.

When you approach a woman from now on ask if she's alone. FIRST.

I disagree. If you're out and not wearing a ring (or its concealed) and a guy approaches you, its on you to let him know you're not available. OP is so skittish he wants to avoid the coffee shop for a month. Now you want him to be even more tentative?

Fuck that guy. "Sorry, didn't know she was married" and move on.

[Anonymous]

Whoa! If I was that woman, I would be mad at my husband for creating a scene and embarrassing me.

Douchebag husband!

Don't worry, OP, you did nothing wrong.