Would you tell a friend that her DH is talking about their sex life in a less than flattering manner

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"No I do not talk about my wife that way to my friends. Not that detailed/vulgar. But we have discussed if our wives have stopped putting out or their sex drive has increased. It lasts all of 2 minutes of discussion, then we move on."

If DH ever discusses me not putting out, or that my sex drive has increased, I'll spread the word that he has a pencil dick and E.D. All over town.

He thinks you already tell your friends.

Unlikely, he thinks he's hot stuff in the bedroom.

LOL

I can see it now. Telling his buddies: "Man I really give it to my wife. She can't get enough."

Wife to Friends: "ZZZZZZZZ......"

[Anonymous]

Lots of angry women here. Why is that? I thought sex was supposed to be fun.

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Nope. Don't you understand men yet? You strike me as one of the catty bitches I avoid. I hope it's MY DH or BF feeding your day to day local gossip.

[Anonymous]

I would tell her. You shouldn't be saying things if you know it would upset your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of angry women here. Why is that? I thought sex was supposed to be fun.

Sex fun. Demeaning women not so much.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell her. You shouldn't be saying things if you know it would upset your wife.

You are thinking about the friend, which is cool. Aren't you the least concerned about violating your DH's confidence? I am sure that OP's DH did not tell her that so she could run back and blab to the wife.

[Anonymous]

Saying that he 'plowed' her? Not the end of the world. Wouldn't be my choice of words, but he's not me.
Calling her 'trashy'? That's a clear insult and can't be misconstrued. That's totally inappropriate.
Should you tell? For me it's more about whether he is just speaking crudely or actually being insulting and disrespectful.

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Anonymous wrote:The husband is depending on the "group" to keep this secret at his wife's expense. I wonder if he knew he was going to exposed if he would act the same way.

Of course not.

That is why we have man code. If we talk about our wives/GFs, it does not get repeated. Pretty much common sense amongst men.

If OP's DH is sharing this info freely to his wife, he won't be golfing with the boys anymore. He might as well sign up to get his nails done with his DW and her friends. I know I wouldn't be inviting him around the guys anymore.

So do you talk that way about your wife? You sound like an ass.

My husband and I are best friends - he pretty much tells and shares all that kind of stuff with me. A lot of my friend's spouses do as well. The "bro-code" goes out the window when you get married you loser.

You are so naive.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell her. You shouldn't be saying things if you know it would upset your wife.

Just throw DH under the bus.

They are not divorcing over this, so what would be the point? She will get mad, they will make up, and your DH is odd man out.

[Anonymous]

If a DH puts it in writing - it is fare game. Serioulsy. The guy is an idiot and demeaning to woman. Who talks about their woman like that? And in a group context?

Tell her. She should be mad she married an asshole.

[Anonymous]

I would mention something. If it were my friend, I would tell her. I think she has a right to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a DH puts it in writing - it is fare game. Serioulsy. The guy is an idiot and demeaning to woman. Who talks about their woman like that? And in a group context?

Tell her. She should be mad she married an asshole.

Good idea. He will be ostracized from his group of friends. She will be the messenger, and we all know how well people take receiving info like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a DH puts it in writing - it is fare game. Serioulsy. The guy is an idiot and demeaning to woman. Who talks about their woman like that? And in a group context?

Tell her. She should be mad she married an asshole.

x2.

[Anonymous]

Also consider if you blab, whether your husband will share ANYTHING with you again.

Odds are, he shared it with a "ha-ha isn't this guy a jackass" context, not intending it to go beyond the two of you.

Your friend's not in immediate physical danger. If he's an active asshole I'm sure your friend already knows it. If he was just showing off to his buddies, then what good can possibly come of this?

[Anonymous]

OP here, my DH doesn't care if I say anything one way or another. His friends know he tells me most things and that he is not (nor never has been) a secret keeper. He has a lot of guy friends too.

He showed me the whole exchange. This guy also likes to talk about the other guys in the group (not in kind ways). This particular guy is newly married and I get the feeling he is slowly being weeded from the group for his trash talk (demeaning stuff regarding his wife, dumb comments regarding personal affairs of others, etc).