Would you tell a friend that her DH is talking about their sex life in a less than flattering manner

[Anonymous]

Her husband talks about her like she is a whore to my DH and the rest of the guys. (Calling her trashy, talking about "plowing" his wife, etc). I do not think that she knows that he sends group text messages along these lines out to the gang. Would you say something or just let it continue?

[Anonymous]

hell no. stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

If the primary relationship was with me and my friend - like she has been my best friend since first grade and we only know him through her, then I would. I don't think I would provide details, but I would let her know.

In all other circumstances, no, I would stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

You know - this is a no win. Kill the messenger if you say something......but how would you feel if everyone knew for a long time and hid that crap from you?

Maybe be a coward and send a blank note suggesting to discuss this with her husband.

The husband is a classless ass. It's not funny and he's using tir activities to entertain the masses. What's he get out of this show and tell?

[Anonymous]

I would want to know if my husband was such an ass. But you would probably get caught in the cross fire.

Who says such things about their wife? She married a gem. She should be looking at his text messages.

[Anonymous]

I would print out some of the emails, remove any way to trace our IDs, and mail them to my friend . Then act dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Her husband talks about her like she is a whore to my DH and the rest of the guys. (Calling her trashy, talking about "plowing" his wife, etc). I do not think that she knows that he sends group text messages along these lines out to the gang. Would you say something or just let it continue?

1. How do you know this? Snooping in your DH's text messages? Or is your DH that broke man code and tells his wife what the guys talk about?

2. It is none of your business.

3. Don't act like your friends don't talk trash about their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Yes, emphatically, if a close friend. Something along the lines of, "this might risk our friendship as I'll likely end up being the bad guy here, but I'Ve thought about it and I'd want to know," and then give her specifics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would print out some of the emails, remove any way to trace our IDs, and mail them to my friend . Then act dumb.

What emails?

You not real good at reading?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would want to know if my husband was such an ass. But you would probably get caught in the cross fire.

Who says such things about their wife? She married a gem. She should be looking at his text messages.

And if he looked at her text messages DCUM would say he is controlling, insecure, blah blah.

[Anonymous]

The husband is depending on the "group" to keep this secret at his wife's expense. I wonder if he knew he was going to exposed if he would act the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The husband is depending on the "group" to keep this secret at his wife's expense. I wonder if he knew he was going to exposed if he would act the same way.

Of course not.

That is why we have man code. If we talk about our wives/GFs, it does not get repeated. Pretty much common sense amongst men.

If OP's DH is sharing this info freely to his wife, he won't be golfing with the boys anymore. He might as well sign up to get his nails done with his DW and her friends. I know I wouldn't be inviting him around the guys anymore.

[Anonymous]

Don't say anything. The only person looking bad in this scenario is the douchebag husband who broadcasts this stuff. She doesn't need you to tell her this.

[Anonymous]

Your DH and the rest of the group should put a stop to that immaturity.
"Not cool, man, to talk about your wife like that - you chose her and it doesn't make you look good either."

Have the men speak up for a change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Your DH and the rest of the group should put a stop to that immaturity.
"Not cool, man, to talk about your wife like that - you chose her and it doesn't make you look good either."

Have the men speak up for a change.

+1

Either say something or at the very least don't give it the desired response.