He called me a bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little disturbed that your "quotes" of his texts have changed.

The first post was me trying to quite by memory. The second time I posted I quoted directly from his texts. You guys claim he is a narcassist but he far from my mother and she is a narcassist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here now. I get where everyone is coming from. Up until now he has never called me a bad name. I haven't replied back and I'm still on the fence if I will. It's upsetting because I am a relationship girl. I get attached and when I give my best, I give my all. I really do like him and he seems so perfect. He is everything I want in a guy ( besides the name calling) and he said " you are so perfect for me, or you are my perfect match".

I wasn't breaking up with as much as I was asking for a break and our relationship to slow down. He wanted to be exclusive very quickly and has already been asking about wedding rings and talking about us getting married and how he had a dream about our child would look. I want marriage and children but not for several years ( which he claims too). I told him I felt we needed to slow down and possibly take a breakup because we are moving too fast. That is when he got upset and started saying I was playing him. He knows me better than myself and I won't wait that long for marriage or kids ( ideally, 4-5 more years). I then told him that I was ending the relationship because he clearly wants those things before I do and I don't want to stand in the way of that. After pleading with me to not break up, I told him I had to think about things and left. He called immediately ( didn't answer) and then resorted to texting me a bunch of cute texts I had sent and pictures of us. He texted how hurt he was and he doesn't understand why I would waste his time and throw away a good thing. After sending a dozen texts and calling twice, he texts " You clearly were using me and wasted my time. We could've had a great life together but I am glad I learned now how much of a bitch you are. I dodged a bullet." Then he wrote me all today apologizing for calling me a bitch and blamed it on him being " hurt and angry".

OP, please read what happened to Kristy Flowers. Your boyfriend is sending up a lot of red flags!!! http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/crime/murder-suicide-in-arlington-shocks-relatives-who-considered-those-killed-the-perfect-couple/2014/12/09/d38d0917-90c9-40ea-914b-32b1c8119ff9_story.html

[Anonymous]

Oy, it sounds like you are going to have to live and learn, which is unfortunate in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little disturbed that your "quotes" of his texts have changed.

The first post was me trying to quite by memory. The second time I posted I quoted directly from his texts. You guys claim he is a narcassist but he far from my mother and she is a narcassist.

He's not a narcissist. He's manipulative an controlling. But it looks like you need to see more examples of this until you are ready to leave him. Such is life.

[Anonymous]

What's the update OP?