Need abortion. Don't know what to do.

[Anonymous]

I read somewhere more women in their late 30s/early 40s have abortions than you would expect. You are not the first to decide that a surprise baby at this stage would be a bad idea. It's not like you'll be there with a waiting room full of teenagers. There are others who have been in your shoes and the people at Planned Parenthood will be ready to receive you - whatever you decide

[Anonymous]

Just wanted to send you some love and a virtual hug, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to send you some love and a virtual hug, OP.

Same here OP. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

In the future use a condom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine that you will be happy with this decision in ten years. You spent five years arguing with your husband and essentially ended your marriage over your desire to have a baby. Now, after separating with your husband, you are pregnant. It seems strange to then give up the baby you actually get. Of course there would be challenges, but as your marriage has showed you, there are no guarantees even when you have planned responsibly.

I have no moral position on whether abortion is the right choice for you. My entire position is a reaction to the fact that you wanted a baby badly enough to break up your marriage. Now you have one.

Right, right, right, right, right. I couldn't agree more with this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the future use a condom.

Sometimes they break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine that you will be happy with this decision in ten years. You spent five years arguing with your husband and essentially ended your marriage over your desire to have a baby. Now, after separating with your husband, you are pregnant. It seems strange to then give up the baby you actually get. Of course there would be challenges, but as your marriage has showed you, there are no guarantees even when you have planned responsibly.

I have no moral position on whether abortion is the right choice for you. My entire position is a reaction to the fact that you wanted a baby badly enough to break up your marriage. Now you have one.

Right, right, right, right, right. I couldn't agree more with this post.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine that you will be happy with this decision in ten years. You spent five years arguing with your husband and essentially ended your marriage over your desire to have a baby. Now, after separating with your husband, you are pregnant. It seems strange to then give up the baby you actually get. Of course there would be challenges, but as your marriage has showed you, there are no guarantees even when you have planned responsibly.

I have no moral position on whether abortion is the right choice for you. My entire position is a reaction to the fact that you wanted a baby badly enough to break up your marriage. Now you have one.

Right, right, right, right, right. I couldn't agree more with this post.

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+2 Just about to post the same comment.

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering what those of you suggesting adoption think that will do to help the situation. If she goes that route, once the pregnancy becomes public knowledge her affair will be outed, and her child will be aware of mom having a baby and then getting rid of it. Once she goes through all of that, she might as well keep the baby because she'll have already caused the upset and strife she fears.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a good experience with this dr in DC. Good luck OP.



Santangelo Cesare MD

Directions

Doctor
Address: 1011 New Hampshire Avenue Northwest, W Washington, DC 20037

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Not sure what's with the emoticon. I didn't put that in there on purpose.

You put a colon next to an open parenthesis; it makes the emoticon for you.

Good luck and hugs, OP. You got this.

[Anonymous]

I think if you wanted a second baby - this is a surprise gift. Keep it. I wish I had. Every day I regret the abortion I had and wish I had had the courage to keep it. I went to Planned Parenthood, and they only gave me the abortion option...never even asked me if I had considered keeping it. If you go there then you've made the decision to abort your baby. Yes it's your choice, but couldn't you have it - possibly keep it or allow a childless family to joyfully raise him/her? You don't want a life of regrets - it still hurts years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think if you wanted a second baby - this is a surprise gift. Keep it. I wish I had. Every day I regret the abortion I had and wish I had had the courage to keep it. I went to Planned Parenthood, and they only gave me the abortion option...never even asked me if I had considered keeping it. If you go there then you've made the decision to abort your baby. Yes it's your choice, but couldn't you have it - possibly keep it or allow a childless family to joyfully raise him/her? You don't want a life of regrets - it still hurts years later.

There are regrets no matter what you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went to Potomac Family Planning last year. I was sad about the circumstances that brought me there in the first place. Once I left, I was not sad, just relieved. The clinic is in a part of the city I'd never been before, so it was an interesting social experience. The staff of the clinic was wonderful, well informed and kind. I had a really great conversation with the nurse who has been working there since they opened about the history of the clinic and her experiences there.

For what it's worth, PP, I read/have seen protesters outside the PP on 16th Street, which is why I decided to go somewhere else. I also found the costs at the PFP to be lower than at PP, in case that's a factor. It was $325 for the surgical and I think slightly more for the medical.

I just went to the PP last week during the workday and there were no protestors.

Op, thinking of you!

[Anonymous]

OP - You say that you know you are awful, but you're not awful at all. In fact, you are very brave.
I support you completely in your decision to have an abortion in this situation. Please don't feel bad.
Sending you lots of hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the baby is a gift from the universe. i think you should have it.

Is the universe also going to birth this baby? Feed and clothe it? House it? Provide daycare and a college fund?

Shut up. What a useless comment.

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