Need abortion. Don't know what to do.

[Anonymous]

I used planned parenthood on 16th St when I was in college back in 2001. They were good back then not sure about now.

[Anonymous]

You really have no other option, OP.

Shit happens, and it's ugly. You deal and move on the best way you can. For now, your daughter comes first.

[Anonymous]

the baby is a gift from the universe. i think you should have it.

[Anonymous]

My heartfelt thoughts are with you, OP.

I have a concern. To me, while your post title says you need an abortion, but when I read your post, it seems like you are not sold on the idea. I mean, you do ask for where to go, but also say often how much you wanted another child. Also, you give us all this background that is unnecessary for finding a good place for an abortion. That background includes your desires for another child, and worries that this is not the right situation for bringing another child into the world.

It makes me think, and I could be wrong, that maybe you feel you "should" abort because your life is chaotic and you don't want to start a child into that chaotic situation, but maybe you are looking for someone to say, it's ok to bring a child into this? So, like another PP, just want to say, hey, PP, if you decide to keep the baby, it's ok. Babies have been born into much worse, and there is never any ideal situation. You do what you want, not what you feel like you should do because you made a mistake. Hell, half the world's people are here by mistake.

And if I got that wrong, OP, and you've made up your mind, it's of no consequence and my thoughts go to your well-being.

[Anonymous]

Would you consider adoption? There are resources and support available to you and your daughter if you decide...

[Anonymous]

Highly recommend savethestorks.com

[Anonymous]

OP, please do not be so down on yourself.

Do not refer to yourself as "awful." That is not true at all.

You are thinking like a responsible and mature adult and parent here and are making a decision while considering many different and unique factors.

Many people do not realize how much thinking goes into such an important and life-changing decision, one that will affect you for the rest of your life. And no one, NO ONE has any right to judge you or your choices. No one.

I have had an abortion in my past, and while it is not something that I am proud of or go around bragging about, I know at the time I made the right choice.

It wasn't a snap decision and I considered many options before I chose this option for myself.

Being adopted as an infant, growing up w/out a true blood identity has always set me apart from everyone else and I just could never put another person through what I went through.

So for me, I chose to terminate.

Find a Planned Parenthood or Family Planning Clinic in your area. They are confidential and affordable.

You can elect an in-clinic abortion which is quicker and has less bleeding and recovery time or take the abortion pill which is more convenient and can be done in the comfort and privacy of your own home, but takes more time to recover and has more bleeding.

Hugs to you and please...No guilt.

This is a tough time and I know you are only doing what you think is the best thing for everyone involved right now.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I took the abortion pill at planned parenthood many years ago. It was eerily easy. Just make an appointment and show up. They'll do an ultrasound to confirm you're 5.5 weeks and that's that. I urge you to keep the baby because in my experience I had a lot lf regret and sadness for a long time but I know for some it's the right decision. Good luck.

What happened for you is not what happens with all women who abort, or even most. I had an abortion and it was like a huge weight lifted. I never felt a second of regret and had a couple of days of sadness, but it was mostly about the situation that led me to need an abortion and not aborting an unwanted fetus.

+1

[Anonymous]

I used planned parenthood in 2009 to get an abortion. The doctors and nurses were nice. No one made me feel uncomfortable at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the baby is a gift from the universe. i think you should have it.

Is the universe also going to birth this baby? Feed and clothe it? House it? Provide daycare and a college fund?

Shut up. What a useless comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please do not be so down on yourself.

Do not refer to yourself as "awful." That is not true at all.

You are thinking like a responsible and mature adult and parent here and are making a decision while considering many different and unique factors.

Many people do not realize how much thinking goes into such an important and life-changing decision, one that will affect you for the rest of your life. And no one, NO ONE has any right to judge you or your choices. No one.

I have had an abortion in my past, and while it is not something that I am proud of or go around bragging about, I know at the time I made the right choice.

It wasn't a snap decision and I considered many options before I chose this option for myself.

Being adopted as an infant, growing up w/out a true blood identity has always set me apart from everyone else and I just could never put another person through what I went through.

So for me, I chose to terminate.

Find a Planned Parenthood or Family Planning Clinic in your area. They are confidential and affordable.

You can elect an in-clinic abortion which is quicker and has less bleeding and recovery time or take the abortion pill which is more convenient and can be done in the comfort and privacy of your own home, but takes more time to recover and has more bleeding.

Hugs to you and please...No guilt.

This is a tough time and I know you are only doing what you think is the best thing for everyone involved right now.

Good luck.

Another adoptee here who knows that adoption is not rainbows and butterflies. Would definitely encourage you to choose abortion rather than condemning a child to a lifetime of adoption pain. Adoption is only good for the adoption agencies ($$$) adoptive parents---it can be a living hell for the adoptee and the birthmother.

[Anonymous]

As an adoptive mother, I would also discourage adoption in OP's situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, please do not be so down on yourself.

Do not refer to yourself as "awful." That is not true at all.

You are thinking like a responsible and mature adult and parent here and are making a decision while considering many different and unique factors.

Many people do not realize how much thinking goes into such an important and life-changing decision, one that will affect you for the rest of your life. And no one, NO ONE has any right to judge you or your choices. No one.

I have had an abortion in my past, and while it is not something that I am proud of or go around bragging about, I know at the time I made the right choice.

It wasn't a snap decision and I considered many options before I chose this option for myself.

Being adopted as an infant, growing up w/out a true blood identity has always set me apart from everyone else and I just could never put another person through what I went through.

So for me, I chose to terminate.

Find a Planned Parenthood or Family Planning Clinic in your area. They are confidential and affordable.

You can elect an in-clinic abortion which is quicker and has less bleeding and recovery time or take the abortion pill which is more convenient and can be done in the comfort and privacy of your own home, but takes more time to recover and has more bleeding.

Hugs to you and please...No guilt.

This is a tough time and I know you are only doing what you think is the best thing for everyone involved right now.

Good luck.

Another adoptee here who knows that adoption is not rainbows and butterflies. Would definitely encourage you to choose abortion rather than condemning a child to a lifetime of adoption pain. Adoption is only good for the adoption agencies ($$$) adoptive parents---it can be a living hell for the adoptee and the birthmother.

Everyone has a different adoption story, PP. Isnd, I am sorry for your pain. adopted a newborn and have been blissfully happy since. She is just 14 months now, so I cannot ask her about her experience just yet...,but I sm pretty sure I am giving her a superb life. Many other stories like ours.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for above typos!

[Anonymous]

Thank you all for your supportive feedback and honest experiences. It sounds like PP on 16th is where I should go.
It has been incredibly soothing to hear others have or would make a similar choice. This has been a very isolating experience and although this is an anonymous forum it has mattered to me that you all are out there.
Thank you.