Both stupid and incredibly irresponsible. |
I can respect that they have a formal education, however most of what is done is to protect them (legality) not what's best for their patients. We know the risks associated with a spinal tap, and that's a last resort. Doctors and nurses are trained to follow protocol, even when it's unnecessary to protect the hospital. Maybe the nurse wasn't an idiot, but she could care less the discomfort my baby felt. They disassociate from the patient, and it hurts to see. |
Omfg. You are such an idiot. Nurses and drs are incredibly compassionate for the most part. They aren't protecting the hospital the spinal tap is done at that age at that level to PROTECT YOUR KID. |
| Note...I super love the part where parents who refuse a spinal tap in situations such as you describe might need to explain your refusal to child welfare services after you have a discussion about potentially being charged with medical neglect. |
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OP, come the f--- on. Are you a pediatric nurse? Do you have any idea how difficult it is to get a vein in a tiny baby, much less one who is sick and dehydrated? Often times with my sick kid they had to get a NICU nurse coming off shift to try. We had several scalp ivs, many more infiltrating before getting a central line. They are not doing these things to torture your baby.
I get that you are stressed, but maybe start taking this seriously instead of acting like you're getting bad service in a restaurant. |
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OP - I know you are stressed. I have been there. My first child had a seizure when he was 4 weeks old. He is 25 now and we still have no idea what caused it and it never happened again. Getting the IV started was very difficult. And my baby was fully hydrated. It took about eight sticks with four different people. Finally, a former combat medic was able to get the IV started. It was horrible. I was a wreck. But it wasn't the fault of the nurses. It's really tough to start an IV on a baby that tiny. A dehydrated baby is even more challenging.
I also agree with the other posters. You should not have refused the spinal tap. You are assuming your baby has a stomach virus simply because he was exposed. There are many other things that can cause fever, vomiting, and diarrhea in an infant. Many of them are life threatening. You are making it more difficult for the medical professionals to help your child. Take a deep breath. Step back. And let them do what they need to do. If it's too much for you, let someone else stay with the baby for a little while. Leave the hospital while they do the spinal tap if you need to. |
| Omfg at all of this. OP...good luck raising your kid, you are going to need a lot of it. |
| A stomach virus isn't airborne so how exactly would visiting relatives pass this to a 3 week old. It's going to be pretty difficult to do that. |
Stomach viruses spread like wildfire. Where have you been? |
+1 OP, I would think some gratitude would be in order here. |
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OP, I would be incredibly mad at the family! I wish I could print out this thread and show to my ILs.
When I just had DC, ILs pushed and pushed for us to take the days-old-baby everywhere, "because that what Americans do" (we are immigrants). MIL would not shut up about how babies just can't get sick and we need to take him to the mall (I hate malls, I never go myself, why suddenly bring a baby there?). To appease his mom, DH took the baby grocery shopping, which further convinced her that babies don't get sick. I wish your little one gets better soon! |
To a 3 week old? |
Assume they touched the baby. Touched kid's hands. Kid puts hand in mouth. Boom. |
I saw that too... Now I'm suspicious. |