Put your holiday IL rants here!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My MIL told my 7 year old she was proud of him for clearing the table. Then she turns to my 4 year old and states "I'll be proud of you some day." WTF? I don't expect him to be praised, but don't say things like that.

Aww come on at least she's TRYING to be nice. There's MUCH WORSE out there.

That was a lame attempt at trying to be nice. If she's not proud of him now when he's this young and innocent, how much prouder can she get? That's as bad as my grandfather telling me "Why can't you be more like your sister?".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I make a macaroni and cheese that ppl in my family love, MIL included. She asked me if I would make it for thanksgiving dinner. I said ok. Asked her if I could make it at her house and she agreed, and even offered to get the groceries needed for it. Dh and I get over to her house, she tells me that "the groceries are over on the counter, but the mixing bowls, casserole dish etc are dirty and You should wash them."

I found this incredibly rude. I'm Not your maid!

Good Gravy, I can see my mom saying this to me, it's family big deal.
People are so sensitive about stupid stuff.

YOUR mom can say that to you. not your mother in law.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

it wasn't open. neither was wendy's. tgiving lunch at her house consisted of ginger ale, water, and 2 lunchables divided among 3 adults.

not kidding.

actual lunchables--the crackers, cheese, ham.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL told my 7 year old she was proud of him for clearing the table. Then she turns to my 4 year old and states "I'll be proud of you some day." WTF? I don't expect him to be praised, but don't say things like that.

Aww come on at least she's TRYING to be nice. There's MUCH WORSE out there.

That was a lame attempt at trying to be nice. If she's not proud of him now when he's this young and innocent, how much prouder can she get? That's as bad as my grandfather telling me "Why can't you be more like your sister?".

What is there to be proud of? He's 4. He's sweet, cute and lovable. He hasn't done anything to be proud of, though. Pride is something earned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

it wasn't open. neither was wendy's. tgiving lunch at her house consisted of ginger ale, water, and 2 lunchables divided among 3 adults.

not kidding.

actual lunchables--the crackers, cheese, ham.

Oh, for the love of God. That wins for the most pathetic Thanksgiving IL story.
Lesson learned--NEVER go there for a meal again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

it wasn't open. neither was wendy's. tgiving lunch at her house consisted of ginger ale, water, and 2 lunchables divided among 3 adults.

not kidding.

actual lunchables--the crackers, cheese, ham.

LOL. That's pretty sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

it wasn't open. neither was wendy's. tgiving lunch at her house consisted of ginger ale, water, and 2 lunchables divided among 3 adults.

not kidding.

actual lunchables--the crackers, cheese, ham.

LOL. That's pretty sad.

i'm the op. i was in shock. to not even have the decency to have some finger foods or anything, after a 6 hour trip. unfortunately we are back at her house now, where she has fortunately? prepared lunch for us. so i guess i am grateful for the presence of food today. but i have to admit that the beef she prepared this afternoon was completely inedible. as dry as sawdust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

it wasn't open. neither was wendy's. tgiving lunch at her house consisted of ginger ale, water, and 2 lunchables divided among 3 adults.

not kidding.

actual lunchables--the crackers, cheese, ham.

I am pleasantly surprised they were split 3 ways instead of her taking one and giving you 2 the other one to split.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

Was burger king even open on Thanksgiving? Or maybe that's the only place open.

it wasn't open. neither was wendy's. tgiving lunch at her house consisted of ginger ale, water, and 2 lunchables divided among 3 adults.

not kidding.

actual lunchables--the crackers, cheese, ham.

LOL. That's pretty sad.

i'm the op. i was in shock. to not even have the decency to have some finger foods or anything, after a 6 hour trip. unfortunately we are back at her house now, where she has fortunately? prepared lunch for us. so i guess i am grateful for the presence of food today. but i have to admit that the beef she prepared this afternoon was completely inedible. as dry as sawdust.

Get thee to a gas station. They sell food there! Even on holidays . I'll bet you could find something turkey related, too (like a sandwich or sub). Bon appetite!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is so weirdly naive "I discovered a place where they will both cut your hair AND wax your eyebrows!" And strangely easily impressed "I recently met someone who grew tomatoes in a pot on their patio!" And I find it almost impossible to have a conversation with her without getting really snarky. Like, she believed in Santa clause until she was like 15. Also, she infantilizes my kids. She is very impressed with very mundane successes "I met someone who knows how to drive a car in traffic!" And I think she's a little senile. She talks about herself and her home renovations 100% of the time but never asks us anything about ours (we are well into redoing most of our house ourselves). Her comments about window shopping "one vendor gave me a price that was $200 different than the other!" Omg, please get off the turnip truck. The woman has the life skills of a third grader. I'm incapable of dealing.

You are being petty. If she's in fact is incapable of navigating life herself, you should look out for her, or at least suggest your DH to do it.

[Anonymous]

Went early Black Friday shipping with FIL and DH. Walked past the mens underwear section and FIL proceeded to tell us why he personally likes boxer-brief combination underwear.

[Anonymous]

MIL did the dishes, which was very nice of her. However I went to put everything away before I went to bed and had to wash half of it again because it wasn't clean

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL is so weirdly naive "I discovered a place where they will both cut your hair AND wax your eyebrows!" And strangely easily impressed "I recently met someone who grew tomatoes in a pot on their patio!" And I find it almost impossible to have a conversation with her without getting really snarky. Like, she believed in Santa clause until she was like 15. Also, she infantilizes my kids. She is very impressed with very mundane successes "I met someone who knows how to drive a car in traffic!" And I think she's a little senile. She talks about herself and her home renovations 100% of the time but never asks us anything about ours (we are well into redoing most of our house ourselves). Her comments about window shopping "one vendor gave me a price that was $200 different than the other!" Omg, please get off the turnip truck. The woman has the life skills of a third grader. I'm incapable of dealing.

Wow, this seems mean. She seems harmless and not even particularly annoying. The only real negative is that she doesn't ask about your own home renovations.

Yep. It does seem a bit petty for a holiday rant. So she chit chats about inoffensive, boring things. Some may actually find that nice.

NP here. Maybe she does that on purpose -- like she purposefully talks about innocuous things with enthusiasm so as to avoid any kind of conflict. I know someone who is like that. And for years, I though the person was naive/dull, but then I realize that it's their small-talk coping strategy. And I realized it is actually brilliant.

Yes, my own mom could learn this. Instead of spouting her Fox News doctrine to my Democrat husband (and I couldn't care less just want them to STOP.)

Hah. I sometimes do this. Mainly because I have nothing I really want to say to the other people. I'm not brilliant though, just easily annoyed.

I do this too, but did not know anyone was on to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I drove 6 hours to his parents' town today. They are divorced and consequently there are 2 of evetything for the holidays. Plan, as set by mil, was tgiving lunch at her house and tgiving dinner at his dad's. Dh calls to tell her we will be arriving in 20 min. She tells us to stop by Burger King for her to get her lunch, and to get something for ourselves too if we are hungry, bc she doesn't have food at her house.

My jaw dropped. Burger King. After we've been on the road for 6 hours. And it's thanksgiving.

I'd be OK with that, you got to have a regular Thanksgiving meal later at Dad's right? My parents live near my inlaws, so we always do two Thanksgivings per day, two Easters, two Christmases, etc. And we are expected to sit for a big meal at each one. It's not that big a deal for me, but on the rare occasion that one family decides to forgo the big meal, we are always relieved.