Put your holiday IL rants here!

[Anonymous]

My own mother says really mean things to me about my weight. THe thing is that both she and my SIL are truly effortlessly thin. My emaciated SIL talks about how she loves carbs and never exercises. The day after Thanksgiving, I watched my teeny tiny mother eat two Krispy Kreme donuts for lunch followed by two bags of M and M's. I, meanwhile, ran five miles and then had a salad. But she had the audacity to lecture me about 'healthy eating' and to tell me that she was terribly worried about my weight and I ought to try weight loss surgery.

[Anonymous]

My MIL doesn't know how to cook, period. Every Thanksgiving for the last 8 years I go hungry because the food is inedible. My husband likes it enough, although doesn't find it yummy. The food tastes like salt or sugar. Just awful and unhealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My own mother says really mean things to me about my weight. THe thing is that both she and my SIL are truly effortlessly thin. My emaciated SIL talks about how she loves carbs and never exercises. The day after Thanksgiving, I watched my teeny tiny mother eat two Krispy Kreme donuts for lunch followed by two bags of M and M's. I, meanwhile, ran five miles and then had a salad. But she had the audacity to lecture me about 'healthy eating' and to tell me that she was terribly worried about my weight and I ought to try weight loss surgery.

Ouch. Your mother has food issues.

[Anonymous]

Soooooo, my BIL had a huge rage outburst on my husband a few months ago. It was really terrible, threats to kill him, that kind of thing, really awful. Mil and others saw this. Since then we have been really, really cool towards BIL and his family. Not outright ignoring, but not initiating contact. It occurred to me over the holiday that BIL may not have even told his wife about the incident, which would explain why she is so confused about why the invitations and willingness to hang out with them has disappeared. Should I tell her? I think she thinks we are just being rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My FIL isn't a bad person but he's a terrible houseguest. He'll drink all but a sip of about 4 different drinks and put the glasses in the fridge, so an entire shelf is taken up by the dregs of his beverages. Everyone will be cleaning up after a meal and he will just sit there, oblivious and staring into space, while we all bustle around him cleaning up, literally taking the empty plate from right under his nose etc, and never offers to help.

He's large and not super mobile so while I appreciate him making more of an effort with the kids than he used to, he was literally dangling my one year old upside down by one leg because DS had tried to climb off FIL and FIL was too big and unwieldy to lift him down correctly. He has this revolting back scratcher that he carries with him everywhere and the other day I caught 3 year old DS LICKING it! OMG I'm nauseated thinking about it.

He showers MAYBE once a week, yet somehow doesn't smell. Haven't figured that one out.

ew

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My own mother says really mean things to me about my weight. THe thing is that both she and my SIL are truly effortlessly thin. My emaciated SIL talks about how she loves carbs and never exercises. The day after Thanksgiving, I watched my teeny tiny mother eat two Krispy Kreme donuts for lunch followed by two bags of M and M's. I, meanwhile, ran five miles and then had a salad. But she had the audacity to lecture me about 'healthy eating' and to tell me that she was terribly worried about my weight and I ought to try weight loss surgery.

Ouch. Your mother has food issues.

And an eating disorder...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My own mother says really mean things to me about my weight. THe thing is that both she and my SIL are truly effortlessly thin. My emaciated SIL talks about how she loves carbs and never exercises. The day after Thanksgiving, I watched my teeny tiny mother eat two Krispy Kreme donuts for lunch followed by two bags of M and M's. I, meanwhile, ran five miles and then had a salad. But she had the audacity to lecture me about 'healthy eating' and to tell me that she was terribly worried about my weight and I ought to try weight loss surgery.

Ouch. Your mother has food issues.

And an eating disorder...

My mom was obsessed with keeping us thin in our 20s, so even if I was normal range, but not slender looking, she made comments. Now she is the opposite. I'm overweight with a metabolism as slow as molasses and a thyroid disorder and I swear she tries to sabotage me when I try to lose weight. She pushes foods that I don't need and she is convinced being a little overweight keeps you looking younger past a certain age. Plus, I'm married so she doesn't think I need to be too thin. She is convinced if I lose too much I will look like an old skinny prune and my boobs will go away.

[Anonymous]

This isn't an in-law, this is my cousin who invited herself to my parents' house for three weeks over Christmas. I am just dreading seeing her, truly. She is the type of person who presents herself as "flirty and fun" (especially with other people's Dhs!) but the more time you spend with her, the more time you realize that in reality she is mean and conniving and fake. So everybody loves her but me which of course, makes me feel kind of crazy. She is a master of underhanded insults too. Ughh. All she does is shop and gossip and talk about trips she took with her Silicon-Valley engineer husband (who she played games with and married for money, of course). Wow, writing this did not make me feel better. I am dreading every conversation with this woman.

[Anonymous]

OK mine isn't as bad as some of the rants here, but I'm gonna rant on anyway. SIL and family stayed with us over the long weekend. 1) They all shower TWICE a day - am & pm. SIL tells her teen boys that they smell if they haven't had both showers (they don't). The cycle of laundry on the towels was unreal. That's weird right? 2x daily showers? and 2) they let their kids order the most expensive steaks on the menu ($40 filet) while one of mine is ordering off the kiddie menu, and then they want to split the check down the middle. Grrrrrr.

[Anonymous]

The 3 year old licking the back scratcher is going to haunt my nightmares. But I did guffaw when I read it. Sorry PP, haha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I make a macaroni and cheese that ppl in my family love, MIL included. She asked me if I would make it for thanksgiving dinner. I said ok. Asked her if I could make it at her house and she agreed, and even offered to get the groceries needed for it. Dh and I get over to her house, she tells me that "the groceries are over on the counter, but the mixing bowls, casserole dish etc are dirty and You should wash them."

I found this incredibly rude. I'm Not your maid!

Jesus Christ on a cracker. If she's hosting then cut her some slack it's a big job cooking a thanksgiving meal. Sometimes you run put of clean bowls or dishes. Are you too much of a princess to clean the table or do dishes after the meal too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK mine isn't as bad as some of the rants here, but I'm gonna rant on anyway. SIL and family stayed with us over the long weekend. 1) They all shower TWICE a day - am & pm. SIL tells her teen boys that they smell if they haven't had both showers (they don't). The cycle of laundry on the towels was unreal. That's weird right? 2x daily showers? and 2) they let their kids order the most expensive steaks on the menu ($40 filet) while one of mine is ordering off the kiddie menu, and then they want to split the check down the middle. Grrrrrr.

1. Explain that we don't wash towels after each shower. They need to hang up their towels and reuse them. Solves laundry problem re: towels. Assuming you are not doing their clothes.
2. head it off by telling the server separate checks. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK mine isn't as bad as some of the rants here, but I'm gonna rant on anyway. SIL and family stayed with us over the long weekend. 1) They all shower TWICE a day - am & pm. SIL tells her teen boys that they smell if they haven't had both showers (they don't). The cycle of laundry on the towels was unreal. That's weird right? 2x daily showers? and 2) they let their kids order the most expensive steaks on the menu ($40 filet) while one of mine is ordering off the kiddie menu, and then they want to split the check down the middle. Grrrrrr.

1. Explain that we don't wash towels after each shower. They need to hang up their towels and reuse them. Solves laundry problem re: towels. Assuming you are not doing their clothes.
2. head it off by telling the server separate checks. Problem solved.

In defense of your SiL: Oh yes, teen boys do smell if they don't shower. They absolutely do!

But I agree that unless they were really working up sweats (going on jogs, etc), 2 showers every day was MUCH. And washing towels after every use - ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make a macaroni and cheese that ppl in my family love, MIL included. She asked me if I would make it for thanksgiving dinner. I said ok. Asked her if I could make it at her house and she agreed, and even offered to get the groceries needed for it. Dh and I get over to her house, she tells me that "the groceries are over on the counter, but the mixing bowls, casserole dish etc are dirty and You should wash them."

I found this incredibly rude. I'm Not your maid!

Jesus Christ on a cracker. If she's hosting then cut her some slack it's a big job cooking a thanksgiving meal. Sometimes you run put of clean bowls or dishes. Are you too much of a princess to clean the table or do dishes after the meal too?

The op explained down thread that mil didn't actually cook anything. Big difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make a macaroni and cheese that ppl in my family love, MIL included. She asked me if I would make it for thanksgiving dinner. I said ok. Asked her if I could make it at her house and she agreed, and even offered to get the groceries needed for it. Dh and I get over to her house, she tells me that "the groceries are over on the counter, but the mixing bowls, casserole dish etc are dirty and You should wash them."

I found this incredibly rude. I'm Not your maid!

Jesus Christ on a cracker. If she's hosting then cut her some slack it's a big job cooking a thanksgiving meal. Sometimes you run put of clean bowls or dishes. Are you too much of a princess to clean the table or do dishes after the meal too?

The op explained down thread that mil didn't actually cook anything. Big difference.

The dishes got dirty somehow. Somebody was cooking in that house. Either that or she just has a really gross kitchen with dirty dishes that lay around in the sink for days and days before they are washed. If that's the case, be glad that she ordered food from someplace else.