DH just shoved me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So get divorced. These posts are so stupid. "He shoved me. He's a jerk. He's always been tough to live with but now he's getting worse. What do I do?!" Is the answer really not obvious?

Divorce attorney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sorry. Really. You shouldn't have to live like that. I know it must hurt a lot to be in this situation. I think it's hard to know when enough is enough. The PP is not terribly sympathetic.

It's hard to end any relationship, even a bad one. I wish you strength. I believe you will feel a great deal of relief when you are able to make a decision to end this relationship, but only you will be able to do that.

plus 1.agree. best wishes...

[Anonymous]

Shoving....I am a male...when my wife is mad at me, blocking my path (happens), I guess I not allowed to walk past her for fear I might shove her.

There are two sides to every story, we are only hearing one. Was op blocking the hall/door? If so, I have no sympathy for her.

[Anonymous]

It is rare to have a situation where there are no signs before marriage as to the real personality of a future husband or wife.

Now, you may choose to downplay the negatives or think that you can change him/her after marriage or may be the positives outweigh the negatives.

OP made the decision to marry the guy so the alternatives are to try and save the marriage or move on.

Also agree with PP who said that there are two sides to this story and we are hearing only one side.

[Anonymous]

Not to take his side here, but it sounds like you also played a significant role in things getting "physical".
Your explanation makes me picture him walking down the hall and you stepping into his path.
So did you in any way "block" him? Because while that does not excuse his "push" (because that was wrong) but it would mean you too acted wrongly by taking the disagreement physical (you getting into his path).

[Anonymous]

These posts are so exhausting!

How is this even a question???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to take his side here, but it sounds like you also played a significant role in things getting "physical".
Your explanation makes me picture him walking down the hall and you stepping into his path.
So did you in any way "block" him? Because while that does not excuse his "push" (because that was wrong) but it would mean you too acted wrongly by taking the disagreement physical (you getting into his path).

OP's explanation makes me picture a smaller hallway, such that with OP standing there the H would need to turn his body slightly to the side to get past her. From OP's description it sounds like, rather than do this, H chose to not only not turn his body but to purposely use his body to shove hers.

In describing this incident OP was careful to make clarifying statements so that no one would jump to thinking it was more than it was. This leads me to believe that if OP had contributed in any way to the occurrence she would have included that as well.

As for the PP who said his wife steps in front of him, well, that is not right, but neither would shoving that person to the side be right. As my parents used to say to us kids when we were arguing or fighting, " Two wrongs do not equal a right," i.e. answering wrong action with wrong action never improves things or brings resolution. Only kids or immature adults do this.