I left in the middle of a date!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are selfish/self-centered by wearing sunglasses. They can pick up on every emotional clue re: the other person, but prevent the other person from doing the same.

When meeting someone new, it's unacceptable. When people are known to each other, it's fine.

. Some people have extremely light sensitive eyes. It is selfish and insensitive to expect them to be in pain or discomfort for your convenience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's another POV.

First blind date I met up with the guy on the sunny steps of a musuem, and I was wearing my sunglasses . Now I had been planning on taking them off, but kind of forgot because I was just a little nervous. We said hi, a few other niceties and then, he reached over gently, and lifted them off my face and said "that's better."

Normally would have freaked me out, but when our eyes met, sans sunglasses, there was a big ZING. our date went from early afternoon to late evening and we are now married with kids.

I guess you don't have prescription glasses. I would be pissed if someone took away my vision and I'm not wrecking my eyes more by sitting outside without glasses.

The award for "Most Negative Reaction to a Romantic Moment" goes to you, last PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People are selfish/self-centered by wearing sunglasses. They can pick up on every emotional clue re: the other person, but prevent the other person from doing the same.

When meeting someone new, it's unacceptable. When people are known to each other, it's fine.

. Some people have extremely light sensitive eyes. It is selfish and insensitive to expect them to be in pain or discomfort for your convenience.

Selfish? Self-centered? Frankly, the strength of your opinion on sunglasses seems really out of whack to me. I consider myself lucky that I may offend you so violently by wearing sunglasses. Saves me the trouble of being in your presence. I can't imagine how upset you'd be at some common social missteps. I'm in my 40s and have never had a discussion about sunglasses and rudeness -- with anyone. Friends, dates, etc. Being late, yes. Lack of social grace, yes. Only selfish, self-centered people wear shades? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he sounds like a controlling freak and you are better off knowing that now.

+ 1000

+2000

Being late was just part of his game.

Changing your location was the second phase.

Insinuating about last night was the third part.

Then he made you move again.

It was all to put your footing off. You were smart to leave.

+3000

OP my eyes are very light and very sensitive to light, so I wear sunglasses pretty much all the time. It's never been an issue, even on dates. I think this guy sounds like a creep and you're better off not overthinking this event. Next date!

[Anonymous]

Some of you are so dramatic. A 30 minute coffee date in the sun, without sunglasses, is not going to harm your vision. - signed someone from the eye care field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wearing sunglasses is not rude! You people are whacked. Sunglasses reduce the chance of cataracs later in life. Wearing them is a smart health choice. This man was a controlling jerk who wanted to scrutinize your looks.

no wonder you're angry - you haven't gotten laid in.....and with that attitude, I wouldn't fuck you with a dead man's dick

[Anonymous]

Good call. I'm remarried and I'm not afraid to say that when I got divorced, I wanted to get remarried to the right person. I treated dating like business and cut people off quickly, as a single mom, I had no time to waste. I'm not into sympathy dating. I found exactly what I was looking for and he loves my direct approach. I'm not the kind of woman who is going to apologize for my feelings.

[Anonymous]

What a douche-bag! If it's sunny outside, what did he expect you to do - squint? I wear contacts and have light green eyes. Hell, I sometimes wear sunglasses on very gray days - my eyes are that sensitive to glare. I wouldn't be able to sit outside without getting a hell of a headache without them and I would never think someone is full of themselves if they insisted on wearing them, unless it was while sitting inside. You pps who are calling the OP Bono are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's another POV.

First blind date I met up with the guy on the sunny steps of a musuem, and I was wearing my sunglasses . Now I had been planning on taking them off, but kind of forgot because I was just a little nervous. We said hi, a few other niceties and then, he reached over gently, and lifted them off my face and said "that's better."

Normally would have freaked me out, but when our eyes met, sans sunglasses, there was a big ZING. our date went from early afternoon to late evening and we are now married with kids.

I guess you don't have prescription glasses. I would be pissed if someone took away my vision and I'm not wrecking my eyes more by sitting outside without glasses.

The award for "Most Negative Reaction to a Romantic Moment" goes to you, last PP.

Thank you for a much defter response than I would have delivered to this cold-hearted comment!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good call. I'm remarried and I'm not afraid to say that when I got divorced, I wanted to get remarried to the right person. I treated dating like business and cut people off quickly, as a single mom, I had no time to waste. I'm not into sympathy dating. I found exactly what I was looking for and he loves my direct approach. I'm not the kind of woman who is going to apologize for my feelings.

OP here. Thanks for this! I am a single mom (two children) and do not have a lot of time to date. I certainly won't waste my time with people who are rude and I had no problem leaving the date. He needs a dating 101 class and a refresher on good manners.

[Anonymous]

I think it was incredibly condescending for him to ask you to take them off.

Then again, you didn't have to sit outside or in the sun.

My guess is that you were (rightfully) pissed he was late and he responded in a bad way to your attitude. Life is too short, move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it was incredibly condescending for him to ask you to take them off.

Then again, you didn't have to sit outside or in the sun.

My guess is that you were (rightfully) pissed he was late and he responded in a bad way to your attitude. Life is too short, move on.

OP here. He was fifteen minutes late and he did text me when I was waiting on line for my drink to tell me he was running late. It didn't bother me. I texted him back asking him what drink he wanted so I could order it. He did not reply back to my text. I do understand that people run late so in all honesty that did not upset me.

[Anonymous]

That's just a garden variety bad date. I was expecting he showed up with his wife and asked for a threesome or something like that.

[Anonymous]

OP ~ don't wear sunglasses to a blind date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP ~ don't wear sunglasses to a blind date.

OP here. HA HA! Believe me, I have learned my lesson!