I left in the middle of a date!

[Anonymous]

just had a terrible first date. Met the guy for coffee (from match.com). he was late so I ordered my coffee and sat down to wait for him. when he arrived I got up to introduce myself and asked him if he would prefer to sit inside or outside. he said outside so I went to get a table. it was sunny and I put on my sunglasses. when he came outside he asked me if I had a long night because I was wearing sunglasses. I said no, I was with my kids last night and explained that there was a glare. he asked me to move my seat so I could take off the glasses, which I did. conversation was forced and awkward. I left.

tell me honestly. was I wrong to wear my sunglasses outside? if so, I won't do it again.

anybody ever leave on a date?

[Anonymous]

Eh. I think that eye contact is important so maybe you shouldn't have worn them - but then I do understand if the sun was actually in your eyes. Perhaps moving your chair was the first thing you should have done. He didn't have to be so forward by pointing that out then. Anyway clearly you two didn't have chemistry so move along.

[Anonymous]

We'll, it's awkward to talk to someone if you can't see their eyes. In the future, I'd suggest arranging the seating so sunglasses aren't necessary.

[Anonymous]

I think he sounds like a controlling freak and you are better off knowing that now.

[Anonymous]

1) The situation you described is not a "first date."

2) He was probably just as nervous as you obviously were, so yes, you should have cut him some slack.

3) If this is the way you are going to continue to behave, you will be on match.com for a long time to come.

[Anonymous]

it was not wrong to wear your sunglasses outside. he was a pushy ass. Who says this to strangers?

[Anonymous]

I always wear my sunglasses outside, and sometimes inside as its a hassle to change them out. I doubt that was your issue. Be lucky it was only one date.

[Anonymous]

I don't think the sunglasses thing is such a big deal but if the conversation was awkward then it's safe to declare there is no chemistry and move on.

[Anonymous]

I understand him wanting everyone to sit in a way that sunglasses are not necessary. But assuming you were wearing sunglasses because of a late night instead of the actual sun is very weird. You are well rid of him.

[Anonymous]

He should understand that a date is not something that's worth risking your eyesight over. He should have been the one asking you where you'd prefer to sit.

[Anonymous]

it was a bad date all around.

- he was late which is a cardinal no-no.
- you shouldn't have worn the glasses on a first date since you want to make eye contact, figure out if there is enough spark or chemistry to have a real (second) date.
- he sounded like a putz, not just nervous. who asks tha sort of question?

since it was a bad date, don't think about but just take a lesson about how to "be" on the next first date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We'll, it's awkward to talk to someone if you can't see their eyes. In the future, I'd suggest arranging the seating so sunglasses aren't necessary.

I really dislike talking to people with sunglasses on. Maybe you could date Bono.

[Anonymous]

If you dislike talking to people with sunglasses on, then don't ask them to sit outside in the sunshine on a first date.

[Anonymous]

The right way the sunglasses part of the date:

Him: (sees sunglasses) You're right. It's brighter out here than I thought it would be. Would you prefer to sit inside?

Her: It's ok. There's just a glare from the table.

Him: (stands) Why don't I sit over there, instead, or would you prefer that we try a different table?

Her: That's alright, thanks. I'm fine here.

Him: Ok. (Goes on to have stilted awkward conversation and gets stood up.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he sounds like a controlling freak and you are better off knowing that now.

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