Rich and plain looking in DMV

[Anonymous]

I'm 22:31 - if you're plain looking, you're plain looking. Now if you're asking why people are rich and frumpy, the answer might be different. Maybe they are smart people whose brains are busy doing important stuff and not focusing on appearance or clothes. Maybe they genuinely have no idea how to make themselves look better, or maybe they just don't care.

I'm in Finance, and not client-facing, so I might be one of those people you criticize. I'm neat and presentable and I know how to dress myself, but unless I have a big meeting (especially presenting), I just don't try that hard. I was hired for my brains, my background and my MBA, not for my body, my hair or my face. Around here, the stylish people you see tend to be in sales, marketing, PR or the artsy fields.

[Anonymous]

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Try to follow along. Nobody is talking about poor or middle class except you.

OP specifically used the word "rich". Then some bitter fed PP petulantly equated "rich" with GS15. Whatever ~$140,000 (gs15) is, it is most definitely not "rich" in this area is one is actually using facts.

In DC and Maryland, at least, the top 1% has a HHI of anywhere from $8-900,000k. Don't know what that figure is for Virginia (it's lower because va is bigger). The top 3% in DC is above $700k.

That's an interesting definition you have of "rich", there. If you're not in the 1% (or 3%) for DC/Maryland/Virginia, you're not rich? How about that.

I agree. By that logic, I know a few small towns in West VA, Western PA, and Western MD where a HHI of $40K would land you in the 1% and $60K would make you very rich indeed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know....most waelthy young people I know in this area are more attractive than the average pedestrian. Especially the women. They are certainly more fit.

Until they have a baby. Then, the norm seems to be "I get to look frumpy until the youngest starts middle school." I had never seen skinny and frumpy together until I moved to MoCo. All those Bethesda moms with the awful ponytail and flats daily uniform know they can afford to look better.

yeah, how tacky. why not wear 4-inch heels while chasing kids and grocery shopping?

[Anonymous]

We have the house, send the kids to private and save money... I'd rather spend money on those things than look fashionable, so that's my reason for being "rich but plain looking". I don't think anyone would look at me and say I'm frumpy.... just simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is that? Why are the rich not the "beautiful people" in DC? This is the only city I have seen this phenomena? They have the money to fix themselves but they don't. Not being snarky, just curious.

Is it because they are not vain? Or is it because in their circles looks do not matter?

For me, I am not going to "fix" anything with surgery. I'm an accomplished, 49 year old woman. What would I need to fix? I'd say I'm not beautiful but not exactly plain either. I work on controlling my weight and applying sunscreen and Retin-An, but that's about as far as I 'm going to go with fixing my physical flaws.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know....most waelthy young people I know in this area are more attractive than the average pedestrian. Especially the women. They are certainly more fit.

Until they have a baby. Then, the norm seems to be "I get to look frumpy until the youngest starts middle school." I had never seen skinny and frumpy together until I moved to MoCo. All those Bethesda moms with the awful ponytail and flats daily uniform know they can afford to look better.

yeah, how tacky. why not wear 4-inch heels while chasing kids and grocery shopping?

There are shoes in between flats meant for a pre-teen and 4 inch heels, y'know. Sorry that I struck a nerve. Are you wearing a high or low pony today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because vanity plastic surgery is shallow? Because intelligent people in non-media careers don't feel the need to go under the knife to alter their looks? Because people who have other things going for them than looks don't fight aging like people who are dependent on their looks?

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:Because vanity plastic surgery is shallow? Because intelligent people in non-media careers don't feel the need to go under the knife to alter their looks? Because people who have other things going for them than looks don't fight aging like people who are dependent on their looks?

OP here. I did not mean that people go under the knife to look good. I just mean to say that even plain people can look well put together by getting a great haircut and wearing clothes that flatter them. I do not mean just having access to designer clothes, shoes and handbags - that many rich people are wearing, but still managing to look not well put together.

I also do not agree with a PP assertion that being good looking is a detriment in this city. I think people can look good and still be a power player.

Name a woman who looks really good and is a power player.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know....most waelthy young people I know in this area are more attractive than the average pedestrian. Especially the women. They are certainly more fit.

Until they have a baby. Then, the norm seems to be "I get to look frumpy until the youngest starts middle school." I had never seen skinny and frumpy together until I moved to MoCo. All those Bethesda moms with the awful ponytail and flats daily uniform know they can afford to look better.

yeah, how tacky. why not wear 4-inch heels while chasing kids and grocery shopping?

Here's a blog post that seems tailor made for you, darling.
http://mommy-sos.blogspot.com/2013/05/karma-is-frumpy-bitch-with-ponytail.html

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know....most waelthy young people I know in this area are more attractive than the average pedestrian. Especially the women. They are certainly more fit.

Until they have a baby. Then, the norm seems to be "I get to look frumpy until the youngest starts middle school." I had never seen skinny and frumpy together until I moved to MoCo. All those Bethesda moms with the awful ponytail and flats daily uniform know they can afford to look better.

yeah, how tacky. why not wear 4-inch heels while chasing kids and grocery shopping?

There are shoes in between flats meant for a pre-teen and 4 inch heels, y'know. Sorry that I struck a nerve. Are you wearing a high or low pony today?

I am amused that "I bet you wear flats and a ponytail!" is an insult somewhere. Who needs to travel to experience other cultures?

[Anonymous]

My theory is that the jauntiest ponytails belong to the unhappiest mommies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess if you are ugly, you better have brains and money!

Because you don't blow your money on frivolous matters, you are not a sheeple, and maybe (just maybe) you ROCK the ponytail. Ask your husband, he'll tell you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My theory is that the jauntiest ponytails belong to the unhappiest mommies.

Keep telling yourself that. Feel better now? Didn't think so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know....most waelthy young people I know in this area are more attractive than the average pedestrian. Especially the women. They are certainly more fit.

Until they have a baby. Then, the norm seems to be "I get to look frumpy until the youngest starts middle school." I had never seen skinny and frumpy together until I moved to MoCo. All those Bethesda moms with the awful ponytail and flats daily uniform know they can afford to look better.

yeah, how tacky. why not wear 4-inch heels while chasing kids and grocery shopping?

There are shoes in between flats meant for a pre-teen and 4 inch heels, y'know. Sorry that I struck a nerve. Are you wearing a high or low pony today?

You mean like fugly wedges, flip-flops, or gladiator sandals? no thanks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess if you are ugly, you better have brains and money!

Because you don't blow your money on frivolous matters, you are not a sheeple, and maybe (just maybe) you ROCK the ponytail. Ask your husband, he'll tell you.

WTH is a sheeple? Someone who follows the crowd?