I don't think it's pushy or presumptuous, but I do think some of it's silly and puts unnecessary pressure on the child. We assumed our children would be pretty bright, and they've proven us right so far. We weren't looking for the most educated nanny, though; we wanted the most loving and reliable one. For preschools, we definitely didn't look for the "more advanced." We wanted a warm, play-based environment. We don't let the children do more than one organized after school activity at a time, either, because I think they need time to play. More than highly intelligent, I want them to be happy and to be themselves. |
genetics is only one part of the puzzle and not the determining factor |
School was easy for me but hard for my sister. Same for DH, who breezed through college while none of his three siblings finished. So our babies may get my easy-to-retain-information-and-connect-concepts genes or my sister's not-easy-to-retain-information-or-connect-concepts genes, right? |
stats apply to the population, not the individual. That doesn't change. And "reversion do the mean" does not mean "take an average" |
| I believe it's genetic, but not necessarily as straightforward as smart parents=smart kids. My dad, sister, and son are profoundly gifted. Myself and my dh are remarkably average. And yes, I have no idea what my 9 year old is tailing about most of the time, but he has kindred spirits in the extended family. |
| 50% of it is |
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regression to the mean- I've never heard of reversion to the mean.
IQ is heritable and genetic. I say this as an intelligent woman with an intelligent son-- don't underestimate the power of strong executive function. I've seen some people who I frankly do not think are as smart as I am get further professionally and even academically- focus, hard work, organizational skills, and leadership skills can take a person far in life. |
+1 My son has a very high IQ (99.5th percentile) and very average working memory and processing speed. His school performance is just ok. He has a lot inside that he has difficulty organizing and expressing. |
The standard IQ test is the WISC-IV which looks at verbal reasoning, perceptual (spatial) reasoning, working memory and processing speed. The two latter areas are implicated in executive functioning. Some people score exceptionally well in the verbal and perceptual indices but struggle with working memory and efficient processing, which certainly affects their performance academically and otherwise. Also, confidence, initiative, resourcefulness and resiliency affect how a person meets or even exceeds his or her potential (i.e., potential as estimated by an IQ score). |
PP here. Yes, I know. Obviously. That was my point. |
| Yes. Although there are a few exceptions, most very intelligent parents have very intelligent children. |
In middle class life, that is not much of a factor. Most middle class kids get plenty of food and go to reasonable schools. |
| Yes, several million dollars can make anyone appear to be smart. |
"Statistics apply to the population, not to the individual" applies to both IQ scoring and to intelligence. |
| Yes. My DH and I are intelligent/academically high achievers and assume our daughter will be intelligent (so far she has proven us correct). I'm not going to be coy or parse words - smart parents produce smart children. And yes, we have made plans accordingly. She has a loving, educated and engaging nanny and attends an excellent half-day preschool. We forgo many luxuries and live modestly to give her these educational opportunities. |