Had one date and he wants a relationship

[Anonymous]

Does he have a child? If so, has he already asked you to meet the child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad it worked out for you and your wife, PP. A guy that acted like the man described in the OP dated my sister for a while. He turned abusive pretty quickly. He's now in prison for felony assault. My sister was the victim of that assault.

I don't have an opinion about the guy OP dated. My only thought was that based on some of the comments on this thread, my wife should have run as fast as she could from me. Of course, I have never been in therapy though my wife probably feels at times I should have been.

Sorry about your sister, PP.

Another guy here. I think its cool that you and your wife hit it off fromt he first date. I find nothing wrong with expressing your feelings that early. However, this guy clearly misjudged her interest in him. And it isn't the expression of affection or asking for exclusivity that's scary- its the revelation about the therapist and the disconnect between his reality and OP's reality that sends up red flags.

[Anonymous]

I think it's definitely okay for a person to FEEL like this guy did, but expressing his feelings with such intensity soon after one very casual date is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad it worked out for you and your wife, PP. A guy that acted like the man described in the OP dated my sister for a while. He turned abusive pretty quickly. He's now in prison for felony assault. My sister was the victim of that assault.

I don't have an opinion about the guy OP dated. My only thought was that based on some of the comments on this thread, my wife should have run as fast as she could from me. Of course, I have never been in therapy though my wife probably feels at times I should have been.

Sorry about your sister, PP.

Another guy here. I think its cool that you and your wife hit it off fromt he first date. I find nothing wrong with expressing your feelings that early. However, this guy clearly misjudged her interest in him. And it isn't the expression of affection or asking for exclusivity that's scary- its the revelation about the therapist and the disconnect between [b]his reality and OP's reality that sends up red flags[/b].

This is an excellent point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm glad it worked out for you and your wife, PP. A guy that acted like the man described in the OP dated my sister for a while. He turned abusive pretty quickly. He's now in prison for felony assault. My sister was the victim of that assault.

I don't have an opinion about the guy OP dated. My only thought was that based on some of the comments on this thread, my wife should have run as fast as she could from me. Of course, I have never been in therapy though my wife probably feels at times I should have been.

Sorry about your sister, PP.

Another guy here. I think its cool that you and your wife hit it off fromt he first date. I find nothing wrong with expressing your feelings that early. However, this guy clearly misjudged her interest in him. And it isn't the expression of affection or asking for exclusivity that's scary- its the revelation about the therapist and the disconnect between his reality and OP's reality that sends up red flags.

Exactly. Something is off here. I am not anti-therapy but I think it can sometimes be self indulgent. Sounds like a possibility in this instance. It might also suggest that he doesn't have many friends. I mean wouldn't that be who you talked with about this great woman you just met, not your therapist?

[Anonymous]

Canadian here- It's the Americans who are weird about dating. We don't date multiple people at the same time just like the Latinos/Europeans. After one day we are very often exclusive. I don't know anyone back home who dates multiple people, except maybe ho's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here- It's the Americans who are weird about dating. We don't date multiple people at the same time just like the Latinos/Europeans. After one day we are very often exclusive. I don't know anyone back home who dates multiple people, except maybe ho's.

Here we can afford to date freely because we don't need to quickly pair up before we are snowed in for next 8 months.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you just want to be friends. That usually goes over well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here- It's the Americans who are weird about dating. We don't date multiple people at the same time just like the Latinos/Europeans. After one day we are very often exclusive. I don't know anyone back home who dates multiple people, except maybe ho's.

Here we can afford to date freely because we don't need to quickly pair up before we are snowed in for next 8 months.

[b]

Typical American response. Did you know that in many cities in Canada it doesn't even snow?

[Anonymous]

Send him a mix tape with this song:

"Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she prefers the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll appreciate the kind of straight forward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends"
--"Popular" by Nada Surf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here- It's the Americans who are weird about dating. We don't date multiple people at the same time just like the Latinos/Europeans. After one day we are very often exclusive. I don't know anyone back home who dates multiple people, except maybe ho's.

Here we can afford to date freely because we don't need to quickly pair up before we are snowed in for next 8 months.

[b]

Typical American response. Did you know that in many cities in Canada it doesn't even snow?

Wow, I heard that Canadians had a poor sense of humor, but I have never had such clear satire go over anyone's head before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here- It's the Americans who are weird about dating. We don't date multiple people at the same time just like the Latinos/Europeans. After one day we are very often exclusive. I don't know anyone back home who dates multiple people, except maybe ho's.

Agree! And given the track record of failed marriages in the US, it is not exactly as if all the screening that is advocated results in better choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here- It's the Americans who are weird about dating. We don't date multiple people at the same time just like the Latinos/Europeans. After one day we are very often exclusive. I don't know anyone back home who dates multiple people, except maybe ho's.

Here we can afford to date freely because we don't need to quickly pair up before we are snowed in for next 8 months.

[b]

Typical American response. Did you know that in many cities in Canada it doesn't even snow?

Wow, I heard that Canadians had a poor sense of humor, but I have never had such clear satire go over anyone's head before.

Can't be true. Michael J. Fox is from Canada.

[Anonymous]

Stay far, far away. He has major issues and if you ever DID have a relationship with him, it would be hell getting out of it. Stalkers are made of material such as this. I speak from experience, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Canadian here- It's the Americans who are weird about dating. We don't date multiple people at the same time just like the Latinos/Europeans. After one day we are very often exclusive. I don't know anyone back home who dates multiple people, except maybe ho's.

Here we can afford to date freely because we don't need to quickly pair up before we are snowed in for next 8 months.

Typical American response. Did you know that in many cities in Canada it doesn't even snow?

Wow, I heard that Canadians had a poor sense of humor, but I have never had such clear satire go over anyone's head before.

[b]Can't be true. Michael J. Fox is from Canada.

You're right. I LMAO every time I even think about Rob Ford.