Had one date and he wants a relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you dating my ex-DH? I have a 3000 pg manual with detailed instructions on his care and feeding.

No matter what anyone else posts, this is the "response of the day".

[Anonymous]

I was going to say:"go for it" til I read the therapist part.Hell to the no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you dating my ex-DH? I have a 3000 pg manual with detailed instructions on his care and feeding.

No matter what anyone else posts, this is the "response of the day".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you dating my ex-DH? I have a 3000 pg manual with detailed instructions on his care and feeding.

No matter what anyone else posts, this is the "response of the day".

I agree!

To the OP - RUN. Kindly of course, but run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listen to me. Do. Not. Go. On. Another. Date. With. This. Man. Okay?! I dated one of these in my mid 20's and he turned out to be massively needy and unstable. When I broke it off he became verbally abusive and s borderline stalker.

Just tell him point blank that you do not wish to g on a second date and do not see any potential for a relationship. Nip it now before it gets weird.

This

[Anonymous]

guy here - run and never look back.

go on another date with him, you take the real chance that he actually becomes a stalker and obsessed with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:HUGE red flag OP.

He is very needy.

There is no way a person can know after only one date whether or not someone is relationship-material or not. People need time to get to know each other and it sounds to me like this nut is jumping the gun big time.

Plus, he told you he is seeing a therapist already??!!

I have absolutely nothing against therapy per say, but I do not think it is appropriate to tell someone on the first date that you are in therapy.

I would cut off all ties w/this one and move on from him. Far on....

What is per say?

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's a reason to be ashamed of being in therapy. A person should disclose it if they are in a relationship. That he told you on the first date is a little much, but it shows how intimate he assumes you are. That's the red flag.

[Anonymous]

Telling someone about therapy is a red flag.

Getting serious after one date could be a cultural thing. My now (Latino) husband was ready to make a "not see other people" commitment after the first date, as were several other Latino and European men I've dated. Weird to me, normal to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Telling someone about therapy is a red flag.

Getting serious after one date could be a cultural thing. My now (Latino) husband was ready to make a "not see other people" commitment after the first date, as were several other Latino and European men I've dated. Weird to me, normal to them.

oops...meant telling someone about therapy on a first date

[Anonymous]

One date and talking to his therapist? Run. This guy sounds needy as hell. Or he's a taxidermist. In either case, get yourself away now.

[Anonymous]

he will become obsessed with you. you have to break it off now. don't make it at all about you rejecting him. tell him that your ex and you decided to get back together.

[Anonymous]

What's there to be concerned about?

[Anonymous]

I'm with the others - this is way too much, too soon. Give him that honest feedback and maybe he will not make the same mistake with the next woman.

I think too many people have this idea that you'll meet this person and JUST KNOW instantly, and that's a nice idea and all, but in more cases, you have a date and like them well enough, and you like them a little more on the second date, and so on. Someone committing so hard so early makes me think they are looking for a commitment at the expense of it being the right person.

[Anonymous]

OP,

Warning, warning, warning. Do not see him again. I concluded that BEFORE I read about the therapy. This is not normal. Even if you really like someone on a first date, you keep it to yourself and see what the next few dates are like.