mother's day with a local MIL

[Anonymous]

Just think about how you would feel down the road if your kids lived in the area with their families and blew you off. (My MIL is in town as well) Maybe dedicate Saturday as "your" day and visit with your MIL on Sunday.

[Anonymous]

It is not a competition between you and your mil. You are both mothers, princess. Share the day and stop acting like a spoiled child.

[Anonymous]

My Mom and MIL both live near me but we don't see either on Mother's Day because they don't get along and we can't choose one or the other.

[Anonymous]

does she not deserve a Mother's day? Is she not your DH's mother? I spend so much time with my kids and DH, every day is "mother's day" to me. I would rather have a mother's day where I am all alone for 2 hours!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just think about how you would feel down the road if your kids lived in the area with their families and blew you off. (My MIL is in town as well) Maybe dedicate Saturday as "your" day and visit with your MIL on Sunday.

This is exactly what we do. Instead of a MIL, though, it's DHs grandmother who loves the royal treatment on mother's day. Extended family overpriced buffet brunch where everyone pays her way, she's showered with gifts, etc. But she just loves it so much, and it is awesome to see her enjoy it. My first mother's day I felt a little slighted and wondered if the other mothers in the family felt the same way. Now we do something low-key for me on Saturday like breakfast, picnic, or alone time and then join the family on Sunday. No biggie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this comes up every year. I am feeling resentful about having mother's day brunch with my MIL. I'd rather DH plan something special for our family. His mom loves to be the center of attention and his brother will be out of town so it would crush her if she didn't spend some the day with at least one kid.

I've encouraged DH to come up with some kind of thoughtfully planned activity just for our family (DS is 2.5) at some point during the weekend.

Just a vent because I know there are others in the same boat. I know it's her day too but now that I'm a mom I don't want to share the day with in-laws that drive me bananas.

Just one of many things that makes me want to leave the area.

Sounds like the pit of hell ... overpriced, crowded, fattening and stressful. You have all my sympathies, OP! This is the reason that I always opt for a picnic in the park. Can there be a compromise? Brunch with lonely MIL on Sunday but Saturday you get to relax either alone or in a more restful family activity?

Does it have to be EVERY year? Can't you alternate years so that you can enjoy the day too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not a competition between you and your mil. You are both mothers, princess. Share the day and stop acting like a spoiled child.

+1


Signed,

A mom of two young children who does not get along well with MIL.

[Anonymous]

I hate my MIL and I agree with OP!

[Anonymous]

It's about time DH's start putting their wives first over their mothers and stop being mama's boys!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's about time DH's start putting their wives first over their mothers and stop being mama's boys!

This thread is really bringing out the self-centered 'me,me,me' posters. I feel for all these husbands getting yelled out for acknowledging their have a mother.

All the I hate my MIL and my MIL is such a bitch threads, makes sense that most of these are written by women who feel they need to be the absolute center of everyone's world and the thought of having to share any attention with others makes them rabid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's about time DH's start putting their wives first over their mothers and stop being mama's boys!

It's Mother's Day. They have mothers. Get a grip.

I am going to lunch with my mom, MIL, my spouse, and my child. Takes care of everyone. How is taking them out slighting me in any way?

I feel sorry for the princesses who feel like they are owed something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just think about how you would feel down the road if your kids lived in the area with their families and blew you off. (My MIL is in town as well) Maybe dedicate Saturday as "your" day and visit with your MIL on Sunday.

This is exactly what we do. Instead of a MIL, though, it's DHs grandmother who loves the royal treatment on mother's day. Extended family overpriced buffet brunch where everyone pays her way, she's showered with gifts, etc. But she just loves it so much, and it is awesome to see her enjoy it. My first mother's day I felt a little slighted and wondered if the other mothers in the family felt the same way. Now we do something low-key for me on Saturday like breakfast, picnic, or alone time and then join the family on Sunday. No biggie.

+1 I don't need it to be actual Mother's Day to feel special. I'm the one who gets to wake up to my two little buddies on Mother's Day, and I'm the one who gets all the sweet things they make at preschool - happy to let their grandmas and my sisters-in-law have just about anything else!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not a competition between you and your mil. You are both mothers, princess. Share the day and stop acting like a spoiled child.

+1