Too old to date ?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, have you been in therapy? You are a prisoner of your own psyche. That you feel "horrible" for your friends because they care for you? That you feel all you are worthy of is being a maid for someone, but not love, commitment, partnership...such a terribly distorted perception of yourself.
Was your childhood very difficult?

Op here. I've never been to therapy. My childhood was really good for the most part I have great parents. My mother however is like me or I'm like her in the fact that for whatever reason we can not give and receive love. She has never told me she loves me or ever hugged me that I can remember. I know she does love me as we have a very close relationship.

Also when I was a child my older sibling was murdered so I am now an only child. Being the child who lived has been hard as my parents lost there outgoing althletic superstar child and got left with boring me.

First, this is a tragedy. Second, please, please do not refer to yourself like this. You are a human being with characteristics unique to you. There is nobody else on the planet who has these. You are worthy of love if you are a loving person. IF I could reach through this computer and give you a hug right now, I would.

+1,000

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I do have major self esteem issues to the point where I feel horrible even for my friends for even liking me. I had a bf for 4 years a few years back and I felt like I was holding him back like he shouldn't waste his time with me. So I broke up with him, I never loved him but we were comfortable together.

My ideal relationship would be where a man who is single doesn't want to be alone either. Doesn't want to come home to an empty house, has his meals ready fit him, dishes and laundry done for him. And I'm just like his maid and companion in the evenings. That way he could still date if he wanted to if he didn't really like me. I don't know where to find this guy though.

Do not sell yourself short. You are not interested in sex? Sounds like you want a room mate.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I do have major self esteem issues to the point where I feel horrible even for my friends for even liking me. I had a bf for 4 years a few years back and I felt like I was holding him back like he shouldn't waste his time with me. So I broke up with him, I never loved him but we were comfortable together.

My ideal relationship would be where a man who is single doesn't want to be alone either. Doesn't want to come home to an empty house, has his meals ready fit him, dishes and laundry done for him. And I'm just like his maid and companion in the evenings. That way he could still date if he wanted to if he didn't really like me. I don't know where to find this guy though.

. You need to work out your issues first. This is not a recipe for a successful relationship.

Yes I have given up on a successful relationship I think.

well are you attractive? in shape? if so, then maybe you want to explore the DOM/SUB type relationship which by the sounds of your last post may be what you want or need. that is appealing to many men - the downside is that you need to be open and willing sexually for whatever the DOM wants.

Actually, thats not entirely true. Doms are "in control" but only as far as the sub gives up control. In a healthy D/s relationship, the sub has the control. Weird because people think it is the opposite.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, I do have major self esteem issues to the point where I feel horrible even for my friends for even liking me. I had a bf for 4 years a few years back and I felt like I was holding him back like he shouldn't waste his time with me. So I broke up with him, I never loved him but we were comfortable together.

My ideal relationship would be where a man who is single doesn't want to be alone either. Doesn't want to come home to an empty house, has his meals ready fit him, dishes and laundry done for him. And I'm just like his maid and companion in the evenings. That way he could still date if he wanted to if he didn't really like me. I don't know where to find this guy though.

Do not sell yourself short. You are not interested in sex? Sounds like you want a room mate.

I am interested in sex I was just thinking it might be easier for me to find a guy who wants someone to live with and take care of him. That way he can still go out and be with other girls if he wants. I'm sure this is hard to find as well it's like impossible .