Anyone else have to pop a xanax to see in laws?

[Anonymous]

Drug addicts use every excuse in the book to get a high

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drug addicts use every excuse in the book to get a high

Do you understand the difference between addiction, dependence, and use?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't see them. DH takes DS to see them without me, and I make other plans when they are in town.

This is what I am trying to do. How did you get to the point that your dh was ok with that? Did you ever feel like the inlaws won since they now get what they want, their kid and grand kids with the horrible dil?

I am over getting treated beyond horribly by his parents. I am to the point now that I do not want to see them. At all. If he wants to, lovely. I will find something else to do even if it's scrubbing toilets. But my dh will not go without me. If he did, I am fine with it but also deep down feel like it's what the inlaws want anyways. Me out of the picture. I think my dh is still wearing rose glasses thinking we will all get along again. Any advice?

I just started making plans for when they were around. Started with errands while they were in town, or sending them on a sightseeing trip with DH and DS while I cleaned the house or was feeling "under the weather". Then I started scheduling trips when they announced they were coming. It's easy not to go there, as it involves a cross-country flight, which adds up when we buy three plane tickets, rent a car (they don't have one big enough to accommodate everyone), and board our dogs.

It doesn't bother me if they feel like they "won". I am just happy I don't have to deal with them.

You are my hero!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just don't see them. DH takes DS to see them without me, and I make other plans when they are in town.

They are too awful for you to be around, but you're totally cool with DC being around them?

They are not awful people; I just prefer not to spend my limited free time with them. I would be a little anxious about them spending time alone with DC (without DH present), but we'll address that when we get there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, because that would signify drug dependency, which is not optimal.

Xanax, wine, whatever.

[Anonymous]

That's a prescription drug - how do you even ask for it? Do you all see shrinks or is it commonplace to ask for this from a walk in clinic these days?