Do I tell my good friend her DH was with strippers?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Male here. MYOB. First, you have no proof. Second, what is "being with strippers"? A lap dance?

Their marriage is already on the way out. No need to get involved.

You tell her because her jackass husband wants to keep "marital" property that is equally hers and not pay child support. She needs the information to wake the hell up and use the effing lawyer to get what is rightfully hers.

Lol - you act like the OP has is offering an eyewitness account. She's not. You know what she's offering? - gossip. Total hearsay. And as such it's totally irrelevant and won't hardly help the friend in her divorce proceedings. Hell if the OP can come out of left field with some story about some story she heard from someone else who supposedly had suspicions about what really happened TWO YEARS AGO but the OP is just now coming out with this 3rd hand account, what's to stop the husband from trotting out his own "expert witness" who heard something from someone who suspected that something may have happened TWO YEARS ago involving his wife smoking meth in a Denny's bathroom and the person is just now coming forward to tell him?

And YOU are acting like there aren't ways to confirm a trip to Vegas when he said he was elsewhere visiting family. She may not be able to prove strippers, but I'm sorry, why else do people lie about where they're going? The burden would be on him to prove he had a good reason for lying that didn't include a woman or women.

Anyway, OP it's not just about what can be "proved". You know and your friend who told you know it's true, and your "good friend" has every right to know what you know. I would be furious and hurt if you knew these things and didn't tell me, even now, years later.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Male here. MYOB. First, you have no proof. Second, what is "being with strippers"? A lap dance?

Their marriage is already on the way out. No need to get involved.

You tell her because her jackass husband wants to keep "marital" property that is equally hers and not pay child support. She needs the information to wake the hell up and use the effing lawyer to get what is rightfully hers.

Lol - you act like the OP has is offering an eyewitness account. She's not. You know what she's offering? - gossip. Total hearsay. And as such it's totally irrelevant and won't hardly help the friend in her divorce proceedings. Hell if the OP can come out of left field with some story about some story she heard from someone else who supposedly had suspicions about what really happened TWO YEARS AGO but the OP is just now coming out with this 3rd hand account, what's to stop the husband from trotting out his own "expert witness" who heard something from someone who suspected that something may have happened TWO YEARS ago involving his wife smoking meth in a Denny's bathroom and the person is just now coming forward to tell him?

And YOU are acting like there aren't ways to confirm a trip to Vegas when he said he was elsewhere visiting family. She may not be able to prove strippers, but I'm sorry, why else do people lie about where they're going? The burden would be on him to prove he had a good reason for lying that didn't include a woman or women.

Anyway, OP it's not just about what can be "proved". You know and your friend who told you know it's true, and your "good friend" has every right to know what you know. I would be furious and hurt if you knew these things and didn't tell me, even now, years later.

Oh she can tell the friend by all means but the notion that this hearsay will factor into the divorce proceedings is ludicrous lol.

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I'm going to be nitpicky-- 'DH' means 'dear husband'. Which this guy is not. STBXH would probably be a more appropriate acronym.

And yeah, you should have told her before and you should tell her now. Anger is a powerful motivator which it sounds like she needs in her divorce.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Male here. MYOB. First, you have no proof. Second, what is "being with strippers"? A lap dance?

Their marriage is already on the way out. No need to get involved.

You tell her because her jackass husband wants to keep "marital" property that is equally hers and not pay child support. She needs the information to wake the hell up and use the effing lawyer to get what is rightfully hers.

Lol - you act like the OP has is offering an eyewitness account. She's not. You know what she's offering? - gossip. Total hearsay. And as such it's totally irrelevant and won't hardly help the friend in her divorce proceedings. Hell if the OP can come out of left field with some story about some story she heard from someone else who supposedly had suspicions about what really happened TWO YEARS AGO but the OP is just now coming out with this 3rd hand account, what's to stop the husband from trotting out his own "expert witness" who heard something from someone who suspected that something may have happened TWO YEARS ago involving his wife smoking meth in a Denny's bathroom and the person is just now coming forward to tell him?

And YOU are acting like there aren't ways to confirm a trip to Vegas when he said he was elsewhere visiting family. She may not be able to prove strippers, but I'm sorry, why else do people lie about where they're going? The burden would be on him to prove he had a good reason for lying that didn't include a woman or women.

Anyway, OP it's not just about what can be "proved". You know and your friend who told you know it's true, and your "good friend" has every right to know what you know. I would be furious and hurt if you knew these things and didn't tell me, even now, years later.

Oh she can tell the friend by all means but the notion that this hearsay will factor into the divorce proceedings is ludicrous lol.

Np here. That may be true but the info might light a fire under her ass so she doesn't let him get away with depriving their children of what is rightfully theirs.

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Anonymous wrote:My God, tell her. And she needs to get tested for STDs immediately. Chances are high - I escaped contracting something, but I've met many women who are suffering now because of their husbands' activities with strippers and/or prostitutes. Esp. with HPV and issues related to that.

Hope to goodness you're a nurse.
Can't imagine any other way you would have met many women who just casually shared their STD history with you.

Nope NW DC SAHM, three kids in private school, etc. And no, they didn't tell me "casually." Each one was sobbing, pretty much.

STDs are everywhere, and if your husband is cheating, you are at high risk. If he is cheating with strippers and/or prostitutes, forget it.

Wow, so many women suffering and sobbing...
All of them practically lined up to lean on you and tell you about their STD's...
That's an amazing story - you're like a mighty tree in the middle of a pasture...

Wow. You spent a lot of time here. You are very very creepy and weird posting this shit here.