Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift

[Anonymous]

Wear it to school events and family events.

[Anonymous]

Well OP this is really all your own fault--you have failed to teach your daughters about proper style and fashion and this is the result. Try to get you act together and actually parent these children next year and you won't have this problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well OP this is really all your own fault--you have failed to teach your daughters about proper style and fashion and this is the result. Try to get you act together and actually parent these children next year and you won't have this problem.

Typical DCUM response to blame the victim.

[Anonymous]

Was this the red pin?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but I agree with the OP on this. Seems like I am the only one. I have a daughter and if she gave me the pin I would definitely have work in - around the house or to go shopping or something. But not all day everyday. Not to a party and not to work. I would have explained to my daughter that I love it but would stick to my guns about wearing it with a "matching" outfit. When you become a mother fashion doesn't die with your child's birth. It's okay to not want to wear that brooch or macaroni necklace everywhere. Doesn't make you a bitch of a mom. My daughter made me a necklace made out of paper and beads. I wore it all day at home and took it to work to display it in my office. My daughter was completely okay with this. As for your DH just talk to him - plain and simple. Spell out for him what you want done next time. Men need that!

this is OP. thank you!

[Anonymous]

OP is not a bad mom, a wench, or needs to check out the TTC forum for perspective - really? She said she does wear the pin so as not to hurt the kids' feelings, but if it was as ugly as she says, I would stop wearing it myself. It's thoughtful but you don't have to wear everything your kids get you all the time just to appease them.

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Anonymous wrote:It's about the kids picking out the gift.It's not about what you wanted or didn't or how ugly it is.Suck it up,problem my butt!
I feel bad for your kids by the way.

OP here. Don't feel bad for my kids. They think I love it and wear it every time I leave the house. In fact...they insist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was this the red pin?

Yeah, you're quite sheltered if you think this makes OP a bitch. Go out in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was this the red pin?

OP here. NO, there was more blue in it.

[Anonymous]

Can you wear it to church?

[Anonymous]

This can't be real.

OP, I have a jewelry box of lovingly made pipe cleaner and plastic bead jewelry, giant CZ stud earrings, and more, all lovingly given to me by my kids.

When they ask, I wear the items with pride and they are proud too. Many people will comment kindly of the "beauty" of these items because they were/are once parents themselves.

Your poor husband and daughters. You should be grateful that he is such a loving, involved and kind father.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's about the kids picking out the gift.It's not about what you wanted or didn't or how ugly it is.Suck it up,problem my butt!
I feel bad for your kids by the way.

OP here. Don't feel bad for my kids. They think I love it and wear it every time I leave the house. In fact...they insist.

Because they're proud of what they did for you. But instead, you complain. I kind of hate you.

[Anonymous]

Would you feel the same way if the pin cost $800?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but I agree with the OP on this. Seems like I am the only one. I have a daughter and if she gave me the pin I would definitely have work in - around the house or to go shopping or something. But not all day everyday. Not to a party and not to work. I would have explained to my daughter that I love it but would stick to my guns about wearing it with a "matching" outfit. When you become a mother fashion doesn't die with your child's birth. It's okay to not want to wear that brooch or macaroni necklace everywhere. Doesn't make you a bitch of a mom. My daughter made me a necklace made out of paper and beads. I wore it all day at home and took it to work to display it in my office. My daughter was completely okay with this. As for your DH just talk to him - plain and simple. Spell out for him what you want done next time. Men need that!

this is OP. thank you!

I think what got folks upset most was that you are "pissed at DH" to quote your title of this thread. That's just whiny and ungrateful. A gift is a gift and for you to judge his level of thoughtfulness is not okay. No one is saying that you should bow down before him for his awesome gift selection. Just dial back the tantrum over not getting what you want. Smile, wear the pin when it suits you and go get yourself something you like. And be nice to your husband who made an effort.

[Anonymous]

My son made me a gold spray painted. Macaroni necklace and I wore it proudly to church and told everyone that it was "one of a kind" . Children learn thoughtfulness with gift giving. I still have that necklace and when my son gets married, I plan to wear it to his wedding. If his wife is really nice, I might, someday, give it to her.