Do you let your preteen daughter wear "jeggings"?

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Looks fine to me?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At least no bubble butt. Is it really that essential to see that little bottom of hers? Oh yeah, they feel better to.

"All Grown Up and No Where to Go" is about tweens who are allowed inappropriate behavior, written by child psychologist David Elkind.

You may want to read it.

I would like to know more, before I order the book. Does he say that 10-year-old girls who wore leggings as pants grow up to be teenagers who behave badly?

Dr. David Elkind has some very valuable professional experience, imo. Based on his extensive experience (and education), he knows that tweens whose parents allow premature "adult behaviors", often suffer serious consequences.

Poor self-image and low self-esteem are surprisingly common among these patients. I say surprising, because these girls are often near-perfect academic students, athletic stars, seemingly social butterflies (queen bees), and yet they're suffering from anorexia. And their parents were in complete denial, too caught up with their daughter's "success" to notice what's really been going on behind the scenes.
How can that be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At least no bubble butt. Is it really that essential to see that little bottom of hers? Oh yeah, they feel better to.

"All Grown Up and No Where to Go" is about tweens who are allowed inappropriate behavior, written by child psychologist David Elkind.

You may want to read it.

I would like to know more, before I order the book. Does he say that 10-year-old girls who wore leggings as pants grow up to be teenagers who behave badly?

Dr. David Elkind has some very valuable professional experience, imo. Based on his extensive experience (and education), he knows that tweens whose parents allow premature "adult behaviors", often suffer serious consequences.

Poor self-image and low self-esteem are surprisingly common among these patients. I say surprising, because these girls are often near-perfect academic students, athletic stars, seemingly social butterflies (queen bees), and yet they're suffering from anorexia. And their parents were in complete denial, too caught up with their daughter's "success" to notice what's really been going on behind the scenes.
How can that be?

Because they wore leggings and jeggings as 10 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm fascinated. Someone who has never met my daughter or us knows what is going on behind the scenes, and his truth is so transparent some stranger on the internet also knows so much better than every other person who has actually met my daughter what is going on with her. How grateful I am for DCUM! How lost I would be as a parent without it!

Those things in the pic are not jeggings. I would never let my daughter wear those in part because that color wash went out of style about 10 years ago. Her school dress code doesn't allow jeans, for one thing. She tends to wear things like Joe's jeggings in black. The school rule is that if it has a zipper they are pants and not leggings and are ok. She doesn't wear jeans outside of school - no interest. She does like 7 for all Mankind colored denim, so I get her the skinny jean version of those.

Next time she is polishing off an entire steak and salad I'll be sure to ask her if she is anorexic, though.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is very thin and looks just fine in jeggings.

If you're chunky or otherwise curvy, they'll look indecent. No problem: There are many other pants style to flatter girls who are not stick-thin.

[Anonymous]

Think of Jeggings as tights. Cover up butt and crotch (no more camel-toes please) with cute long shirts and tops. Layer with cardigans, jackets and scarves. Pair with nice boots and your child can be well dressed and stylish, without looking inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is very thin and looks just fine in jeggings.

If you're chunky or otherwise curvy, they'll look indecent. No problem: There are many other pants style to flatter girls who are not stick-thin.

I think that's half the problem, PP. The jeggings objectors are probably not stick thin, nor are their daughters.

[Anonymous]

Glad my DD just likes basketball shorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Think of Jeggings as tights. Cover up butt and crotch (no more camel-toes please) with cute long shirts and tops. Layer with cardigans, jackets and scarves. Pair with nice boots and your child can be well dressed and stylish, without looking inappropriate.

+100 Grown women could take this advice as well.

[Anonymous]

If it has a zipper and pockets, they can be worn as pants. No zipper, pockets, or denim seams, they're leggings/jeggings and the backside and crotch should be covered.

We allow leggings with tunics, long sweaters, and short dresses. We allow skinny jeans/jeggings that appear like pants to be worn like pants but they can't look as though you were poured into them.

[Anonymous]

There are entire campaigns on how leggings are not pants (LANP). Leggings are footless tights.

https://www.facebook.com/TheRealLANP

http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/leggings-are-not-pants

https://www.pinterest.com/sarafruitbat/why-leggings-are-not-pants/

And here is a great flowchart you can give your daughters to help them figure out if they are wearing pants. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/05/05/am-i-wearing-pants_n_858179.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At least no bubble butt. Is it really that essential to see that little bottom of hers? Oh yeah, they feel better to.

"All Grown Up and No Where to Go" is about tweens who are allowed inappropriate behavior, written by child psychologist David Elkind.

You may want to read it.

I would like to know more, before I order the book. Does he say that 10-year-old girls who wore leggings as pants grow up to be teenagers who behave badly?

Dr. David Elkind has some very valuable professional experience, imo. Based on his extensive experience (and education), he knows that tweens whose parents allow premature "adult behaviors", often suffer serious consequences.

Poor self-image and low self-esteem are surprisingly common among these patients. I say surprising, because these girls are often near-perfect academic students, athletic stars, seemingly social butterflies (queen bees), and yet they're suffering from anorexia. And their parents were in complete denial, too caught up with their daughter's "success" to notice what's really been going on behind the scenes.

I haven't read the book, but I'm 40 and this is nothing new. Perfectionist girls often have eating disorders. I saw this is many of the girls I grew up with. It had nothing to do with them acting too grown up. It has to do w/ being a perfectionist and being in control.
How can that be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is very thin and looks just fine in jeggings.

If you're chunky or otherwise curvy, they'll look indecent. No problem: There are many other pants style to flatter girls who are not stick-thin.

If you think your child looks "just fine" in her tight(?) pants, why are you here defending yourself? Just keep letting her do grown-up stuff, and see where she is with that in 5-10 years. If you're so sure that you're doing the right thing now, then she'll be off in college, self-deciplined enough to tend to her studies, dress appropriately, eat decently, and drink responsibly(?). Because what you're doing now is laying the groundwork for all that will follow. Best wishes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it has a zipper and pockets, they can be worn as pants. No zipper, pockets, or denim seams, they're leggings/jeggings and the backside and crotch should be covered.

We allow leggings with tunics, long sweaters, and short dresses. We allow skinny jeans/jeggings that appear like pants to be worn like pants but they can't look as though you were poured into them.

Those are my rules too. It becomes even more important as they get older and curvier. What looks acceptable on my 10 year old is not acceptable on my 15 year old because their body types are vastly different. Cover the butt - that's all I ask!

[Anonymous]

Of course leggings are pants - stand-alone pants.

My tall, skinny 9-year old DD has been wearing Hanna and Gymboree leggings as pants her entire life, with regular tops. Button and fly pants are simply too big for her - even moved to the 8th adjustable button!

She wears Hanna footless tights under her school uniform jumpers and skorts in the winter.

The hysteria on this thread is...hysterical!