Sexual Frustration as Romantic Motivation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a wife in your situation. I thought that letting the tension build up would lead to better relationship, but it just led me to being snappish. Taking care of myself regularly was/is the only way to avoid my husband getting the "upper hand" in the relationship. I still initiate 100% of the time, but I am more likely to do so at a frequency he can handle, rather than wanting it every other day, which annoyed him.

Why are you playing power games with a man you are supposed to love?

What do you mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I am a wife in your situation. I thought that letting the tension build up would lead to better relationship, but it just led me to being snappish. Taking care of myself regularly was/is the only way to avoid my husband getting the "upper hand" in the relationship. I still initiate 100% of the time, but I am more likely to do so at a frequency he can handle, rather than wanting it every other day, which annoyed him.

Why are you playing power games with a man you are supposed to love?

What do you mean?

I believe "playing power games" refers to the earlier reference to avoiding her husband "getting the upper hand in the relationship."