Do you think that its rude for neither parent to stay home to hand out candy?

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Anonymous wrote:We both planned to go, but it was only when reading other halloween posts did it occur to me that it might be rude. No, i am not intentionally trying to be a jerk, i was honestly asking. Sure I figured when my youngest was 3 or 4, one parent would start to stay home, but right now we have a toddler old enough to understand that he wants to dress up trick or treat with his siblings, but not old enough to walk long distances and up tall front door steps without being picked up frequently. I honestly thought it was okay, our neighbors know we have toddlers, but am realizing maybe its not okay. really i dont understand the need for the hostility here.

Put your toddler in a wagon.

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Anonymous wrote:Please OP - go with your child, go all together! Why miss it? They are only young once.
Either turn lights off or leave bowl and note.
The rest of the neighborhood WILL SURVIVE it. I assure you.

What is everyone else does that?

Then it would be a sign of the end of times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We both planned to go, but it was only when reading other halloween posts did it occur to me that it might be rude. No, i am not intentionally trying to be a jerk, i was honestly asking. Sure I figured when my youngest was 3 or 4, one parent would start to stay home, but right now we have a toddler old enough to understand that he wants to dress up trick or treat with his siblings, but not old enough to walk long distances and up tall front door steps without being picked up frequently. I honestly thought it was okay, our neighbors know we have toddlers, but am realizing maybe its not okay. really i dont understand the need for the hostility here.

Forgot to say - this is OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We both planned to go, but it was only when reading other halloween posts did it occur to me that it might be rude. No, i am not intentionally trying to be a jerk, i was honestly asking. Sure I figured when my youngest was 3 or 4, one parent would start to stay home, but right now we have a toddler old enough to understand that he wants to dress up trick or treat with his siblings, but not old enough to walk long distances and up tall front door steps without being picked up frequently. I honestly thought it was okay, our neighbors know we have toddlers, but am realizing maybe its not okay. really i dont understand the need for the hostility here.

Go with your family, and leave a bowl of candy on the doorstep. Win win.

[Anonymous]

There's a troll on your board. OP- please go and enjoy yourself!

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Anonymous wrote:Op - I feel like some one is posting over and over being a jerk.

Go, have fun, leave a bowl. Don't over think it.

+1 It kind of sounds like there is a teenager or mentally off person posting over and over.

This is OP - maybe you are right. Because i am really taken aback by the hostility if it really is multiple people posting. And no this is a real OP, not a sock puppet. I have identified myself as OP each time (except one which i later corrected) so i dont know why there is so much argument at posts that are not mine.

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Anonymous wrote:There's a troll on your board. OP- please go and enjoy yourself!

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

I have to vote with the "it's rude" crowd. A big portion of the fun is for the kids to say 'trick or treat' and show off their costumes. Wandering around and picking up candy from an unattended bowl doesn't seem fun or neighborly. It just isn't the same experience for the kids. Since you have another adult who can stay home to pass out candy, I think it is selfish of you to go out together and take that experience away from other kids.

I am a single parent so I will leave a bowl out, but pretty much everyone in my neighborhood knows I'm single so the bowl won't seem rude (I hope). Plus, I would feel like a jerk bringing my DS around to other houses if I didn't provide something for the other kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Leaving a bowl is stupid. The first jerk will take all of it and there will be nothing else for the other visitors.

I totally agree.
Never seen anyone leave a bowl.

People do that in our neighborhood. And no, it doesn't get raided by the first kid. Guess it depends on your neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to vote with the "it's rude" crowd. A big portion of the fun is for the kids to say 'trick or treat' and show off their costumes. Wandering around and picking up candy from an unattended bowl doesn't seem fun or neighborly. It just isn't the same experience for the kids. Since you have another adult who can stay home to pass out candy, I think it is selfish of you to go out together and take that experience away from other kids.

I am a single parent so I will leave a bowl out, but pretty much everyone in my neighborhood knows I'm single so the bowl won't seem rude (I hope). Plus, I would feel like a jerk bringing my DS around to other houses if I didn't provide something for the other kids.

OP - this is a fair and rational (and not hostile) argument. I never thought About this, maybe because we are still pretty new to having trick-or-treaters. No excuse i know. Thanks you for not being hostile. We will try to take turns.

[Anonymous]

Duh, the rude thing to do would be to leave a sign saying "take 1 piece of candy" with an EMPTY bowl. Everything else is fair game. Peeps on here be crazy!

[Anonymous]

It does seem a little self-centered to me. There are two aspects to Halloween: sending your kids round to the neighbors, for candy, and giving candy to those same neighbors, kids when they come to your house. It seems to me that you fail to "uphold" part two if both parents do part two. Even if you've leave a bowl out. Because you are demonstrating by your choice that you'd rather see your own child get candy from others than extend the same experience to others' children.

Only exception would be single parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have to vote with the "it's rude" crowd. A big portion of the fun is for the kids to say 'trick or treat' and show off their costumes. Wandering around and picking up candy from an unattended bowl doesn't seem fun or neighborly. It just isn't the same experience for the kids. Since you have another adult who can stay home to pass out candy, I think it is selfish of you to go out together and take that experience away from other kids.

I am a single parent so I will leave a bowl out, but pretty much everyone in my neighborhood knows I'm single so the bowl won't seem rude (I hope). Plus, I would feel like a jerk bringing my DS around to other houses if I didn't provide something for the other kids.

OP - this is a fair and rational (and not hostile) argument. I never thought About this, maybe because we are still pretty new to having trick-or-treaters. No excuse i know. Thanks you for not being hostile. We will try to take turns.

I meant this is OP here.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your you test needs to be carried why does he or she need to trick or treat. Why doesn't the little one hand out candy with one parent?

Because mom is a princess that can't miss a single second of spending time with precious.
It's all about her and she prefers they all go out as a family.
To hell with the other kids out there.
Because I like staying home and handing out candy to your kid.

I can't believe you've taken passing out candy to the level of self-righteous martyrdom. I don't usually "omg" but OMG get a grip!

+1

WHAT??? Can't believe these posts. Yes, the other kids will have their Halloween ruined, shot to hell, along with their bags of candy.

And YOU, Halloween Martyr Mom are the only bastion of sweet colorful candy against the dark empty houses of terror and despair.
Your sacrifice will not be forgotten.

Next week these same posters will likely post in a thread about how they throw away all their kids' candy into the trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It does seem a little self-centered to me. There are two aspects to Halloween: sending your kids round to the neighbors, for candy, and giving candy to those same neighbors, kids when they come to your house. It seems to me that you fail to "uphold" part two if both parents do part two. Even if you've leave a bowl out. Because you are demonstrating by your choice that you'd rather see your own child get candy from others than extend the same experience to others' children.

Only exception would be single parents.

This is OP here - i mentioned earlier that we dont get many trick-or-treaters. Maybe 5 all night long We would be home with our little kids before the last 2 of the 5 even arrived at our doorstep. If we had lots of trick-or-treaters i could see it being a ton of fun, and also might feel more obligation.