Would you fly to Europe at 33 weeks pregnant for a family event?
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Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
Heck, my mom had to miss her sister's wedding when she was pregnant with me. And it was within driving distance (though an 8-hour drive). They all got over it. Bar mitzvahs just aren't that important in the scheme of things -- and I say this as a Jew. They are important, but not as important as your health and the baby's. If you are at all uncomfortable, you should not go. Your husband can go if you are ok with that -- personally, I would be ok with it. Of course I'd be sad if my husband weren't there for the birth, but it wouldn't be the end of the world. My grandfather missed all of his kids' births b/c he was serving in the army in Germany. My dad missed mine because he was on call in the same hospital my mom delivered in. Etc. Honestly, I am kind of impressed you were going to a bar mitzvah overseas in the first place! I would have thought the expense alone would make it reasonable for you to decline, even for family -- and the advanced pregnancy makes it all the more so. If your husband is very close with his brother or sister and/or the bar mitzvah boy, or sees his family very rarely, he should perhaps consider it. Otherwise, don't bother. |
Anonymous
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I do not think airline will let you fly at 33 weeks pregnant.
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Anonymous
| NO WAY!! I wouldn't do it at 28 weeks definitely not 33. |
Anonymous
| I'd do it but only if I were really close to the family and it was a big event. And only if I really WANTED to do it - which it sounds like you don't. Otherwise, just send DH. |
Anonymous
Especially on an international flight. They don't want that liability. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry about your nieces situation, but.....flying for 8 hours is less likely to leave you with problems than taking a car trip. In a plane you can get up and walk as often as you need to; every 30 minutes if you want. Anyway, I'll be the outlier and say I don't think it's a big deal. If you by freak chance deliver that early, you will be in a country with much cheaper health care costs than here. And I would imagine that in London you could get the same level care as in the US. And by 33 weeks, you have a pretty robust preemie on your hands. Much worse would be delivering a 24-30 week preemie in a foreign country, as that's an area of care that the US tends to specialize in. But honestly the chances of delivering then are so, so low. You could also ask your Dr. |
Anonymous
| Also remember customs could be an issue. They are always skeptical of very pregnant women asking for admission (for obvious reasons). |
Anonymous
Glad you think the public NHS is as good as any US hospital. Remember that Europe doesn't consider babies born before (X weeks - 30?) to actually be a live birth. Preemie care in Europe...yeah I wouldn't count on it being the same. |
Anonymous
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Definitely, no.
Make this one of the first decisions you make that puts your child's well-being above all other things, including pressure from other people to do something you are not comfortable with. |
Anonymous
| NO |
Anonymous
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Yes, because I would be fine giving birth in London and its unlikely that you will have the baby anyway. This is assuming you have not already had a complicated pregnancy.
I felt fine at 33 weeks, but YMMV. |
Anonymous
| No way. My friend flew to CA and got a blood clot, and that flight is much shorter. Send DH. |
Anonymous
| I don't think the airlines will let you on the plane. |
Anonymous
Yes they would. 33 weeks isn't late enough to scare them sufficiently and they don't assume liability anyway. Not that I think OP should go if she doesn't want to of course, just don't rely on the "airlines won't let me" argument or you might get arguments. |