When we are each different religions...what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

"Nothing" when it comes to religion, can be a good thing.

The point is that saying, "we will do nothing; our children can choose a religion when they are older" is meaningless given what the stats say re what that approach yields.

So, if not indoctrinated as children, people tend not to become religious.

I think that's a good thing.

There is no such thing as raising children without installing in them belief systems (in all areas). Call it indoctrination, values, whatever, there is no way not to do it.

For me, raising children in a religious tradition is a positive thing.

[Anonymous]

OP- I think you have a very snide tone when you talk about Judaism. That attitude will not serve you well if you are marrying a Jew. Please just break it off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- I think you have a very snide tone when you talk about Judaism. That attitude will not serve you well if you are marrying a Jew. Please just break it off.

Snide? How so? Because I dont' want to become a Jew? Seriously...grow up and develop a thicker skin. I was born Catholic and will die Catholic though I profess to not be very religious (not a practicing Catholic) but could see it changing when kids come into the picture. Don't see how I could be snide when I am about to marry a Jewish man. You are taking offense because I will not convert and are probably even more infuriated that he will willing to convert and in fact is. The important thing here is that we have worked this out in a way that suits US.

[Anonymous]

Religion can do funny things to people. A lot like money. Too much of either is not a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

"Nothing" when it comes to religion, can be a good thing.

The point is that saying, "we will do nothing; our children can choose a religion when they are older" is meaningless given what the stats say re what that approach yields.

So, if not indoctrinated as children, people tend not to become religious.

I think that's a good thing.

There is no such thing as raising children without installing in them belief systems (in all areas). Call it indoctrination, values, whatever, there is no way not to do it.

For me, raising children in a religious tradition is a positive thing.

"Beliefs systems" yes, we all have them -- belief in the value of compassion, honesty, hard work, etc. However, most religions involve belief in supernatural events and I think there is no inherent value to teaching children to believe in things like a virgin birth, resurrection of a dead body and a sea dividing and people living in a desert for 40 years with food falling from heaven.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you and your possible DH could both just give up religion altogether as a compromise and to find neutral ground. The side benefit would be that you'd no longer believe in stupid fairy tales.

[Anonymous]

Please read the post before offering up your malicious advice. We have come to a meeting of the minds. He is converting our kids are being raised Catholic and we will honor some of the less religious holidays. Case closed. Thank you-

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please read the post before offering up your malicious advice. We have come to a meeting of the minds. He is converting our kids are being raised Catholic and we will honor some of the less religious holidays. Case closed. Thank you-

I hope his parents are happy.

[Anonymous]

The point is THEY are happy (op and fiance) if their respective families love them they will be happy too.

[Anonymous]

I am not religious. Was not brought up in a religious home, however my husband is Jewish (also not religious). My parents are Moslem (dad) and Catholic (mom). As much as we say we dont want to brig religion into our new babies life...it is something we are starting to talk about more or at least being open to. It is easy in that there is no pressure, neither of us comes from religious families. I have ordered a few books to "enlighten" myself but when you think of these three religions, what commonality is there off the bat aside from the spirituality component?

[Anonymous]

You may wish to speak with the clergy associated with the Interfaith Families Project of Washington, DC to get some clarity. We are a community of over 100 families of Christian -Jewish persuasions (and some Muslim / Hindu thrown in as well.) and are raising our children with knowledge of both of their family traditions, without creating Christmakkah.

www.iffp.net

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can marry a jew without converting. If you want to have children then you will need to convert so that the kid can be born jewish. But you can wait and as long as you convert before kid is 7 it will be jewish

Did you just make this up???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can marry a jew without converting. If you want to have children then you will need to convert so that the kid can be born jewish. But you can wait and as long as you convert before kid is 7 it will be jewish

Did you just make this up???

no
true story

[Anonymous]

She doesn't want to raise her kids Jewish, how can you have a problem with that? Its her prerogative. Her future husband agreed to raise them Catholic, it works for them so is really none of your business.