Is my DD being completly disrespectful? VENT

[Anonymous]

If this is for real, it's sad. OP seems more concerend about her daughter keeping up appearances by attending the wake - eg, how this reflects on OP- rather than on helping her daughter mourn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 14 when my grandfather died and I begged not to go to the wake. I had been to one before and it really disturbed me. I didn't want my last memories of my grandfather (who was like a father to me) to be dead in a coffin. My mom made me go and I was so upset that I skipped the funeral the next day. I regret not going to the funeral but I wished my mother hadn't made me go to the wake. By that age, your child should know herself well enough to make that choice.

This. My grandfather died when I was 14 too and instead of me remembering him as a strong, healthy man -- my last memory of him is a shadow of himself in his casket. You don't need to see a dead body to be respectful or to grieve.