At the pool, do you discipline other people's kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Twice now, I have, when kids were tormenting either my child or other very small kids with squirt guns or cannons. On one occasion I took a squirt gun and threw it over the baby pool fence. On another occasion I hollered STOP IT RIGHT NOW. The kid looked at me in a daze and then ran to his mother on the other side of the pool park. He then came back about ten minutes later and apologized to me. I assume after he told his mother what happened she took my side.

I think this is too much. Great modeling of how to be a bully.

The harsh tone of voice and demand to stop, not so much.

Throwing the squirt gun over the fence was a bit too much. I would have confiscated it, however.

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I have no problem asking a child who is misbehaving and is bugging/harming my 2 yo to stop in a nice way---I would also have no problem asking that of an adult. But I wouldn't yell at them or correct them--not my job. I would remove my child from the situation and tell the parents. Let them discipline their child. If it still doesn't stop, talk to pool management. I tend to shy away from "parenting" other people's kids. If my kid was acting up, I would rather a parent come to me and let me know.

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I hated it when my toddlers were in the baby pool and older sibs came in so I made a promise to never allow my older ones in after the stated age limit. I think it was 6 and I have kept my promise. So, those of you with little ones, remember how you feel now and when you are back in baby pool with 2, 3rd, or 4 th child don't let your older ones in either. If everyone remembered this, the pool or playground would be a much more fun place!

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Anonymous wrote:Twice now, I have, when kids were tormenting either my child or other very small kids with squirt guns or cannons. On one occasion I took a squirt gun and threw it over the baby pool fence. On another occasion I hollered STOP IT RIGHT NOW. The kid looked at me in a daze and then ran to his mother on the other side of the pool park. He then came back about ten minutes later and apologized to me. I assume after he told his mother what happened she took my side.

I think this is too much. Great modeling of how to be a bully.

Oh for the love! A bully. Right. Go console your 13 year old who got mad because someone hurt his feewings.

Throwing a toy over a fence? Hollering across the pool? Sounds like someone needs an anger management class. Admit it, you wouldn't tolerate your child acting that way.

Ummm yes, discipline is bullying and adults need anger management because they raise their voices to get a child's attention. Good luck with that philosophy.

Taking a toy away is discipline. Throwing it over a fence is insane.

It's effective. Those kids will remember never to fuck around when that mom is there. And obviously it wasn't too bad if the mom of the offender made the offender go apologize to "insane" mom.

Are those the types of problem solving skills you want to model? Why not take it away and give it to a staff member instead?

Insane Pool Rage Anger Management Bully Mom Here.

You know, posters are acting as if there was a range of choices here from a close-by attentive staffer who I could have easily asked to intervene, to a hovering mother who was eagerly waiting to discipline him, to a self sufficent toddler I could have just abandoned in order to whisk the squirt cannon off to some storage locker, to this little darling (in reality a child way too large for the baby pool) who did not respond to my requests to stop and my good-natured entreaties that he play more nicely. Here's the thing. None of these other magical choices existed or worked. I did what I thought best as you would have as well. Apparently you were all there (NOT) and felt I didn't do the right thing. So sorry I failed you, but hey, I think this kid lived through it without permanent psychological scars. And as several people pointed out, the face that he returned and gave me a very nice apology...to me says that his mother kind of agreed with me about his behavior in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:Twice now, I have, when kids were tormenting either my child or other very small kids with squirt guns or cannons. On one occasion I took a squirt gun and threw it over the baby pool fence. On another occasion I hollered STOP IT RIGHT NOW. The kid looked at me in a daze and then ran to his mother on the other side of the pool park. He then came back about ten minutes later and apologized to me. I assume after he told his mother what happened she took my side.

I think this is too much. Great modeling of how to be a bully.

Oh for the love! A bully. Right. Go console your 13 year old who got mad because someone hurt his feewings.

Throwing a toy over a fence? Hollering across the pool? Sounds like someone needs an anger management class. Admit it, you wouldn't tolerate your child acting that way.

Ummm yes, discipline is bullying and adults need anger management because they raise their voices to get a child's attention. Good luck with that philosophy.

Taking a toy away is discipline. Throwing it over a fence is insane.

It's effective. Those kids will remember never to fuck around when that mom is there. And obviously it wasn't too bad if the mom of the offender made the offender go apologize to "insane" mom.

Are those the types of problem solving skills you want to model? Why not take it away and give it to a staff member instead?

I have literally zero problems modeling those problem solving skills. If the staff members had been paying attention, they'd have handled the situation. If they're not paying attention and it's up to me to parent the little shits of the pool, I have no problems using actions they will understand. Throwing a gun that is terrorizing little kids over a fence is not going to traumatize these kids. It's going to get across the message that it's not acceptable and it won't be tolerated.

There you go again. Temper, temper.

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Anonymous wrote:Twice now, I have, when kids were tormenting either my child or other very small kids with squirt guns or cannons. On one occasion I took a squirt gun and threw it over the baby pool fence. On another occasion I hollered STOP IT RIGHT NOW. The kid looked at me in a daze and then ran to his mother on the other side of the pool park. He then came back about ten minutes later and apologized to me. I assume after he told his mother what happened she took my side.

I think this is too much. Great modeling of how to be a bully.

Oh for the love! A bully. Right. Go console your 13 year old who got mad because someone hurt his feewings.

Throwing a toy over a fence? Hollering across the pool? Sounds like someone needs an anger management class. Admit it, you wouldn't tolerate your child acting that way.

Ummm yes, discipline is bullying and adults need anger management because they raise their voices to get a child's attention. Good luck with that philosophy.

Taking a toy away is discipline. Throwing it over a fence is insane.

It's effective. Those kids will remember never to fuck around when that mom is there. And obviously it wasn't too bad if the mom of the offender made the offender go apologize to "insane" mom.

Are those the types of problem solving skills you want to model? Why not take it away and give it to a staff member instead?

Insane Pool Rage Anger Management Bully Mom Here.

You know, posters are acting as if there was a range of choices here from a close-by attentive staffer who I could have easily asked to intervene, to a hovering mother who was eagerly waiting to discipline him, to a self sufficent toddler I could have just abandoned in order to whisk the squirt cannon off to some storage locker, to this little darling (in reality a child way too large for the baby pool) who did not respond to my requests to stop and my good-natured entreaties that he play more nicely. Here's the thing. None of these other magical choices existed or worked. I did what I thought best as you would have as well. Apparently you were all there (NOT) and felt I didn't do the right thing. So sorry I failed you, but hey, I think this kid lived through it without permanent psychological scars. And as several people pointed out, the face that he returned and gave me a very nice apology...to me says that his mother kind of agreed with me about his behavior in the first place.

I have NO problem with you and think you are great! These other moms are the ones ignoring their children and thats why they are defensive.

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Anonymous wrote:Twice now, I have, when kids were tormenting either my child or other very small kids with squirt guns or cannons. On one occasion I took a squirt gun and threw it over the baby pool fence. On another occasion I hollered STOP IT RIGHT NOW. The kid looked at me in a daze and then ran to his mother on the other side of the pool park. He then came back about ten minutes later and apologized to me. I assume after he told his mother what happened she took my side.

I think this is too much. Great modeling of how to be a bully.

Oh for the love! A bully. Right. Go console your 13 year old who got mad because someone hurt his feewings.

Throwing a toy over a fence? Hollering across the pool? Sounds like someone needs an anger management class. Admit it, you wouldn't tolerate your child acting that way.

Ummm yes, discipline is bullying and adults need anger management because they raise their voices to get a child's attention. Good luck with that philosophy.

Taking a toy away is discipline. Throwing it over a fence is insane.

It's effective. Those kids will remember never to fuck around when that mom is there. And obviously it wasn't too bad if the mom of the offender made the offender go apologize to "insane" mom.

Are those the types of problem solving skills you want to model? Why not take it away and give it to a staff member instead?

Insane Pool Rage Anger Management Bully Mom Here.

You know, posters are acting as if there was a range of choices here from a close-by attentive staffer who I could have easily asked to intervene, to a hovering mother who was eagerly waiting to discipline him, to a self sufficent toddler I could have just abandoned in order to whisk the squirt cannon off to some storage locker, to this little darling (in reality a child way too large for the baby pool) who did not respond to my requests to stop and my good-natured entreaties that he play more nicely. Here's the thing. None of these other magical choices existed or worked. I did what I thought best as you would have as well. Apparently you were all there (NOT) and felt I didn't do the right thing. So sorry I failed you, but hey, I think this kid lived through it without permanent psychological scars. And as several people pointed out, the face that he returned and gave me a very nice apology...to me says that his mother kind of agreed with me about his behavior in the first place.

I have NO problem with you and think you are great! These other moms are the ones ignoring their children and thats why they are defensive.

Agreed!

[Anonymous]

self-righteous uptight parents of young toddlers are extremely annoying. Older kids have different energy levels and disrespecting their personhood in the way that above psycho-mom prides herself for doing is worse than the annoying behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:self-righteous uptight parents of young toddlers are extremely annoying. Older kids have different energy levels and disrespecting their personhood in the way that above psycho-mom prides herself for doing is worse than the annoying behavior.

What psycho-babble horse shit you just spewed. I'm sure your "different level energy" kids are soooooo well behaved.

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Anonymous wrote:self-righteous uptight parents of young toddlers are extremely annoying. Older kids have different energy levels and disrespecting their personhood in the way that above psycho-mom prides herself for doing is worse than the annoying behavior.

Translation
Inability to behave = different energy level

Discipline = disrespecting personhood

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Anonymous wrote:self-righteous uptight parents of young toddlers are extremely annoying. Older kids have different energy levels and disrespecting their personhood in the way that above psycho-mom prides herself for doing is worse than the annoying behavior.

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I discipline other people's kids all the time, pool or no pool.

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self-righteous uptight parents of young toddlers are extremely annoying. Older kids have different energy levels and disrespecting their personhood in the way that above psycho-mom prides herself for doing is worse than the annoying behavior.

Translation
Inability to behave = different energy level

Discipline = disrespecting personhood

LOL - my kids are very well-behaved and I don't bring inappropriate toys to the pool like waterguns. That said, children are not monkeys, and when you are not able to get them to do what you want, grabbing their toys and throwing them over a fence or yelling at them turns you into the two-year-old. If the water gun really bothers you and you really can't get them to stop, then you need to work on your parenting skills.

I've been able to speak to older kids misbehaving in a way that got their attention and got them to leave me and my kids alone. I don't worry about what they are doing unless it is directly affecting me and my kids. I don't waste enough energy on it to feel the need to come to DCUM and tell everyone about how BAD those OLDER kids are and how I am such a badass for meting out discipline that their parents don't have the balls to mete out. Seriously - you got your applause, but I am sending you raspberries!

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Anonymous wrote:I hated it when my toddlers were in the baby pool and older sibs came in so I made a promise to never allow my older ones in after the stated age limit. I think it was 6 and I have kept my promise. So, those of you with little ones, remember how you feel now and when you are back in baby pool with 2, 3rd, or 4 th child don't let your older ones in either. If everyone remembered this, the pool or playground would be a much more fun place!

I agree with this and its especially annoying when the lifeguards call for "adult swim" and the 7-8 year olds come rushing over to the baby pool. Personally, I think the whole adult swim thing for the entire pool is ridiculous--the pool is huge and they can create a section for it, but I digress. That's the time when I usually take my kid to the swings.

On the same token, I wonder what parents with kids who are a few years apart in age are supposed to do. At our pool, kids can't enter the main pool until they are potty-trained and the baby pool supposedly stops at 6 years old (although that rule is never enforced). If you are there by yourself, you can't let your kid swim in the main pool alone but the baby isn't allowed in the main pool. I don't have this problem myself as I only have one kid but I try to be a little understanding of those with bigger kids in the kiddie pool area because I'm not sure what else they are supposed to do (at our pool at least).

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self-righteous uptight parents of young toddlers are extremely annoying. Older kids have different energy levels and disrespecting their personhood in the way that above psycho-mom prides herself for doing is worse than the annoying behavior.

Translation
Inability to behave = different energy level

Discipline = disrespecting personhood

LOL - my kids are very well-behaved and I don't bring inappropriate toys to the pool like waterguns. That said, children are not monkeys, and when you are not able to get them to do what you want, grabbing their toys and throwing them over a fence or yelling at them turns you into the two-year-old. If the water gun really bothers you and you really can't get them to stop, then you need to work on your parenting skills.

I've been able to speak to older kids misbehaving in a way that got their attention and got them to leave me and my kids alone. I don't worry about what they are doing unless it is directly affecting me and my kids. I don't waste enough energy on it to feel the need to come to DCUM and tell everyone about how BAD those OLDER kids are and how I am such a badass for meting out discipline that their parents don't have the balls to mete out. Seriously - you got your applause, but I am sending you raspberries!

I don't remember saying anything about how bad these older kids were, or being a badass, or their parents' balls.

I think you have an axe to grind here.