Would you have done the same as I did-confronting gross parent at amusement park

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If and adult needed a diaper and left it in public I would assume that this person would deserve a little respect for whatever they are going through so Yes. I would just tell a worker and not possibly humiliate a human being who needs and adult diaper.

I btw have a 46 year old friend who needs an adult diaper and no he can not find the trash can himself.

So does he leave his adult diaper where ever he happens to change it?

Whatever lady, get over yourself. You are making excuses for lazy, nasty assholes. They are everywhere and it's about time people start calling these idiots out. Going through something "difficult" makes it ok to leave a dirty diaper in a play area? The guy had a stroller and could have easily folded the diaper and tossed it in the bottom. That's what I do. Done. There is no excuse for his nastiness, except for the one's you are trying to create for him.

I'm not making excuses. I am just not going to be an a-hole because somebody is gross. I will handle it with a little more grace. If you want to lower yourself to their level haveat it. I think in the end it isan unhealthy way to go through life - judgemental and confrontational.

[Anonymous]

My first reaction is you're on vacation with your family--why are you on DCUM in the first place? Putting that aside, I wouldn't have said anything unless the diaper actually affected me, like I sat or stepped on it by accident. There are people all over the place doing things I wouldn't necessarily do but I can't police everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he had been a very well dressed and monied
White man, I doubt you and your husband would not have made an issue of it. Something tells me he was NOT.

I pictured a middle class bumbling white dad whose wife usually does everything and suddenly he had to pitch in and help and didn't know what to do. the fact he left the diaper there spells entitlement/cluelessness to me with a touch of anger from working in a job he hates but pays well so he stays. But that's just me.

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having thought about it, you sound like an insufferable busybody, OP. You also make a lot of assumptions. You ASSUMED he was going to walk away and leave it on the wall, but you don't know this. Instead, you got all in his face even though it sounds like he was engaging a small child (small enough to use a diaper) while his wife was engaging another child.

Imagine this thread beginning another way: "There was a small crying child at the amusement park. A couple of minutes later this idiot dad came up and I demanded to know why he left his child. He said he went to find a trash can for a used diaper. I got an employee because he abandoned his child. Hell, I'm gonna call CPS on his ass."

You were wrong, OP. Next time, save your righteousness for when the man actually walks away and leaves the diaper behind. No wonder he reacted to you with such hostility. How DARE you second-guess him?

No, you are wrong. As I said in the first post, when I saw the diaper, he was nowhere around. So I didn't ASSUME he would walk away and leave it, he already had. It was when he returned that I said something, and I believe he would have walked away again (this time, from the entire play area and to another part of the amusement park, perhaps).

And no, he was not engaging a small child when I said something to him. His wife had their children somewhere else in the playground area. He was standing there completely alone.

On the contrary, you said his stroller was parked in front of it. You did, in fact, make assumptions about his intentions. You were absolutely in the wrong. Next time hold your goddamned tongue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he had been a very well dressed and monied
White man, I doubt you and your husband would not have made an issue of it. Something tells me he was NOT.

I pictured a middle class bumbling white dad whose wife usually does everything and suddenly he had to pitch in and help and didn't know what to do. the fact he left the diaper there spells entitlement/cluelessness to me with a touch of anger from working in a job he hates but pays well so he stays. But that's just me.

Well, yeah, of course you picture that because that's the picture the idiot OP painted.

She sounds like a shrew. How dare her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having thought about it, you sound like an insufferable busybody, OP. You also make a lot of assumptions. You ASSUMED he was going to walk away and leave it on the wall, but you don't know this. Instead, you got all in his face even though it sounds like he was engaging a small child (small enough to use a diaper) while his wife was engaging another child.

Imagine this thread beginning another way: "There was a small crying child at the amusement park. A couple of minutes later this idiot dad came up and I demanded to know why he left his child. He said he went to find a trash can for a used diaper. I got an employee because he abandoned his child. Hell, I'm gonna call CPS on his ass."

You were wrong, OP. Next time, save your righteousness for when the man actually walks away and leaves the diaper behind. No wonder he reacted to you with such hostility. How DARE you second-guess him?

No, you are wrong. As I said in the first post, when I saw the diaper, he was nowhere around. So I didn't ASSUME he would walk away and leave it, he already had. It was when he returned that I said something, and I believe he would have walked away again (this time, from the entire play area and to another part of the amusement park, perhaps).

And no, he was not engaging a small child when I said something to him. His wife had their children somewhere else in the playground area. He was standing there completely alone.

On the contrary, you said his stroller was parked in front of it. You did, in fact, make assumptions about his intentions. You were absolutely in the wrong. Next time hold your goddamned tongue.

says the cursing poster...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he had been a very well dressed and monied
White man, I doubt you and your husband would not have made an issue of it. Something tells me he was NOT.

I pictured a middle class bumbling white dad whose wife usually does everything and suddenly he had to pitch in and help and didn't know what to do. the fact he left the diaper there spells entitlement/cluelessness to me with a touch of anger from working in a job he hates but pays well so he stays. But that's just me.

PP, too funny. I pictured the same!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are on vacation right now, and yesterday went to a large theme park. It had one of those giant play areas for kids--you know where there are a lot of nets to climb and long slides and such. There was a long wall and many of the parents were sitting on the wall, watching the kids play. So I was sitting there and my Dh comes up and talks to me for a minute while the kids were playing, and then he says "Ew, is that a used diaper?" I look to my left and about 3 feet from me, on the wall is a used folded up diaper. No one is really near it but a stroller is parked in front of it.

So maybe 5 minutes later a man comes up and is with the stroller parked in front of the diaper. He just stands there a couple minutes so finally I asked him if it was his.

He told me yes, then said "Do you have a problem with that?"

Me: Yes, that is really gross

Him: Well, do you see a trash can around here?

Me: If you can't find a trash can, you can put in a plastic bag and put in back in your diaper bag or stroller until you find one.

Him: Why don't you just worry about things that actually relate to you?



So I found the nearest employee and told them about the problem. As I am doing this, he starts calling over to his wife and kids to try and get them out of there (still leaving the diaper on the wall). The employee came over and told the many to throw away the diaper (there was a trash can about 15 fee from where the diaper had been sitting on the wall. I have no doubt that he was planning on just leaving the diaper there, if the employee hadn't said something.

Anyway, Am I unreasonable for thinking it's gross to just leave a dirty diaper sitting out like that while you go off to play with your kids (remember, when we first saw the diaper, he wasn't there, he had just left it sitting there for at least several minutes while he was somewhere else)? Would you have said something to the guy?

You are a dumb neurotic bitch. If you were in the DC area, you are lucky nobody took a swing at you - I would be very cautious about confronting peole around here - no half-steppin' in DC.

She is actually probably lucky she didn't get shot, after all they are in the "Stand Your Ground" wild wild west
State of Florida!

[Anonymous]

When you went to find the park employee, you probably should have mentioned he asked you where a trashcan was located and left it at that.

[Anonymous]

My mind always boggles at these threads where people are so willing to make excuses for vile, uncivilized, disgusting, anti-social behavior and call out someone who actually does something about it. OP, you did the right thing. I'd like to think I'd have done the same thing. But someone who is going to leave a dirty diaper lying on a wall might not be the sort of person who takes well to confrontation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he had been a very well dressed and monied
White man, I doubt you and your husband would not have made an issue of it. Something tells me he was NOT.

OP here

He was white, wearing shorts and T shirt with orange lettering on the back saying something about "Florida spring Training" on the back and a baseball cap with some kind of cartoon looking bird on it. He appeared to be in his mid-late 40's, was overweight and clean cut (no beard or mustache, short hair).

I have only skimmed through a few of the responses, but to comment on a few things I've seen brought up

--A few people said I should be out enjoying my vacation instead of posting about this on DCUM. When I posted this yesterday morning, I was in our hotel room, waiting for my husband to finish getting dressed. We were leaving for home as soon as everyone was dressed/packed up. We are home now.

--I didn't really set out expecting much of a confrontation, to be honest. I actually expected it was more a situation where he had been changing the diaper, put it down while he finished attending to the child, then forgot he left it there. I was actually expecting that after i asked him if the diaper was his, his response would be something more like "Oh! I forgot! Thanks! I'll throw it out". I assumed he was a reasonable person, before assuming he was a disgusting pig. My first assumption was wrong. I was never "all in his face" I remained seated the whole time until I walked over to the employee.

--Someone asked why I didn't offer him a bag. I didn't have one. My children are no longer in diapers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If and adult needed a diaper and left it in public I would assume that this person would deserve a little respect for whatever they are going through so Yes. I would just tell a worker and not possibly humiliate a human being who needs and adult diaper.

I btw have a 46 year old friend who needs an adult diaper and no he can not find the trash can himself.

Then he, obviously, has someone with him at all times to help him and this person should dispose of the soiled diaper properly. This definitely goes for a parent doing the same thing. Some things are a given and disposing of dirty diapers properly is one of them. As for someone who has just had bad news this is no excuse nor explanation for being filthy and common.