Older Son a "Bully", Any Lawyer Recomendations.

[Anonymous]

Please, OP. Remove the L word from your vocabulary in this instance. Threatening or actually bringing in a lawyer will force the school to get their lawyer, and then the whole thing escalates beyond reason. Think of your child. He was defending his family, and even though he chose an inappropriate word, he's at the age where kids can be very cruel, and kids can be very sensitive. It's tough to be 12 no matter the configuration of your family, so it has to be tougher if you have an unconventional family. The other child is not really at fault here -- it's his parents who are at fault for allowing him to express such views and in such a vicious way. Have they called you to apologize? Had my child done something like this, I would have been horrified, and forced him to get on the phone and call the other child and the other child's parents to apologize immediately.

You need to act in the best interest of your child. If he has a history with this other child, you need to get to the bottom of this. The school must make clear to the other child and his parents that his behavior is not allowed and will not be tolerated. Your child will be happier if this other boy leaves him alone, and he can get back to just being a kid at school going through all the regular stuff 12 year olds have to get through.

I would wait until you are as calm and as clear-headed as you can be before you try to talk with the school any further about this. When you feel ready, ask for a meeting and describe what happened as objectively as you can, and ask what the school has been doing to protect your son from bullying because his family is different from the average family. If the school tolerates criticism of gay parents, I'm not sure you want your child to be at this school, OP. The VP's saying that the other child was expressing a view on a modern issue is very odd, and would disturb me a lot were I you. Clearly, the other child was harassing your child; teasing is bullying, OP, and this child was deliberately trying to hurt your child because he has two dads. If your school tolerates such behavior, please, find your child another school!

So sorry you have to go through this OP. It must be very upsetting, but I agree with PPs that you need to calm down and think of the best way to handle it that will not hurt your child any further.