career conundrum: have you ever been fired or 'asked to leave' your job? wwyd?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wanted to post an update on this situation since it may help someone in the future.

After lengthy discussions with an extremely helpful and supportive HR manager last week, I turned in my letter of resignation yesterday. It was pretty clear that was my only course of action, especially after my boss told me that she just didn't see things working out for me in this job. HR confirmed for me that I'll be paid through the end of my 30-day notice (even if my boss tells me to leave before then) - I know this isn't universally true, but it's the practice at this company (thankfully!) - and my benefits will run through the end of September. Technically I "resigned in lieu of termination" which means I'll receive a neutral reference and be eligible for rehire (not that I'd want to, but in case I end up reporting this position on a future job application, at least there won't be a black mark on my employment history). I'll also be eligible to collect unemployment - but hopefully I'll get a new job between now and my last day here!

So I think this is probably the best possible outcome to this crappy situation. Thanks again to everyone who weighed in with advice and support - here's to successful and rewarding careers for us all!

Just out of curiosity - did you inflate your education and experience to get this job, or did the employer underestimate the skills needed to do the job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I wanted to post an update on this situation since it may help someone in the future.

After lengthy discussions with an extremely helpful and supportive HR manager last week, I turned in my letter of resignation yesterday. It was pretty clear that was my only course of action, especially after my boss told me that she just didn't see things working out for me in this job. HR confirmed for me that I'll be paid through the end of my 30-day notice (even if my boss tells me to leave before then) - I know this isn't universally true, but it's the practice at this company (thankfully!) - and my benefits will run through the end of September. Technically I "resigned in lieu of termination" which means I'll receive a neutral reference and be eligible for rehire (not that I'd want to, but in case I end up reporting this position on a future job application, at least there won't be a black mark on my employment history). I'll also be eligible to collect unemployment - but hopefully I'll get a new job between now and my last day here!

So I think this is probably the best possible outcome to this crappy situation. Thanks again to everyone who weighed in with advice and support - here's to successful and rewarding careers for us all!

Just out of curiosity - did you inflate your education and experience to get this job, or did the employer underestimate the skills needed to do the job?

The OP answered this question earlier:

Looking back on my interviews for this job I realize that my now-boss was very unclear about what exactly the day-to-day job was about. I get the big picture, but apparently our approaches are totally different - in fact, completely opposite - and she's not too keen on me doing things the way that makes sense to me. She's also one of these read-my-mind type supervisors - we'll go over an assignment, I'll think I'm clear on what needs to be done, but I haven't quite managed to hit the mark yet. I was definitely getting the sense that she was frustrated with me and then came the memo on Friday - and the fact that she cc'd HR - and so it became official.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, PP - I would never lie about my education or experience to get a job! This just isn't at all what I thought it was going to be, and I wouldn't be able to excel in this position without better mentorship from my boss (and she's made it crystal clear that she's not interested in being a mentor to me or anyone on the team). Perhaps I didn't ask the right questions during my interviews - but there's also something to be said for my boss not describing the position accurately and asking ME the right questions to ensure I would be a good fit for what she needed. This was just a very bad decision all around.

[Anonymous]

op, gl and congrats. i had a similar situation, had always been a star performer, and reading your story is healing...

[Anonymous]

Sounds like it worked out the best it could OP.

good luck with the job search

[Anonymous]

I would not worry about an FRV on a job less than 1 year. They are not all knowing as they claim. I have been fired from numerous jobs and successfully lied about titles, compensation, dates of employment, and used phony references.

To show the stupidity of credit checks they even put down one of my phony employers as a job where I worked.

One place where I was fired from I not only lied about reason for leaving but title even claiming I had been promoted. I used reference substitution and refused to put down the guy who fired me as a supervisor.

[Anonymous]

I was fired a few years back and was my boss told me he would write me a letter of recommendation. Just because the job didn't work, and my boss and I didn't mesh, didn't make me a bad employee. I was there, on time, and worked as hard as I could and tried to meet all requirements.

[Anonymous]

Good luck, OP! It's good that you recognized it's not a match, and there's something to be said for taking matters into your own hands. If and when it ever comes up down the line that you left (for example, if you aren't able to find something right away), you can explain the situation in a way that doesn't necessarily hurt your prospects. Will you update us when you find your next job? (And hey, if you post your field and/or the type of job you're looking for, maybe someone on DCUM knows of an upcoming opening!)