I'm 39 and have a 9mth old-can't decide if we should have a second or not?

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Anonymous wrote:Here's another factor. How would the addition of another impact on your current DC? There are so many ways to look at that, I know, but my view 7 years after adding number 2 is that I've ensured they both have best friends (each other) for life.

PP, this may be true now, but it may not be in the future. One simply cannot expect that this is going to happen in every case.

I can't agree more. My brother has been nothing but a constant cause of stress and anger in my life. There is always the other side to consider.

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I feel badly to hear people say that-I am sorting hoping that if have another it would be a boy because most brothers seem close (and then I would get to reuse all the cute boy clothes-ha ha! (I know it isn't always the case but I also think parenting has to be a factor in some way as far as how the kids interact? or am I totally off?)

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OP, I had to laugh about your thinking you can reuse the clothes if you have another boy. That will work until about age 3 when they wear the knees out of all pants before they grow out of them. On a serious side, I am glad that my second child was a boy and I am doing whatever I can to promote a close relationship between them.

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oh good point! I guess I'm just thinking of the drawer full of baby clothes that he barely wore or he grew out of ridiculously fast-that is another thing that makes me want to consider a second one-there are so many little things that I learned that would make life easier had I known them before he was born. (Like I would not have pre-made bottles and then heated them--making them to order is SO MUCH easier-plus after a c-sect I wouldn't have had my Mom running up and down the stairs constantly-I'd keep what I needed upstairs plus all the times he cried and I had to wait to warm the bottle was such a waste-I feel badly now that I know that--you can read books and talk to everyone until you are blue in the face but sometimes you just find things out on your own!