Game is rigged

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Run your own race and see what happens. Apply to other places too. Good luck.

This. Teaching your kid to be resentful or to constantly point to what isn't fair is a losing proposition and a surefire way to ensure their unhappiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

During Oligarchic regime it’s common…

[Anonymous]

At most elite/selective schools, there are more female applicants than males, so males typically have a higher admit rate already in order to balance the class by gender. That is likely a bigger "rig" than being a donor (absent "mega-donor").

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At most elite/selective schools, there are more female applicants than males, so males typically have a higher admit rate already in order to balance the class by gender. That is likely a bigger "rig" than being a donor (absent "mega-donor").

Editing to add: seven digits is not "mega".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pivot to choice #2. This is how it works at top privates and is the "risk" you take when attending.

At ours Princeton was off the table this year. The spots were 100% locked down by legacies, donors and athletes. Yale was wide open. The unhooked, very top kids applied to Yale SCEA and got in. Next year Princeton looks to be open. The landscape changes every admission year.

You will be amazed how many midwits and quasi dimwits populate Princeton undergraduate school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD is applying to a single digit selective college.
In her school there are two boys who are also applying, both from very wealthy families. One is legacy and heavily donates, another donates seven digit donations.

My kid has no chance.

During Oligarchic regime it’s common…

This.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

[Anonymous]

You are where you are because your forebearers thought it was rigged too. Stop making excuses and modeling loser behavior for your kid. A whole generation (maybe two?) is growing up to think that everything is rigged. Compared to what? Were there no differences or barriers thirty or forty years ago? No disadvantages? No Vietnam for kids who could not go to college? No discrimination against women or Blacks or Hispanics in admissions or the workplace? How dumb can all of you be to buy this kind of claptrap? Being first-generation is a huge advantage in admissions. Most kids I see going to Ivies and MIT/Cal Tech are not children of wealth, and most kids who destroy Ivy grads in professional school generally come from modest means. There has never been a better time to have kids from modest means with a shot to do what they want. Get over this crap and stop kvetching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

If your kid is similarly focused on these perceived injustices, she probably won’t be happy at this school anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

It depends on the college, whether you are at an elite (t10 nationally) feeder....what does "top stats" mean to you? What major? What ECs? What else?

Also, a legacy male applying to classics, who has a summer program at Paideia and Certamen is getting in early to Yale or Princeton if a donor/legacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The legacy kid is a mediocre student and doesn’t have top stats, but it doesn’t matter, right?

Quit whining and get on with it. Famine mentality is bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are where you are because your forebearers thought it was rigged too. Stop making excuses and modeling loser behavior for your kid. A whole generation (maybe two?) is growing up to think that everything is rigged. Compared to what? Were there no differences or barriers thirty or forty years ago? No disadvantages? No Vietnam for kids who could not go to college? No discrimination against women or Blacks or Hispanics in admissions or the workplace? How dumb can all of you be to buy this kind of claptrap? Being first-generation is a huge advantage in admissions. Most kids I see going to Ivies and MIT/Cal Tech are not children of wealth, and most kids who destroy Ivy grads in professional school generally come from modest means. There has never been a better time to have kids from modest means with a shot to do what they want. Get over this crap and stop kvetching.

+1

[Anonymous]

I’m begging to like the lottery admissions system they’re trying in Europe

[Anonymous]

Life is not fair. There must be another school your kid would love that has no kids with similar hooks applying early next year.

[Anonymous]

Whining in advance?

Prepping your excuses?

Are you teaching your kid all this?