Are there any men out there that aren't interested in having children?

[Anonymous]

My aunt and an uncle, both were childless, ine widowed, other divorced. They loved their nephews and nieces and spent money like water for them (houses, cars, tuitions, weddings etc), they are short on money and on helpers in old age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of the 30-something men I’ve dated don’t really want kids, it’s more of a “I’d have them if my partner wanted them”.

I think very, very few men actually want kids the way many women do. So you should be able to find someone.

This also goes for the 40 somethings in my experience. There are more women pushing to have children than their male partners are from anything I’ve seen..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Would you be open to adoption? That might be another path towards motherhood that doesnt involve any medical procedure.

OP here

Adoption is emotionally draining and can be extremely expensive, not to mention that many kids that are up for adoption also have special needs. At this point in my life I just want to relax, spend time travelling and exploring different hobbies.

Um, you're 30, not 65!

[Anonymous]

For men, children are the whole point of marriage. Why else get married otherwise? They don't need to, other than to be a father. Fatherhood is the only reason to put a ring on it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Are there any men out there that aren't interested in having children?

Almost every post here is about women having children with men who aren't aren't interested in having children.

They are also not interested in being loyal partner material.

Y’all just make stuff up…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is fine not wanting to go through it and simultaneously its also fine for a man for not agreeing to it. Both of them can find people who want similar things in their marriage.

Not OP, but her ex called her selfish for not putting herself through IVF. That's not a preference, that's self entitlement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally! And there are men who are totally open to adopting, if that's a route you want to pursue.

OP here: I looked into adoption and it's not for me. Adoption is a long potentially expensive process. I also consider that pursuing adoption after infertility is unfair to the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are - I have several friends who are childless by choice so neither they nor their husbands ever wanted children. I'm sorry for what you've gone through.

Same here! They have great lives!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are men out there that aren't interested in children but not many of them. Not wanting children can limit your pool a lot.

I understand how hard it is for you right now but I'd try having at least one if I were in your place. Children are amazing and will compensate for whatever difficulty you might be having at the moment. Don't deny yourself such a beautiful experience.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men who want to be good husbands usually want to be good fathers too. You may find single and young unicorns who can be good partners without wanting children but they might change their mind.

I guess I found a unicorn lol. Met and married in mid 20s. Married now 30 years. We retired early and are enjoying life as we have throughout the 30 years. We are lucky. Our estate is going to charity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Date someone who already has kids and doesn't want any more.

This is the way. most people divorced with kids don’t want more, especially if they are in their late 30s or 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My aunt and an uncle, both were childless, ine widowed, other divorced. They loved their nephews and nieces and spent money like water for them (houses, cars, tuitions, weddings etc), they are short on money and on helpers in old age.

Sounds like they were bad with money. That can happen whether you’re a parent or not. Definitely not a given that your kids will want to manage you in your old age as they have their own lives. Plan accordingly… parent or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For men, children are the whole point of marriage. Why else get married otherwise? They don't need to, other than to be a father. Fatherhood is the only reason to put a ring on it.

Who said marriage is the only option for a relationship?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most people in their early 30s will feel some kind of biological imperative. Basic human nature. At this age point, you need to very upfront with partners if you don't ever want children.

Do any birth control methods override the biological imperative?

Kindergarten birthday parties.

😂😂😂

[Anonymous]

It seems most men don’t really want kids, they just like the idea of it. When it comes down to actual parenting, good dads are in the minority.