Are there any men out there that aren't interested in having children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Are there any men out there that aren't interested in having children?

Almost every post here is about women having children with men who aren't aren't interested in having children.

I feel for OP, but I am LOL-ing here. It's almost like the relationship forum turned into performance art the past week or two.

[Anonymous]

Most people in their early 30s will feel some kind of biological imperative. Basic human nature. At this age point, you need to very upfront with partners if you don't ever want children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people in their early 30s will feel some kind of biological imperative. Basic human nature. At this age point, you need to very upfront with partners if you don't ever want children.

Do any birth control methods override the biological imperative?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in their early 30s will feel some kind of biological imperative. Basic human nature. At this age point, you need to very upfront with partners if you don't ever want children.

Do any birth control methods override the biological imperative?

Kindergarten birthday parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in their early 30s will feel some kind of biological imperative. Basic human nature. At this age point, you need to very upfront with partners if you don't ever want children.

Do any birth control methods override the biological imperative?

Spend time with children.

[Anonymous]

question for OP-how clear are you making it that children are an absolute no for you? Not being critical but I think that there is a natural tendency to maybe softpedal things early on so that you don't come across as too strident to a stranger. Are you being extremely clear that it's an absolute no for you?

[Anonymous]

Surrogacy.

[Anonymous]

Totally! And there are men who are totally open to adopting, if that's a route you want to pursue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally! And there are men who are totally open to adopting, if that's a route you want to pursue.

Same poster. Adding this: My mom's friend and her husband adopted because the friend had diabetes and getting pregnant would be too risky for her. My cousin and his wife adopted because she takes medication to manage migraines and didn't want to go off it to get pregnant. And I'm friends with a couple who both agreed they want to be dog-parents, but not people-parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in their early 30s will feel some kind of biological imperative. Basic human nature. At this age point, you need to very upfront with partners if you don't ever want children.

Do any birth control methods override the biological imperative?

Spend time with children.

That works for most sane people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Are there any men out there that aren't interested in having children?

Almost every post here is about women having children with men who aren't aren't interested in having children.

They are also not interested in being loyal partner material.

[Anonymous]

One of my best friends (we are early 30s) is childfree and she says finding a childfree man is hard. I always thought that most men were neutral to positive on kids and only had them if their partner wanted them. But she says most men seem to want biological kids.

Your ex actually sounds crazy. If he entered the relationship with you knowing you were CF, he has no right to call you selfish for not changing your mind just bc he did. Like, I don't think he's a particularly bad person for changing his mind and deciding he wants kids, but he doesn't get to call you selfish for not doing the same.

Anyway. I sent my CF friend the link to this thread so maybe she'll chime in lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in their early 30s will feel some kind of biological imperative. Basic human nature. At this age point, you need to very upfront with partners if you don't ever want children.

Do any birth control methods override the biological imperative?

Spend time with children.

This is the answer.

I dated a guy who wanted kids until he spent time around my 3yo. Then he realized what he actually wanted was a cat.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we are out here. I’m one of them. I’m happy with my nephews and niece.

[Anonymous]

I knew when I was in grade school I didn't want kids. I now am old and never regretted not having kids.
I never wanted them or felt a baby clock, baby hunger, whatever. I was fertile. I had one abortion when my IUD failed. I used IUDs, then later in life spermicidal jellies. I never didn't use contraception.

DH didn't actively want kids when we met. He never changed. He often says he's glad we didn't. I told him early in the relationship. It was non-negotiable for me.

OP, good luck.