Adult sister on the spectrum

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got good grades up through HS and was also very well behaved and socially shy.

I didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until my early 40s and I can guarantee you it’s very real and looking back at my life, I definitely always had it. The fewer responsibilities you have, the easier it is to manage; that’s why people fall apart as they get older and start juggling work and kids and keeping a marriage together.

Do yourself and your sister a favor and put judgment aside for now and show empathy.

so you're supposed to sit through boring/unfulfilling social interactions because you're related?

obviously, everyone deserves respect and kindness. honestly though, i have never had deeply enriching relationships with neurodivergent individuals. it's pretty tough when socializing is so draining. they tend to interrupt you, not ask you questions about your life, "relate" to you by talking about themselves only, lack humor, etc.

sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got good grades up through HS and was also very well behaved and socially shy.

I didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until my early 40s and I can guarantee you it’s very real and looking back at my life, I definitely always had it. The fewer responsibilities you have, the easier it is to manage; that’s why people fall apart as they get older and start juggling work and kids and keeping a marriage together.

Do yourself and your sister a favor and put judgment aside for now and show empathy.

so you're supposed to sit through boring/unfulfilling social interactions because you're related?

obviously, everyone deserves respect and kindness. honestly though, i have never had deeply enriching relationships with neurodivergent individuals. it's pretty tough when socializing is so draining. they tend to interrupt you, not ask you questions about your life, "relate" to you by talking about themselves only, lack humor, etc.

sorry.

Ha. I know plenty of neurotypical people who are incredibly boring to talk to. They only want to talk about their travel plans or college football or their renovations. But neurodiverse people are the ones who are judged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got good grades up through HS and was also very well behaved and socially shy.

I didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until my early 40s and I can guarantee you it’s very real and looking back at my life, I definitely always had it. The fewer responsibilities you have, the easier it is to manage; that’s why people fall apart as they get older and start juggling work and kids and keeping a marriage together.

Do yourself and your sister a favor and put judgment aside for now and show empathy.

so you're supposed to sit through boring/unfulfilling social interactions because you're related?

obviously, everyone deserves respect and kindness. honestly though, i have never had deeply enriching relationships with neurodivergent individuals. it's pretty tough when socializing is so draining. they tend to interrupt you, not ask you questions about your life, "relate" to you by talking about themselves only, lack humor, etc.

sorry.

Ha. I know plenty of neurotypical people who are incredibly boring to talk to. They only want to talk about their travel plans or college football or their renovations. But neurodiverse people are the ones who are judged.

that's besides the point. of course there are boring neurotypical people, and i avoid such people too. but with NTs, the chances of having a fulfilling and stable friendship are much higher.

[Anonymous]

Adult siblings have no obligation to be close or even hang out together. Tell her to test her dd and then leave her alone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got good grades up through HS and was also very well behaved and socially shy.

I didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until my early 40s and I can guarantee you it’s very real and looking back at my life, I definitely always had it. The fewer responsibilities you have, the easier it is to manage; that’s why people fall apart as they get older and start juggling work and kids and keeping a marriage together.

Do yourself and your sister a favor and put judgment aside for now and show empathy.

so you're supposed to sit through boring/unfulfilling social interactions because you're related?

obviously, everyone deserves respect and kindness. honestly though, i have never had deeply enriching relationships with neurodivergent individuals. it's pretty tough when socializing is so draining. they tend to interrupt you, not ask you questions about your life, "relate" to you by talking about themselves only, lack humor, etc.

sorry.

Ha. I know plenty of neurotypical people who are incredibly boring to talk to. They only want to talk about their travel plans or college football or their renovations. But neurodiverse people are the ones who are judged.

that's besides the point. of course there are boring neurotypical people, and i avoid such people too. but with NTs, the chances of having a fulfilling and stable friendship are much higher.

It’s really not beside the point. All the things you claim ND people do are so common among NT people (talking about themselves, interrupting, etc.), but that behavior in NT people is seen as “normal.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got good grades up through HS and was also very well behaved and socially shy.

I didn’t get diagnosed with adhd until my early 40s and I can guarantee you it’s very real and looking back at my life, I definitely always had it. The fewer responsibilities you have, the easier it is to manage; that’s why people fall apart as they get older and start juggling work and kids and keeping a marriage together.

Do yourself and your sister a favor and put judgment aside for now and show empathy.

so you're supposed to sit through boring/unfulfilling social interactions because you're related?

obviously, everyone deserves respect and kindness. honestly though, i have never had deeply enriching relationships with neurodivergent individuals. it's pretty tough when socializing is so draining. they tend to interrupt you, not ask you questions about your life, "relate" to you by talking about themselves only, lack humor, etc.

sorry.

Ha. I know plenty of neurotypical people who are incredibly boring to talk to. They only want to talk about their travel plans or college football or their renovations. But neurodiverse people are the ones who are judged.

that's besides the point. of course there are boring neurotypical people, and i avoid such people too. but with NTs, the chances of having a fulfilling and stable friendship are much higher.

It’s really not beside the point. All the things you claim ND people do are so common among NT people (talking about themselves, interrupting, etc.), but that behavior in NT people is seen as “normal.”

+1

There’s some very ableist stuff in here. I’ll bet that PP drones on and on about the minutiae of her life because she thinks she’s so fascinating.