Daughter Wants to Stay for Summer, Wife Says No

[Anonymous]

Sir you married wrong.

I'm a stepdaughter. I spent ever single school break with my bonus mom and dad.

[Anonymous]

OP makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

This is why it's almost always a problem to remarry before your kids are adults. Your dd was part of the package when she married a man with minor children. Grow a pair and do right by your child.

[Anonymous]

Choose your daughter.

“Larla, Susie will be spending this summer with us before college. She will be here on June 5.”

Your second wife refuses to give you a reason why she doesn’t want her. If she divorces you over this better you know now than later.
There are decent women out there in the dating pool who will make room for your daughter. Your second wife knew that you had children when you got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she your wife’s biological daughter?

No, she’s not.

How is this even a question? Kids come first.

If my new spouse acted like this with my kids, I’d tell them to pack their bags and GTFO.

This is the right answer. You had the kid before you had the wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing this is a stepmom and dad doesn't parent her or do any work, historically. She's probably messy and does no chores and SM has to clean up after her and SD is probably rude to her. Dad thinks she's a little angel who causes no trouble but Dad doesn't actually help take care for her or clean up after her.

Then the stepmom can say all those things if they're true...

[Anonymous]

OP, your daughter s father is only YOU. And she is your biological daughter.

For you wife s husband, she can always get a new one and vise versa.

I d never let my new wife dictate my relationship with my biological daughter. Your wife is out of line. This is your home too . And a father s home should always be open to his child. ( except for extream circumstances such as child is harmful drug addicts violence, stealing parents etc)

[Anonymous]

My husbands own biological mother did not want us to live with them for two weeks in our 20s while our newly purchased fixer upper was being re-piped and re-wired. His father was apologetic but said “your mother just won’t be happy if you’re here that long.” I guess she would have been okay hosting just her son but still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a daughter who’ll be 18 on the 26th. She wants to spend the summer here before college. She’s responsible, respectful, and has never had any issues. My wife doesn’t want her staying but won’t give a reason. My daughter had huge birthday plans, isn’t unhappy now, very hurt, and has been crying a lot.

What’s the best way to handle this?

You left a lot out of your post.

What’s “Here”? You both are divorced and live far away from each other?

Where has the senior been living during high school? That should continue. Not one or the other or a boondoggle with friends the entire summer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's the stepmom troll posing as dad.

+1

Op is a troll and so are tons of sockpuppeting posts here. So lame.

[Anonymous]

OP has abandoned this thread like he abandoned his daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she your wife’s biological daughter?

No, she’s not.

How is this even a question? Kids come first.

If my new spouse acted like this with my kids, I’d tell them to pack their bags and GTFO.

Yup. Your wife is a horrible person. I’d divorce and kick her out and let your daughter stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am guessing this is a stepmom and dad doesn't parent her or do any work, historically. She's probably messy and does no chores and SM has to clean up after her and SD is probably rude to her. Dad thinks she's a little angel who causes no trouble but Dad doesn't actually help take care for her or clean up after her.

What a bizarre set of assumptions fully detached from reality. Wow. You might be projecting something happening in your own home, but please don't inject your main character syndrome into this with such fabulism and nasty assumptions about two people. This isn't typical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids come first.

Your new wife is unfortunately showing her colors a little later than would have been ideal.

But now you know what kind of person you married.

Sadly, for a lot of men, the kids do not come first.

Sadly, this is true for a lot of women.

While we're making generalizations, you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every stepmother comes with a stepfather.

Congrats OP, you have graduated from a father to a stepfather.