Daughter Wants to Stay for Summer, Wife Says No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she your wife’s biological daughter?

No, she’s not.

How is this even a question? Kids come first.

If my new spouse acted like this with my kids, I’d tell them to pack their bags and GTFO.

+1
Unless the kid is violent or steals or something, the SM is 100 percent out of line. If they make me pick, I'm picking my child. This woman is making OP pick.

[Anonymous]

Every stepmother comes with a stepfather.

Congrats OP, you have graduated from a father to a stepfather.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fake

I don’t get why this would be fake. I care for both my wife and daughter, and I’m not sure how to handle this with my wife. She needs to give a reason, but won’t.

You aren’t sure how to handle this? Just don’t be a p*ssy.
You are talking like a broken and weak man. Why are you letting your wife make the final decisions. You are the man. Act like one.

[Anonymous]

How old are you OP?

How old is your wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she your wife’s biological daughter?

No, she’s not.

Then it’s time for you to grow a pair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fake

I don’t get why this would be fake. I care for both my wife and daughter, and I’m not sure how to handle this with my wife. She needs to give a reason, but won’t.

You choose your child. Hands down

[Anonymous]

I say this as a stepmother: of COURSE your daughter stays with you. It is her home. If your wife has a problem with that, she doesn’t have to be your wife. But your daughter is always your daughter and she is not even in college yet!

My only exceptions: if she is physically abusive to your wife, a danger to any younger children, a drug user who is brining illegal substances or dangerous people into your home, or if she has stolen from your wife. Verbal disrespect would not be a disqualifier for eviction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fake

I don’t get why this would be fake. I care for both my wife and daughter, and I’m not sure how to handle this with my wife. She needs to give a reason, but won’t.

She does not owe you a reason? What has happened in the past? You clearly don’t have custody.

[Anonymous]

You still haven't described the situation, OP! How maddening.

Has your daughter been living with you all this while? And she's going to college in August, and presumably has much to prepare? Is your wife a recent acquisition? Where does she suggest her step-daughter go before moving to college? How is the relationship between these two women?

If you want advice, you're going to have to cough up a bit more info, bucko.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this as a stepmother: of COURSE your daughter stays with you. It is her home. If your wife has a problem with that, she doesn’t have to be your wife. But your daughter is always your daughter and she is not even in college yet!

My only exceptions: if she is physically abusive to your wife, a danger to any younger children, a drug user who is brining illegal substances or dangerous people into your home, or if she has stolen from your wife. Verbal disrespect would not be a disqualifier for eviction.

+1000. Unless your DD being in your home presents some sort of a safety issue similar to what PP mentions, a college-aged kid absolutely should be able to live at home during summer and other school breaks. Why is this even a question, OP?

[Anonymous]

I am guessing this is a stepmom and dad doesn't parent her or do any work, historically. She's probably messy and does no chores and SM has to clean up after her and SD is probably rude to her. Dad thinks she's a little angel who causes no trouble but Dad doesn't actually help take care for her or clean up after her.

[Anonymous]

We have been married for a few years. My daughter’s mom and I share custody, and my daughter decided that she wanted to stay here for the entire summer. Op

[Anonymous]

yup you pick your daughter. and divorce that selfish woman.

[Anonymous]

What does her mom (your ex-wife) say? I can’t imagine not living with my mom before going off to college!

[Anonymous]

Why does your daughter want to stay with you?

Does your daughter behave correctly in your home, ie, is reasonably polite to everyone living in the house, does a few chores, cleans up her mess and avoid perturbing other people's life, like not coming home at midnight and making a racket?