Teen has no social life

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Mine too but I just go with it. I make plans for us to do activities on the weekend together that I know my kid likes, like certain movies/events etc. Also little trips that dc likes, something to look forward to, go to professional sporting game etc. It's okay, watch Gilmore girls, mom and kid hang out all the time

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Anonymous wrote:Kids with happy homes have less active social lives.

This is very true.

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Also, stop looking to social media. This big group social mentality is sick.

My teen socializes in small doses and enjoys down time at home. They are happy and I believe well adjusted even though their social life doesn't resemble what you see on the socials

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Anonymous wrote:DD was similar. She just finished first year at college and it is night and day. She has made many friends and has an active social life. High school was rough - no primary friend group. Social at school but not outside of school. I was worried about college but she’s doing great!

I hope so. My 16yr old DD is incredibly lonely. Friendly with kids at school, but has no weekend social life and feels not valued by her classmates. We spend lots of time together.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine too but I just go with it. I make plans for us to do activities on the weekend together that I know my kid likes, like certain movies/events etc. Also little trips that dc likes, something to look forward to, go to professional sporting game etc. It's okay, watch Gilmore girls, mom and kid hang out all the time

It's not the same. They both had very active social lives. Rori dated and had friends and went out all of the time. It is absolutely not normal for a teen to not be with other teens. They need unstructured time. It doesn't have to parties or excessive gatherings. But being at home all the time having mommy plan your weekends is not ok.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids with happy homes have less active social lives.

This is absolutely not true.

Sometimes it is. All of my kids have at least one friend who cannot stand to be home. They call everyone they know until they get an invite and they will accept any invite rather than be home.

But there are so many other reasons. Some kids have had an overload of people at school and just want time to themselves. Some have social anxiety. Some have families with fun social lives and they prefer to be with them.

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Get a part time job

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Anonymous wrote:My teen is like this. Graduating this year. No proms, no homecomings, nada. DS seemed to be well-liked at school, but did not have a primary friend group. We try not to project as DS seems reasonably happy, but it keeps me up at night that he missed out on all the typical teen activities and I wonder where I went wrong in guiding him. I know other boys do this stuff because I hear about it from my friends, see photos on Instagram that hit my algorithm and see it with my own eyes when I am at school from time to time. Not gonna lie, it has been a very tough time. Parents who have not been through it really do not understand how hard it really is. Teaches you not to take anything for granted as this was not my own experience growing up and was not an issue with my older child. Hurts.

Hope it's okay that I'm commenting with a younger kid; I'm a mom to an 8th grade boy and he's (possibly) loosely part of a friend group but not part of the smaller more spontaneous "hangs" or group texts and had a really rough time with some school related activities where they needed to form small groups. He's not planning on doing some of the 8th grade activities because of not being part of a friend group. I'm hoping he finds more buddies in high school.