17 year old with no summer plans

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, she’s already took her SAT, so she’s finished with that. She will be starting her college apps. If she’s interested, she could do an online class or camp. She’s just quite introverted, so I didn’t know whether to actually make her do things outside of the house or not. OP

This response makes me think that OP is another troll.

But, if the OP is just actually dim-witted, I will remind them that they probably do not want their daughter living her life in a room in their house. Yes, OP, you need to tell your daughter that she needs to get a job this summer.

[Anonymous]

She needs to do something outside.

[Anonymous]

You realize that colleges ask what the applicants did every summer of high school?

She's not getting into any top tier college, OP, and may not get merit aid anywhere else.

Be prepared to pay full price. Laziness, yours and hers, is going to LITERALLY cost you an extra tens of thousands of dollars a year for her college education.

People like you don't seem to understand that achievements in high school, both academic and extra-curricular, equal less money spent on college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s a junior right now, she’ll be a senior in the fall. Her screen time during days off is 12hr, she’s addicted. She refuses to get a job. She doesn’t have a desire to spend money or buy anything, so that does contribute to this. OP

Then you have a bigger problem than having no summer plans. You have a kid with a digital addiction with no social life and aspirations. Maybe you can get some professional guidance on this.

Damn. Send her to a screen free summer camp?

[Anonymous]

No interest in a job? Are those optional in your house??

Jobs are so key. They are literally like the most appealing things on college apps for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I pushed my similar-minded teen to get a job, and I’m glad I did. She seems to be liking it (or at least tolerating it). I told her there’s no way she’s spending the summer in her room.

+1 as someone who did spend my entire 16 to 17 yr old summer in my room due to social issues, I 100% agree with what you did. It was an awful time for me. I think if I had worked, it wouldn't have felt so isolating.

My kids have all worked or taken fun courses at the community college.

[Anonymous]

OP, what is your DD interested in? What is she going to do in college and beyond?

Getting out of the house to do something everyday would be required in my house. It can be volunteering, a job, an interest that requires more time/focus - anything away from screens and the house. The house should be a sanctuary for an introvert, giving them a place to come back to.

I would also focus on what can be done for college applications - research schools, scholarships, majors. And then when the Common App opens on August 1, start working on any needed supplementals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 17 year old daughter has basically no plans for the summer and I’m trying to figure out what would actually be good for her. She’s very introverted, not especially social, and doesn’t really hang out with friends. Left to her own devices, she’ll probably spend most of the summer in her room on TikTok/X and online. She would never leave the house.

She also has no interest in getting a summer job like many kids her age. I guess she lags a bit in maturity because jobs feel too “adult” to her right now, even though she doesn’t really shop, go out, or do much typical teen stuff either. She’s a nice kid, just very content staying home and online.

For those with similar teens, what did they/will do? I just don’t know much to push her, because she might refuse to do anything.

All the more reason she needs on (bolded.) It's time for her to start growing up OP. And you need to push her, yes. Refusing to do anything is not an option.

You have some good suggestions here.

[Anonymous]

This summer is important.
Lay out the rules and expectations for her.

She must have at least a part time job. She must do something with physical exercise or put her in a sports class. She must research a plan for her future -college? Trade school? What’s the plan?

She must do things around the house/ give her a schedule. Like cook dinner for the family once a week. Or whatever other chores.

Maybe take a class.
She must do something volunteer also.

It’s your job to help her find these things and help her develop a plan and schedule.
There won’t be much time left for tik tok

[Anonymous]

Get a job as a camp counselor.

[Anonymous]

Job
Volunteer
Task w house errands