A number of my friends and acquaintances seem to be developing semi severe mental health issues as we age. Is it peri

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. It's also waking up from a 30 year slumber to realize you've spent your entire life people pleasing and fixing everything and you're 100 done.

Imagine feeling this way but also not whining about it.

NP. If PP indulged your rude suggestion not to whine, she’d still be people-pleasing, and she’s done with that.

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I think it’s middle age. I’ve seen this happen with a couple of my 50-something friends, including a male friend.

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They have always been this way but can't hide it any longer. Life was probably running pretty easy for them until now and they don't know how to handle.

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It's an issue with both men and women in middle age.

Coping behaviors used since one was a teen are no longer working or causing health issues, like drinking, smoking anything, do any drugs, eating disorders, excessive exercising to help mental health - a lot of this becomes hard to do once your body nears 50.

The significant shift in hormones for many women doesn't help either, I had lots and lots of rage, along with the hot flashes and loss of sleep, and could no longer binge eat to help placate myself becyweight kept piling on.

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Anonymous wrote:They have always been this way but can't hide it any longer. Life was probably running pretty easy for them until now and they don't know how to handle.

Don't think that's true for everyone. My life is the easiest now: more money in middle age, kids are grown, job is routine, no health issues physically. It's really more of a psychological and emotional shift than anything else.

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Sure peri adds to it but witches be crazy these days in general lots of unusual and selfish behavior after 2020 and while everyone seems to think things went back to normal they didn't and everything changed. I thought life after 9/11 changed it did but who knew after 2020 it would get so much worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Sure peri adds to it but witches be crazy these days in general lots of unusual and selfish behavior after 2020 and while everyone seems to think things went back to normal they didn't and everything changed. I thought life after 9/11 changed it did but who knew after 2020 it would get so much worse.

You would have to elaborate on what you mean.

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Anonymous wrote:Bravo for most misogynistic post of the day! 👏👏👏

No, we’re not falling for your “women are crazy” spiel. Even for women struggling in perimenopause. You might want to take a look in the mirror about how entrenched in the patriarchy you are. If these were friends of yours, you should ask them in private how they are and support them.

Do better.

I don’t think it’s misogynistic to acknowledge that the perimenopause years can really deeply affect your mental health.

I agree with you AND you can do that without blasting stories about crazy women and asking innocently if it’s “peri.” This isn’t a conversation. I bet OP is a man.

I’m a 49 year old woman and I disagree with you. The stories are sort of central to the question. We don’t know these people, it’s ok.

Okay, so let's hear how you're crazy. Please give us more shit to confirm that women in midlife are out of their minds. I'll wait for OP too. We're here to gawk.

I agree with your take and don’t think OP is well-intentioned at all. Come on, making fun of an anorexic for bone breaks?

That said, I’ve noticed some really v unpleasant changes in some of my post-meno acquaintances. I don’t know whether they are using HRT or if they ever have. One just got fired in humiliating fashion from a volunteer job, a cruel experience that at the same time is not surprising; she cannot let other people just be, and is always verbally accosting them with accusations about being wrong about this or that situation. I’ve witnessed in these cases (not everyone) a total inability to be emotionally balanced and introspective, to hold the tongue for a strategically opportune time. It scares the S out of me, that despite my seeing this and being on appropriate hrt for my symptoms under a doctors care, that ill wake up totally estranged from myself and then estrange myself further by how I act.

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I don’t see op making fun of anyone. Why can’t people post what they observe? I’ll admit I’m seeing it too.

So odd that everyone can see it in their friends and not in themselves. I’m sure you and OP are talking about each other. People don’t need to out their friends and obsess over their friends in peri for your amusement. Talk to your ACTUAL friends and your medical providers.

DP. This take is so crazy and I think you post this sentiment in one form or another a lot on DCUM. Essentially you seem to get enraged about anyone posting anything about their views/life/experiences that involve others, no matter how anonymous- paranoid trait??- and you demand people take their views offline… as you post online.

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Boomer panic and rage