39F: Wish List for a Husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 40-year-old man, and I meet all the requirements. I also make $4M per year in tech. Why would I want to get married when I can date multiple people at once? I plan to have a couple of children through surrogacy. Marriage is a losing proposition.

LMAO - why do surrogacy at all? Just be a sperm donor. Less trauma for the kids involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lmao

$200k puts an individual in the top 5%. Now halve that to get a rough estimate of men. 2.5% of all working aged men in the US earn $200k or more. Now exclude all men outside a reasonable age range. Now you're below 1% of all men. Now exclude unavailable men.

Have fun being single for thr rest of your life. You're trying to find a guy who is probably 0.01% of the entire male population.

Your income restriction is a nonstarter.

Math is hard, huh?

[Anonymous]

You forgot something important: a man who won’t let their family differences interfere with your marriage. ILs may not like their DIL for some reason, but it doesn’t mean they are allowed to discriminate against her and be disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You forgot something important: a man who won’t let his family differences interfere with your marriage. ILs may not like their DIL for some reason, but it doesn’t mean they are allowed to discriminate against her and be disrespectful.

^ his family. Corrected

[Anonymous]

You are disqualifying potentially great partners with the income requirement. My husband is a Fed and passionate about his job; he’s good at it and a devoted civil servant but his income is under 200k. That’s really the only thing that I would challenge on your list.

[Anonymous]

Something has to give.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 40-year-old man, and I meet all the requirements. I also make $4M per year in tech. Why would I want to get married when I can date multiple people at once? I plan to have a couple of children through surrogacy. Marriage is a losing proposition.

DP.

Yet most men your age are married... why would anyone take your opinion seriously?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Starting a family at 39? Girllllllll

I did. Had first kid at 38, second kid at 41. It's harder than doing it younger, but possible.

Don't be silly. You started at 38. OP is already 39. By the time she meets someone, gets to know them and begins trying, she will be 40/41. Would you advice your brother/ make friend who wants to have kids to start dating a 39 year old? It does not make any sense.

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy and so lucky that I found someone with lower standards.

I'd be curious about the numbers: How many unmarried, heterosexual men are there around that age? And what percentage of them meet these criteria? Is this a needle in the haystack situation?

But yes, of course, you should hold out for what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a 40-year-old man, and I meet all the requirements. I also make $4M per year in tech. Why would I want to get married when I can date multiple people at once? I plan to have a couple of children through surrogacy. Marriage is a losing proposition.

DP.

Yet most men your age are married... why would anyone take your opinion seriously?

Almost 50% of first marriage ended in divorce. Almost 67% of second marriage ended in divorce. Almost 75% of third marriage also ended in divorce. It gets worse if there are children involved. I'll keep my money and stay single. I'll leave that money to my own children through surrogacy. My life will be much happier that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 40-year-old man, and I meet all the requirements. I also make $4M per year in tech. Why would I want to get married when I can date multiple people at once? I plan to have a couple of children through surrogacy. Marriage is a losing proposition.

You are in tech sales right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 40-year-old man, and I meet all the requirements. I also make $4M per year in tech. Why would I want to get married when I can date multiple people at once? I plan to have a couple of children through surrogacy. Marriage is a losing proposition.

Do you read her OP?

- good character
- intelligence
- good income: 200k +
- Wants family and children
- Interested in health and wellness
- Makes me feel seen and understood
- Good attitude and mindset
- Wants to travel
- Emotional regulation
- Is ambitious and has goals and vision for our life
- Well educated
- Intentional dater who makes plans and follows through

[Anonymous]

At this point, this serial poster is just asking for it right in the title to be busted. Makes me wonder if it’s Jeff himself that’s trolling us, just for the fun of it.

[Anonymous]

Freeze your eggs asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a 40-year-old man, and I meet all the requirements. I also make $4M per year in tech. Why would I want to get married when I can date multiple people at once? I plan to have a couple of children through surrogacy. Marriage is a losing proposition.

DP.

Yet most men your age are married... why would anyone take your opinion seriously?

Almost 50% of first marriage ended in divorce. Almost 67% of second marriage ended in divorce. Almost 75% of third marriage also ended in divorce. It gets worse if there are children involved. I'll keep my money and stay single. I'll leave that money to my own children through surrogacy. My life will be much happier that way.

That's your opinion, and no one cares about it on this thread. Start yours. OP is looking for men who do want to get married.