39F: Wish List for a Husband

[Anonymous]

Get rid of the income bracket (women need to provide for themselves)

[Anonymous]

I think you’ve posted before and this is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit and beautiful recently divorced 39 year old woman. I am looking to marry again and am on the market and would like to be intentional. I have a full time job at a Fortune 500 company, I’m told I’m beautiful and look like I’m 32. I exercise, eat healthy and keep a beautiful home. I’m close to my family and love to travel and go to museums and the theatre. I’m a great cook and I love sex!

Here is what I’m looking for:

- good character
- intelligence
- good income: 200k +
- Wants family and children
- Interested in health and wellness
- Makes me feel seen and understood
- Good attitude and mindset
- Wants to travel
- Emotional regulation
- Is ambitious and has goals and vision for our life
- Well educated
- Intentional dater who makes plans and follows through

I don’t think I’m asking for too much as …I’m worth it.

lol so you're a secretary or low level admin.

[Anonymous]

All seems fine, but age is your biggest factor. There aren't a lot of wonderful guys who are in your age range who are single. It does happen, but there aren't many.

Whereas there are a gazillion attractive and accomplished women in their 30s looking for someone.

Supply and demand. At 40, the marrying and having children men long ago found someone. There really aren't a lot of men at this age point who never met someone, and suddenly decide to be the marrying kind.

[Anonymous]

I was not able to find everything on your list, but I am not beautiful, so I’m sure it will be easy for you to find everything on the list!

My DH makes much less than 200K. Other than the “wellness” part, he meets the other criteria. I’m not into wellness fads either, so it works for me!

[Anonymous]

What are you offering him, though? And you cannot include job, money, education, appearance, or sexual prowess in your answer. A man making that kind of money is in the top 2 percent of all men. He has options. Lots of them. So why would he pick a divorced 40 year old when he can have cute babies with a never married 26 year old who has no credit card or student debt and isn't jaded? Think like a man.

[Anonymous]

Ok this is a troll but I’ll bite. Everything here is reasonable except the wanting kids part since you’re 39, and being divorced also counts against you. At your age unless you get extremely lucky and the stars align, you’re going to need to find a sperm donor and possibly IVF to have kids. There aren’t going to be too many single good men your age who want to be fathers and don’t already have a family of their own. You might find some lower quality men and maybe some divorcees

[Anonymous]

If you want kids, have them now on your own. If you want a partner to travel and have fun with the you may find a 45 year old who wants to do that. Anyone with that income, desire for family and no kid of his own is not available.

[Anonymous]

To be realistic, finding, dating, committing, moving in, marrying, starting fertility treatments would take at least 3 years. After one divorce, you don't want to hastily walk into another bad marriage.

[Anonymous]

For the Op:
-Are you well groomed in all regions?
-Are you STD free?
-wine or beer?

[Anonymous]

Starting a family at 39? Girllllllll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Starting a family at 39? Girllllllll

Quite a few want this and some will get.

[Anonymous]

I think you're asking too much for 39.

-married 40 year old

[Anonymous]

If you are so great why are you divorced?

[Anonymous]

Men don't want to have kids with someone as old as you.