39F: Wish List for a Husband

[Anonymous]

Good luck with that sister.

Freeze your eggs just in case.

[Anonymous]

I’m 47. I’d be interested but I make nowhere near 200k. I recently had a fertility test done and it showed no age related decline, similar to a 20/30 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Starting a family at 39? Girllllllll

I did. Had first kid at 38, second kid at 41. It's harder than doing it younger, but possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit and beautiful recently divorced 39 year old woman. I am looking to marry again and am on the market and would like to be intentional. I have a full time job at a Fortune 500 company, I’m told I’m beautiful and look like I’m 32. I exercise, eat healthy and keep a beautiful home. I’m close to my family and love to travel and go to museums and the theatre. I’m a great cook and I love sex!

Here is what I’m looking for:

- good character
- intelligence
- good income: 200k +
- Wants family and children
- Interested in health and wellness
- Makes me feel seen and understood
- Good attitude and mindset
- Wants to travel
- Emotional regulation
- Is ambitious and has goals and vision for our life
- Well educated
- Intentional dater who makes plans and follows through

I don’t think I’m asking for too much as …I’m worth it.

I'm similar to you (along with having 2 kids) and it's pretty easy to find men who fit all this criteria. If age isn't an issue, I find most men who fit this are in their early to mid-30s (men 40+ tend to have kids already and are looking to have fun, not have more kids).

The only issue you'll have is filtering out the guys who want kids but don't realize you're on a time crunch. I'm upfront with men that I'm not wasting months casually dating, and I don't commit to one unless it's clear we're actually headed somewhere. The last thing you want is a guy to waste 12 months of your life.

[Anonymous]

Hate to say it but most men who meet this metric are already married or in a serious relationship. These are qualities you and every other woman that’s “worth it” look for. If someone falls into your lap that meets your requirements, I’d bet they are already attached. To someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Starting a family at 39? Girllllllll

I did. Had first kid at 38, second kid at 41. It's harder than doing it younger, but possible.

She's not in a relationship at 39. No way she's having kids before 42.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Starting a family at 39? Girllllllll

I did. Had first kid at 38, second kid at 41. It's harder than doing it younger, but possible.

So you started a family younger than the the op.

[Anonymous]

Lmao

$200k puts an individual in the top 5%. Now halve that to get a rough estimate of men. 2.5% of all working aged men in the US earn $200k or more. Now exclude all men outside a reasonable age range. Now you're below 1% of all men. Now exclude unavailable men.

Have fun being single for thr rest of your life. You're trying to find a guy who is probably 0.01% of the entire male population.

Your income restriction is a nonstarter.

[Anonymous]

Get rid of your list, that ain’t how it works, especially in the older age bracket.

Just look for someone who is kind, you get along with, and wants kids.

[Anonymous]

I think the income restriction may not be a problem if you live in certain cities like Manhattan, DC, San Francisco, etc.. Did you freeze your eggs when you were younger because then that wouldn't necessarily be an issue either.

[Anonymous]

She's not starting a family at 39. She hasn't even found someone. It's going to be years. Years and no fertility

[Anonymous]

Have fun. People who make lists like this are invariably effed up.

[Anonymous]

I am a 40-year-old man, and I meet all the requirements. I also make $4M per year in tech. Why would I want to get married when I can date multiple people at once? I plan to have a couple of children through surrogacy. Marriage is a losing proposition.

[Anonymous]

^ if you don't have the interpersonal skills to form a spousal relationship, you also don't have the skills to be a good father.

[Anonymous]

A female having children after 40 is not good