Why do people brag about their 7 year olds skiing blacks.

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We had a family visit us in park city from dmv. They were only here for a few days and their kids waved off offers of sunscreen because they wanted a raccoon tan to show off at home. And their parents, who are the life 360, no processed food types, were fine with it. I think skiing occupies a unique place for some families in that it represents wealth, privilege, and access to a certain lifestyle. I learned how to ski as an adult, and I always viewed skiing as a sport for really rich people. Now that I live in park city, I still consider it a sport for rich people, but some of the glamour is gone because it’s so accessible to me now.

Just from personal observations, there are many families who spend tens of thousands of dollars on vacation here while one or even both parents do not ski. I’m often meeting out of town friends for lunch or the spa because they don’t ski. But they want their kids to learn how to ski. I think that’s not as common with other activities.

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I think a lot of this is just perspective. When parents mention their kids skiing blacks, it’s usually pride in something their child worked up to. But almost any accomplishment can sound like bragging if someone is inclined to hear it that way. After all, someone else could just as easily say that mentioning a second home in Jackson or Breck or kids skiing since age 3 could sound like bragging too - it really depends on the listener.

I think it's more complex than this. Sometimes people are just proud. Sometimes they are proud AND being competitive. Sometimes they are not competitive at all but are being tone deaf or lacking in self awareness. It's really case by case. People with a lot of emotional intelligence will rarely be accused of bragging or competing because they will often just know how to read a room and adjust their conversation accordingly. The people who tend to annoy others and be accused of bragging may not truly be bragging, but they often lack self awareness and haven't made enough effort to think about how their comments will be received, they only think about how they will feel to say whatever it is they have to say.

If people put as much effort into self-awareness and learning to read a room (otherwise known as "manners") as they do into their kids' skiing lessons and earning enough to buy a second home in Jackson Hole, we'd have fewer threads like this. Alas, knowing how to talk to people is increasingly a lost art.

Can you explain to me what’s going on in this room that we’re reading where saying my kids ski blacks is such a brag that this room needs to be read.

You realize they’re not doing jumps with double backflips or skiing gates right?

A little kid on blacks just means they are small and they fall a shorter distance.

Tell me an eighty-year-old is on a black that’s impressive.

Why are you so defensive?

Some people may not be interested in your kid's skiing ability. Other people perhaps cannot afford ski trips, have unsporty kids who don't excel in sports, or just don't know enough about skiing to be able to converse on the subject beyond "oh, that's cool." If your goal is exclusively to make sure other people know about your vacation and your kid's skills, then you can talk to them however you want.

But if your goal is to connect with other people and have positive social interactions, you might want to edit a bit.

It is entirely up to you.

I'm not interested in your kids' ability at anything, honestly! But I will smile, nod my head in the appropriate way and act interested but inside I am rolling my eyes HARD and making a mental note about how annoying you are.

Why ask about someone’s vacation then not care? Just don’t ask.

I don't ask! But people brag about their kids all the time without being asked.
Oh, and a vacation? That I want to hear about. But about some little kid skiing??? Why would anyone other than Grandma even care?

You have complete strangers approach you and tell you about their kids?

Or

You have friends and any discussion about their kids drives you over the edge?

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Anonymous wrote:Some people can’t be on social media cause they just get jealous. They have to label people on social media as narcissist or vain or full of themselves because they just can’t in their own bodies resolved the conflict they have with being jealous..

Hearing about other people’s vacations is exactly the same way.

I remember my kids would get back from spring break and kids would tell all these stories about going to the Swiss Alps or Italy or Dubai or some insane place for vacation. Most of the time we went nowhere for spring break. In hindsight, it was kind of good for my kids to learn how to listen to these stories and be happy for their friends and not having any jealousy.

Sure did I wish we could do this things for our kids every single solitary spring break and summer and Christmas I guess maybe not really that sounds like a lot of work and jet lag.

But I’ve never listened to any of these stories and thought what is wrong with these people.

You're the best person. You have the best feelings. Everyone else is trash.

Someone needs to touch grass.

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It’s also kind of silly because there is a big difference in difficulty just based on conditions. A black that is powdery is not all that bad. An icy one is a whole other thing.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s suchhhhhh a probbbblemmmm. Thank goodness you were able to find a way to tell us about your Second Home in Jackson. Your kids are perfect, you are the perfect parent, and all those mean meanies who let their kids do different things are so horrrrrible!

Lolz

Why do people always have to mention their 2nd home?

Personally I’m very interested in OPs second home. Especially one she needs to fly to and then only uses a few weeks a year. OP, do you mind sharing what type of place it is and what your HHI or NW is? I’m trying to figure out when it becomes worth it to do something like that.

They likely rent it out the rest of the year. We do that with our beach house and it pays for itself.

HHI 650k, bought on a tech exit, we rent it out and it covers the mortgage. We put 30 percent down and use several weeks a year.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s also kind of silly because there is a big difference in difficulty just based on conditions. A black that is powdery is not all that bad. An icy one is a whole other thing.

Only plebs ski ice.

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For me it just feels dangerous. Skiing is a dangerous sport and I wouldn’t put a first or second grader who go 5 days a year during spring break on a black without an instructor. My kids ski several weeks a year since age 4 and I still think it’s worth waiting. No need to rush when you can have a serious injury and a blue is more enjoyable and fun for a child who is at an intermediate level.

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I spent 10 years in CO before moving to the DMV, and my husband is a CO native. Skiing is normal in CO and just what everyone does. It’s definitely a status symbol here, and people are a bit weird about it. People often ask us how good our kids are at skiing, and we are honest that they are pretty damn good! They learned to ski at Liberty and get one week out west every year. They’re fast, they’re agile and they are in control on the mountain. A lot of other kids skiing around here are not! Maybe that’s bragging, but we are impressed that they beat us down the mountain now. We also had friends that were Olympic hopefuls and ended up being lawyers, just like the rest of us. It’s all relative. I never put much stock in someone saying their kid went down a black. Was it a powder day on an easy black or an icy mogul/rock narrow shoot? Big difference, same bragging rights to the kids from the DMV.

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Anonymous wrote:This seems to be a thing in my social circle where the kids and parents are obsessive about skiing black or double black runs out West. My kids are competent skiers, have taken lessons and we ski several weeks a year (own a second home in Jackson) and we mostly do blues. I have 7 year old twins and I think it’s safer for this age. Skiing isn’t something I would push just to be able to say we do that.

oh the irony of this post

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Anonymous wrote:This seems to be a thing in my social circle where the kids and parents are obsessive about skiing black or double black runs out West. My kids are competent skiers, have taken lessons and we ski several weeks a year (own a second home in Jackson) and we mostly do blues. I have 7 year old twins and I think it’s safer for this age. Skiing isn’t something I would push just to be able to say we do that.

It's certainly advanced for the age so I can see why they'd brag from that angle, but I agree with you that I wouldn't feel comfortable with it in terms of safety.

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Anonymous wrote:Some people can’t be on social media cause they just get jealous. They have to label people on social media as narcissist or vain or full of themselves because they just can’t in their own bodies resolved the conflict they have with being jealous..

Hearing about other people’s vacations is exactly the same way.

I remember my kids would get back from spring break and kids would tell all these stories about going to the Swiss Alps or Italy or Dubai or some insane place for vacation. Most of the time we went nowhere for spring break. In hindsight, it was kind of good for my kids to learn how to listen to these stories and be happy for their friends and not having any jealousy.

Sure did I wish we could do this things for our kids every single solitary spring break and summer and Christmas I guess maybe not really that sounds like a lot of work and jet lag.

But I’ve never listened to any of these stories and thought what is wrong with these people.

You're the best person. You have the best feelings. Everyone else is trash.

Someone needs to touch grass.

youre a pathetic scrub

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Isn’t it easier for a wealthy midget to be able to do this . Doesn’t seem like a flex if parents have money access to skiing and kid is small

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Why do you care. Our child finally worked up to skiing a black and it's an accomplishment and they were proud of it. Should we all just pretend to downplay our children and their accomplishments to ensure equity

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you care. Our child finally worked up to skiing a black and it's an accomplishment and they were proud of it. Should we all just pretend to downplay our children and their accomplishments to ensure equity

This is pitch perfect in a thread about how DMV people are bragging about skiing as an intentional class tell. Chef's kiss.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you care. Our child finally worked up to skiing a black and it's an accomplishment and they were proud of it. Should we all just pretend to downplay our children and their accomplishments to ensure equity

Yes you entitled idiot