Why do people brag about their 7 year olds skiing blacks.

[Anonymous]

I’m not happy about my kids skiiing blacks but alas that is what they enjoy most… and moguls. I’m happily on greens and luckily my Colorado nephew can keep an eye on them but really they have phones and can call if something happens. Plus we have an app that tracks them on the slopes and we cross paths throughout the day.

I can really remember mentioning it … I might say to … how was skiiing? Oh good I just hang out on greens and groomed blues and the kids do their own thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s suchhhhhh a probbbblemmmm. Thank goodness you were able to find a way to tell us about your Second Home in Jackson. Your kids are perfect, you are the perfect parent, and all those mean meanies who let their kids do different things are so horrrrrible!

Lolz

Why do people always have to mention their 2nd home?

Personally I’m very interested in OPs second home. Especially one she needs to fly to and then only uses a few weeks a year. OP, do you mind sharing what type of place it is and what your HHI or NW is? I’m trying to figure out when it becomes worth it to do something like that.

[Anonymous]

Braggers gonna brag. Some people are just like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s suchhhhhh a probbbblemmmm. Thank goodness you were able to find a way to tell us about your Second Home in Jackson. Your kids are perfect, you are the perfect parent, and all those mean meanies who let their kids do different things are so horrrrrible!

Lolz

Why do people always have to mention their 2nd home?

Personally I’m very interested in OPs second home. Especially one she needs to fly to and then only uses a few weeks a year. OP, do you mind sharing what type of place it is and what your HHI or NW is? I’m trying to figure out when it becomes worth it to do something like that.

They likely rent it out the rest of the year. We do that with our beach house and it pays for itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not happy about my kids skiiing blacks but alas that is what they enjoy most… and moguls. I’m happily on greens and luckily my Colorado nephew can keep an eye on them but really they have phones and can call if something happens. Plus we have an app that tracks them on the slopes and we cross paths throughout the day.

I can really remember mentioning it … I might say to … how was skiiing? Oh good I just hang out on greens and groomed blues and the kids do their own thing.

Sure sure sure, you're combining your own self-deprecation but you know you say "kids are on the blacks all day LOL so crazy amirite?!!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion

I think a lot of this is just perspective. When parents mention their kids skiing blacks, it’s usually pride in something their child worked up to. But almost any accomplishment can sound like bragging if someone is inclined to hear it that way. After all, someone else could just as easily say that mentioning a second home in Jackson or Breck or kids skiing since age 3 could sound like bragging too - it really depends on the listener.

I think it's more complex than this. Sometimes people are just proud. Sometimes they are proud AND being competitive. Sometimes they are not competitive at all but are being tone deaf or lacking in self awareness. It's really case by case. People with a lot of emotional intelligence will rarely be accused of bragging or competing because they will often just know how to read a room and adjust their conversation accordingly. The people who tend to annoy others and be accused of bragging may not truly be bragging, but they often lack self awareness and haven't made enough effort to think about how their comments will be received, they only think about how they will feel to say whatever it is they have to say.

If people put as much effort into self-awareness and learning to read a room (otherwise known as "manners") as they do into their kids' skiing lessons and earning enough to buy a second home in Jackson Hole, we'd have fewer threads like this. Alas, knowing how to talk to people is increasingly a lost art.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems to be a thing in my social circle where the kids and parents are obsessive about skiing black or double black runs out West. My kids are competent skiers, have taken lessons and we ski several weeks a year (own a second home in Jackson) and we mostly do blues. I have 7 year old twins and I think it’s safer for this age. Skiing isn’t something I would push just to be able to say we do that.

How is it any different than bragging about your kid being advanced in school, making an 8U travel sportsball team or having the lead in the school musical.

Parents brag on their kids. It’s what they do.

Did you really need this explained to you? Are you slow or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion

I think a lot of this is just perspective. When parents mention their kids skiing blacks, it’s usually pride in something their child worked up to. But almost any accomplishment can sound like bragging if someone is inclined to hear it that way. After all, someone else could just as easily say that mentioning a second home in Jackson or Breck or kids skiing since age 3 could sound like bragging too - it really depends on the listener.

I think it's more complex than this. Sometimes people are just proud. Sometimes they are proud AND being competitive. Sometimes they are not competitive at all but are being tone deaf or lacking in self awareness. It's really case by case. People with a lot of emotional intelligence will rarely be accused of bragging or competing because they will often just know how to read a room and adjust their conversation accordingly. The people who tend to annoy others and be accused of bragging may not truly be bragging, but they often lack self awareness and haven't made enough effort to think about how their comments will be received, they only think about how they will feel to say whatever it is they have to say.

If people put as much effort into self-awareness and learning to read a room (otherwise known as "manners") as they do into their kids' skiing lessons and earning enough to buy a second home in Jackson Hole, we'd have fewer threads like this. Alas, knowing how to talk to people is increasingly a lost art.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not happy about my kids skiiing blacks but alas that is what they enjoy most… and moguls. I’m happily on greens and luckily my Colorado nephew can keep an eye on them but really they have phones and can call if something happens. Plus we have an app that tracks them on the slopes and we cross paths throughout the day.

I can really remember mentioning it … I might say to … how was skiiing? Oh good I just hang out on greens and groomed blues and the kids do their own thing.

Sure sure sure, you're combining your own self-deprecation but you know you say "kids are on the blacks all day LOL so crazy amirite?!!"

Yes I say the kids are on blacks I’m on greens and blue. It’s not self-depreciation… unless you think there’s something wrong with being on greens and blues.

So crazy you think green and blue are bad, amirite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion

I think a lot of this is just perspective. When parents mention their kids skiing blacks, it’s usually pride in something their child worked up to. But almost any accomplishment can sound like bragging if someone is inclined to hear it that way. After all, someone else could just as easily say that mentioning a second home in Jackson or Breck or kids skiing since age 3 could sound like bragging too - it really depends on the listener.

I think it's more complex than this. Sometimes people are just proud. Sometimes they are proud AND being competitive. Sometimes they are not competitive at all but are being tone deaf or lacking in self awareness. It's really case by case. People with a lot of emotional intelligence will rarely be accused of bragging or competing because they will often just know how to read a room and adjust their conversation accordingly. The people who tend to annoy others and be accused of bragging may not truly be bragging, but they often lack self awareness and haven't made enough effort to think about how their comments will be received, they only think about how they will feel to say whatever it is they have to say.

If people put as much effort into self-awareness and learning to read a room (otherwise known as "manners") as they do into their kids' skiing lessons and earning enough to buy a second home in Jackson Hole, we'd have fewer threads like this. Alas, knowing how to talk to people is increasingly a lost art.

Can you explain to me what’s going on in this room that we’re reading where saying my kids ski blacks is such a brag that this room needs to be read.

You realize they’re not doing jumps with double backflips or skiing gates right?

A little kid on blacks just means they are small and they fall a shorter distance.

Tell me an eighty-year-old is on a black that’s impressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems to be a thing in my social circle ...

Happy not to be in that social circle.

You do you. Why do you care what other people think?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If people put as much effort into self-awareness and learning to read a room (otherwise known as "manners") as they do into their kids' skiing lessons and earning enough to buy a second home in Jackson Hole, we'd have fewer threads like this. Alas, knowing how to talk to people is increasingly a lost art.

THIS. Iykyk but not everyone was raised this way. It seems regional and cultural. And I guess also now generational.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion

I think a lot of this is just perspective. When parents mention their kids skiing blacks, it’s usually pride in something their child worked up to. But almost any accomplishment can sound like bragging if someone is inclined to hear it that way. After all, someone else could just as easily say that mentioning a second home in Jackson or Breck or kids skiing since age 3 could sound like bragging too - it really depends on the listener.

I think it's more complex than this. Sometimes people are just proud. Sometimes they are proud AND being competitive. Sometimes they are not competitive at all but are being tone deaf or lacking in self awareness. It's really case by case. People with a lot of emotional intelligence will rarely be accused of bragging or competing because they will often just know how to read a room and adjust their conversation accordingly. The people who tend to annoy others and be accused of bragging may not truly be bragging, but they often lack self awareness and haven't made enough effort to think about how their comments will be received, they only think about how they will feel to say whatever it is they have to say.

If people put as much effort into self-awareness and learning to read a room (otherwise known as "manners") as they do into their kids' skiing lessons and earning enough to buy a second home in Jackson Hole, we'd have fewer threads like this. Alas, knowing how to talk to people is increasingly a lost art.

Can you explain to me what’s going on in this room that we’re reading where saying my kids ski blacks is such a brag that this room needs to be read.

You realize they’re not doing jumps with double backflips or skiing gates right?

A little kid on blacks just means they are small and they fall a shorter distance.

Tell me an eighty-year-old is on a black that’s impressive.

Why are you so defensive?

Some people may not be interested in your kid's skiing ability. Other people perhaps cannot afford ski trips, have unsporty kids who don't excel in sports, or just don't know enough about skiing to be able to converse on the subject beyond "oh, that's cool." If your goal is exclusively to make sure other people know about your vacation and your kid's skills, then you can talk to them however you want.

But if your goal is to connect with other people and have positive social interactions, you might want to edit a bit.

It is entirely up to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

If people put as much effort into self-awareness and learning to read a room (otherwise known as "manners") as they do into their kids' skiing lessons and earning enough to buy a second home in Jackson Hole, we'd have fewer threads like this. Alas, knowing how to talk to people is increasingly a lost art.

THIS. Iykyk but not everyone was raised this way. It seems regional and cultural. And I guess also now generational.

I do think it's cultural. It's this difference in outlook about what conversations are for. I've learned to let it go and just try to keep my interactions with people like this short. Often they just want to be told "oh wow, that's very impressive!" and then they have what they need and you can move on to someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s suchhhhhh a probbbblemmmm. Thank goodness you were able to find a way to tell us about your Second Home in Jackson. Your kids are perfect, you are the perfect parent, and all those mean meanies who let their kids do different things are so horrrrrible!

Lolz

Why do people always have to mention their 2nd home?

Personally I’m very interested in OPs second home. Especially one she needs to fly to and then only uses a few weeks a year. OP, do you mind sharing what type of place it is and what your HHI or NW is? I’m trying to figure out when it becomes worth it to do something like that.

I'm not OP, but in our mountain town, there are a surprising number of youngish families with ski homes, mostly from San Francisco and New York. Three out-of-state families fly in every weekend for ski team. They miss maybe one or two weekends a year, but all the other weekends they fly in Thursday or Friday night, fly back Sunday night after skiing all day. It's impressive. One of them has a home worth over $20m (looked it up because they hosted something for the kids). What is also common is for families to start out with a second home in the mountains, then realize they want to raise their family here full-time, so one of the parents commutes back to the city from Monday to Thursday, but the commutes become less frequent over time. Also, a lot of tech money in the mountains now.