Concerns/Dissuading attendance at a school w/a high stress reputation (jhu, cmu, cornell, uchicago, etc)

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Anonymous wrote:DD was considering an ED to Swat and I nudged towards Midd because I know my kid and how much she values outdoorsy, work hard play hard fun. I also didn’t think she could go from a pressure cooker high school to a “fun goes to die” college without risking burning out. Obviously it was her choice but I shared my thoughts openly and she’s so happy at her school.

I know another child headed to Swarthmore this year and think it’s truly the perfect fit for her, it’s so dependent on the person.


I'm so glad to hear this because I have a smart but low key outdoorsy kid heading to Midd!


When we toured, the guide said a lot of kids didn't leave the complex for the entire winter term, we didn't apply. They may play up the outdoors but I don't think that's the reality.
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Anonymous wrote:I think anyone applying to these schools is aware and to some extent it is overblown and a bit of a flex if you will. Some thrive on that environment, I think the ones that won't will weed themselves out from even applying. I am sure there are exceptions like your child's teammate, but most are going in knowing what they are getting.


This. Most there like being at challenging schools.
Truthfully all of the ones you mentioned are not at all what they were in the 90s. They have median GPAs around 3.65-3.75 these days, similar to most elites. Sure the average student works hard just as they do at other ivies/elites. The myth that somehow Brown kids coast with no grades and never do work but Cornell students grind away is just a myth. The vast majority of those at all T15/elite schools like to study and do a hundred other things, such as research, arts, club sports, volunteering. Some people thrive on being busy and almost compete on how many hours they devote to all of the various things including classes. They still have fun.
Admitted students should visit the schools and see for themselves. Or visit before applying. One can tell a lot just by the admissions sessions and tours.


Agree. Brown kids probably work harder than any of Chicago or Cornell or JHU kids, or at least just as hard. It’s a total myth. Lots of misinformation on this board.


Ditto the idea that Cornell & Chicago are endless grinds. My DC is at one and has lots of friends at the other. Yes, classes are hard, but there is lots of fun to be had as well.
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